Menswear etiquette help!

We did and I'm pretty sure every wedding I've been to had the FOG in a suit to match the rest of the men.

Not sure on traditional etiquette though.

We're not but we're not getting FOB either.

We have, don't know if it's etiquette or not but we wanted to include FOG. He wasn't all that fussed though. And I quote "I ain't wearing no bl00dy pink".

Unfortunatley we dont have a FOG. Not sure what the etiquette is? Not sure I would bother with FOG, only FOB as he is giving the bride away, FOG doesnt really 'do' anything in my opinion!

That made me chuckle... My dad was the exact same for my brothers wedding, needless to say he is!!

I was planning on asking OH to hire suits for himself, BM (x3), FOB, FOG and my brother. But he seems to think that's unnecessary. I'll be watching this thread with interest.

All the weddings we have been to the FOG got a suit so we have for ours too.

We're have done as I think it's a nice gesture.

I'm sure traditionally the FOG wouldn't have a suit, but in all the weddings I've been to (and that's a lot!), the FOG has matched the other men.

Thank you very much for all the replies! I think we will ask the FOG if he wants a suit - he didn't seem bothered but the step-mum of the groom (SMOG?) seemed really put out! Issue now is what to do with the invites - we were going for the invite from my parents, but now i think she's going to want to be included in that even though my folks are more involved and giving a significant financial contribution too!! UGH! I never got why people struggled so much with wedding politics ("it's your day" and all that jazz), but now i can totally understand!!!!

Thank you!! x

We are only doing it for groom and 2 best men, we are however buying cravats & hankies in our colour scheme for FOG and FOB but they will wear their own suits

There is no wedding etiquette indicating how the father of the bride or the father of the groom should dress. However, these men play an important part in the lives of their children and can be represented as so in the following ways:

Since he is an integral part of the wedding the father of the bride should consider dressing in the same formal attire as the groom and his attendants.

If the father of the groom doesn't have an active role in the wedding ceremony - for example he's not a groomsman - he can still dress in the same attire as the bride's father, groom and groomsman to symbolize his important role as the father of the groom.

(That's what I found online)

All the weddings I've been too the FOG is dressed the same as the FOB, the FOG might not have an essential role in the wedding day itself but he has had an essential part to play in the grooms life!

When I get married, I would hope my dad would be honored to wear the same suit as my groomsmen

Adam (Linda's Son)

Not sure about tradition but we are hiring for:

Groom

Best Men (x2)

Usher (x2)

FOG

FOB

Hi,

Regarding invites I always though that they came from either the bride & groom or from the brides parents. Never know them come from the grooms parents or even seen their name mentioned on invites tbh.

We have sent our own out even though my parents have contributed a large sum but they wanted the invites to come from us not them.

Originally budget wise we couldn't really afford a suit for the FOG and hadn't planned to buy him one although he was welcome to get himself one to match which did leave me feeling bad as FFIL and FMIL have given us money towards the wedding

Anyway luckily we only needed 4 suits but it was buy 4 get 1 free so he now gets a suit and isn't any the wiser we weren't going to get him one!

Which is also good because he would have been the only male member on the top table not in matching attire!

So not sure on ettiquette but if you can afford it and depending on your groomsmen/top table logistics it might be better to get him one!

ETA - Sorry OP just seen your update. With regard to the invites it usually depends on who is 'hosting' the wedding, i.e. paying for it! Have your FPILs contributed financially?

Traditionally, the bride's parents would pay and thus "host" the wedding, so the invitations came from them. These days, more and more couples are paying for their own weddings, so address the invitations from themselves. I've seen loads of grooms' parents' names on invitations. For ours, both sets of parents are contributing, but we've put the invitations from us "together with their parents".

Anyway, back to the OP, another suggestion would be to have both fathers in a similar, but not matching suit e.g. at OH's brother's wedding, the brothers weren't ushers. The groom, best man and ushers had tails, waistcoats and cravats, whereas the brothers and fathers had normal suits in the same colour and normal ties to match the cravats.

"(SMOG?)" ...?

Suits, we have hired, OH, BestMan, Son of Groom and my Brother as he is giving me away. No FOG or FOB. I think this is more about budgets.

Invites: I thought traditionally the Brides Parents pay for the reception and then the invites are from them, but if you are paying then they would be from you.