Men being ill

So his family have travelled to visit and he's cancelled on them?

In a nutshell... they were visiting for a few days and staying at his dad's place, so I suppose the visit was really more for his dad than OH himself. But it would have been nice for me to meet them and we were going to give them their wedding invite tonight.

It's not just me is it? That's really bad form considering he was well enough to put in a full day's work.

Yeah I'd say that's pretty bad form unless he actually spews or has a temperature. Has he cancelled on social things because of "sickness" before?

My dad often gets "sick" just before a family event and has to stay home, it's driven my family mental for years because we all know he's at it. With my dad he usually does it when he's stressed out about something else and just doesn't cope with it very well.

He doesn't usually cancel, but he does eat a lot of crap and then spend ages moaning about feeling ill so I assumed this evening was another encore of him snacking on sweets all day then acting poorly and ruining our plans (has happened a fair few times since Xmas.)

Turns out he has actually spent the past few hours mega hurling, after only having the delicious soup and fruit I bought him for his lunch. *guilty face* just went out to buy him some anti-sickness pills. God I am a right big b!tch.

Note to self - must learn to have more sympathy and patience for sick people.

Don't feel too bad Pandora...it's like the boy who cried wolf!! ? That's the trouble with blokes...they say how ill they are and moan about being ill when we cope and do it differently, so that when they are *actually* ill, we get cross and don't believe them!

OH and I were supposed to go to London for my birthday, meal out and watch a show....but he woke up feeling ill, despite having been at work all week and working til 10pm the night before. I was in a foul mood allllll day and couldn't have any sympathy for him. He then felt guilty and took me out for a meal in the evening, then spent all night puking it back up.....yeah I felt bad ?

But as I said to him when he was better....boy who cried wolf ?

Hope your OH feels better though....will the family be at his dad's tomorrow? Maybe if OH is feeling up to it you could pop over in the morning for a cuppa?

He stayed at work as he works for himself, and probably wouldnt get paid if he wasnt there !

I bet you would also be moaning if he came home because he was ill and then at the end of the month you didnt have as much of his money to spend !

Chippers - Since it's not the 1950s I don't actually spend his money; I make my own and spend that. His money and sick pay is not my business, but he can work whatever hours he chooses so it makes no sense for him to work all day if he was that ill.

But yes, Loopz, definitely boy who cried wolf. Still feel guilty for assuming the worst though!

Been there, done that! OH is the biggest hypochondriac EVER. Every little tickle is 'the flu' and his imaginary symptoms regularly drive me insane. Last year OH was being particularly whingy, constantly telling me that his throat was sore/he felt ill/etc and was met with very little sympathy from me. In the end I snapped at him to go to the docs if he felt so rotten...only for him to do exactly that and discover that he had acute tonsillitis brought about by a very nasty virus. I still cringe when I think about how dismissive I was towards him before he dragged himself to the docs. Boy who cried wolf is exactly right, but he does get slightly more sympathy from me now when he claims to be ill, just in case it turns out he really is again!

I did my bit with the pills and rubbing his belly and so on, and am being rewarded this morning - he woke up full of beans and is making me eggy bread for brekkie!