Me? The Bridesmaid? No, sir, I'm just a guest...

No not your fault- and like your moh said its one of the things that happens when brides to go high street to get the dresses

Nice dress it's not something i would consider for a BM though

Oh well they were probably cold towards you because you looked better in it ?

Oh dear. Thats awful that they made YOU feel out in the cold about wearing the same dress. I would have tried to have a laugh about it personally. Its them (or the bride) that chose (in my opinion) not very bridesmaidy dresses to wear.

I always have a small jacket or shawl at weddings, as its VERY unlikely that someone with the same dress on would also have the same shawl. For my brothers wedding in a few months I have already enquired what colour the bridesmaids are in, so I'm not the same. I wouldnt do this for every wedding I go to though.

I did attend a cousins wedding in Australia & my MIL, who also flew out from UK for the wedding, wore the same dress as me!!! Its was a slightly different colour to mine & I had a small jacket. She is also a size 22 & I'm a 12, so luckily no one commented on them being the same.

Oh dear!!!!!

Totally not your fault in any way so I cant understand why they were cold towards you. How were you supposed to know?

Poor you, you must have felt a bit embarrassed.

xxx

I don't think the dress is very 'bridesmaidy'... it's gorgeous, but I wouldn't have expected to turn up to a wedding and see the BMs in it!

This is why I'm getting a bow (and possibly sash) put onto my girls' dresses... although they are 'high street' (from Asos) if I jazz them up a bit then even if someone comes in the same dress it won't matter as they'll still be different. I have 4 bridesmaids so refused to spend £100 per dress!

In response to everyone's posts, thanks, i feel better now. After all, I don't expect my guests to ring me and ask me what are the BMs wearing so that they don't wear the same! The dress IS NOT bridesmaid-y on purpose, apparently as the girls didn't like anything too clasically BM, also it went with the theme of the wedding which was black and white, New York City, very modern and minimalist...

Exactly WSS

My dresses are also from the high street and have already thought about what if someone else turns up in the same dress. Tbh it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, it's just one of those things that can't be helped. There are much more important things to worry about! x

It's not your fault at all,out of interest did you/they buy it in the last six months? I bought my bridesmaids from marks last November,the dresses were only in a massive marks and online and they were not available in any of their sales. I hope that no one wears the same dress.My youngest girls dress in still for sale in coast but it is white and really youngish so i am hoping no one wears it.

I am not sure when they bought theirs, but I had bought mine only a few weeks ago...Saw it on their website and then went to Debenhams to the Coast concession.

Ooopsie, Like you said though how were you to know. x

This is my worry too! We're going shopping on Saturday for BM dresses and I'm wondering if I should add a couple of proper bridal shops to the list of places to visit. I really want to keep costs down though with 4 (although it may be 3, watch this space) bridesmaids to buy for!

To be honest I think I'd have a bit of a laugh with it if someone wore the same dress as my BMs, and maybe make them help out with some things lol

It's hardly like you wore the same dress as the bride, sheesh, some people are so touchy!!!

I'm actively encouraging one of my friends to wear the same dress as my BMs - she's the only one out of my 7 uni friends that I would have wanted as BM but couldn't ask her without p***ing the others off so am letting her know what dresses I'm getting, it'll be hilarious on the day, I love it ?