Messages from the 'otherside', would you pass one on? (quite long)

I really wouldn't. Not only because the cold reader was taking advantage of your good nature but you could reopen a whole lot of wounds.

If your neighbour believes in spiritualism then I would pass on the CD. Maybe just say that you were unsure of whether to pass it on in the first place but that you hope she does gain some comfort from it.

I would let it lie. If there is such a thing as a spirit world/ afterlife (which I don't personally believe, but let's imagine.....), then I am certain that spirits would be able to get through *somehow* to the person they want to get to, and not via a random neighbour or friend (especially one who is a cycnic). I would honestly let sleeping dogs lie. The harm you could do FAR exceeds any good that could come of this (and I personally bleieve that any 'comfort' derived from these things is artifical, gives false secxurity and actually hinders teh proper grieveing process and coming to terms with loss. You are very sweet and thoughtful though for giving it so much thought. ?

What Wifeylind said. I would pass it on.

I agree with Baron and LouM. Another thing that sprung to my mind would be that your neighbour could get very upset that her mother didn't come to her. I don't really believe in it but if someone came to me and said they had a message from my dad I'd be devestated.

Exactly what I was about to put.

Absolutely. I would also probably immediately put my house on the market. ?

An extremely good point.

I think i would suss it out first and then if she seems open to it, tell her , i wouldnt just blurt it out

crap or not i went to see one after my dad died as i was so upset that he died 3 weeks before tom was born and never got to see him , she told me he has seen him etc etc , i felt better for it even though i know its prob a load of old rubbish at the time it really helped me.

I agree.

Here's a scenario - what if this "medium" did a home visit to your neighbour's daughter at her mother's old house and happened to spot you in the garden? What if she's just feeding you all this in the hope that you'll pass it on and the daughter will pay her for a lot more readings in the future in the hope of direct contact with her mother?

I'm not saying this is what's happened, but you can't rule it out or a similar situation. I would say that however unlikely this kind of set up could be, it's a lot more likely than the dead speaking to you at a fair...

My MiL's sister had 'a reading' a couple of weeks ago, which included 'messages' from their father and has told MiL everything which was said. I have to admit there were some things in there that made an old cynic like me wonder (little things that couldn't possibly be known by an outsider) but it has (IMO) done more harm than good.

One example, when grandad died earlier this year, we turned his house upside down trying to find a set of house keys and 2 rings. On of the 'messages' was 'rings and keys are gone' so my MiL has interpreted this as they had been stolen from him. She is now upset at the thought of her father having been mugged/burgled. ☹️ It's the tenuous links/thoughts people come up with, leading to more harm than good.

I would leave it MrsKitty. I know you mean well and that your neighbour's daughter is a 'believer' but I think you could do more harm than good. ?

PS, I'm an old cynic but do believe if something like this gives people comfort, then that's fine. My problem comes when people like my MiL's sister share it with people like MiL who wasn't actually ready/open to hear things, it's not fair.

Perhaps you could just say hello to the neighbour and say something like - 'I am sure your wife will be looking down on you today - she would have loved to have seen the baby turn 1 woudn't she'.

then you can feel you 'passed it on' but without the heartache.

Maggie

Thank you all for the replies, they have been very helpful. Being a bit of a cynic, the obvious answer is just to bin it but I needed to ask the views of others, especially those who believe as I would feel awful if I did that knowing it could have been a bit of comfort to someone. I don't think it would be an issue that she 'came to me' as the family do treat me as one of the family. I just don't want to cause any more heart ache, so thank you all for the advice ?

I wouldn't pass the message on, as others have said, while you mean well it could do more harm than good. I'm also not sure about saying something like the above as that might just remind people she's not there IYKWIM?

I agree with Lou M. The damage it could cause and the chances of that are far greater than the help it could do and the chances of that. From what you've said the message was suitabley vague but with just enough lucky hits for you to put it in a context, that's all. If your neighbour's daughter believes in mediums she will go to see one herself (in fact if she believes she probably already is seeing one) and will get whatever comfort she can from that. If that's the case she doesn't need the CD. If she doesn't believe in mediums then she doesn't need the CD.

No, I wouldn't.

true, but if, as it says, shes lost her faith, maybe she hasn't been anywhere to get such a message passed on?

it's a toughie alright. i probably wouldn't pass it on because i'd worry my neighbour thought i was a loon. ? but if you're close and you think she would believe it and be comforted by it...

I agree with LouM, I wouldn't pass it on in case it did more harm than good. I think you had already decided that though, from your earlier post...

I would pass it on.

When my Grandma died my Mum took it really, really hard. Several months after she died my Mum had a dream where Grandma had come to her, told her she was still there etc. My Mum turned a corner after that.

Sometimes these things just help.

I would pass it on, because if someone had had a message for me from my Nan telling me that she would be there at my wedding I would have taken great comfort from it, as I was devestated that she missed it.