Just spoke to my MIL on the phone before passing her over to himself and had to vent. As I can't to him because I don't want to hurt his feelings.
She asked what we'd been up to so I told her about BMF yesterday and her very first comment was 'Yes, SIL and I were looking at the photos from last weekend and saying he REALLY needs to lose weight'.
Words cannot express how much I had to restrain myself at this point. It's a bit of a thing in their family that it's impossible to say anything nice about each other, lord only knows how MrSC learnt how to compliment me as it wasn't learnt at home. Yes, he does need to lose weight (as do I so no doubt they had been saying the same about me) but that's why we're going to BMF and frankly there was just no need for the comment. She's said it before to his face as well. She's also said to me before that SIL 'shouldn't have been born' in reference to the fact she had a m/c between the two of them - I understand what she's trying to say but honestly, if SIL has ever heard anything like that, and no doubt she has, it would explain her attitude and the fact that she's desperate to get away from her parents as soon as she can afford to.
Why can she not accept her children as they are and love them regardless, and give them a decent level of self-esteem like my parents managed to? Sometimes MrSC blows up at me because he perceives a criticism that I didn't intend and I'm sure it's a side effect from his relationship with MIL.
Sorry, rant over now - I just hope he isn't up there listening to this first hand ☹️
