Mildly Offended

MILDLY offended?! I'd be outraged. Bloody cheek.

The only thing I can think, is did he mean it as a (crap) joke?

He almost certainly did not mean it as a joke. He has sent me a couplkr of religion based emails previously, trying to get me to go along to their church. I have ignored these, despite the fact they read like Nigerian scam emails, because I don't want to fall out with the guy but the more I think about this one the more annoyed I get

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How odd and inappropriate. It sort of implies that you are looking to have an affair.

Unfortunately these evangelical types don't quite understand how offensive they can be to people who don't share their conservative view of the world. You could politely point that out but I'm not sure whether it would do any good.

I'd be more than mildly offended, I'd be furious. How inappropriate?!

Send one back asking that next time he waits ten seconds to consider if the email is going to offend someone before he clicks to send.

What a very odd thing to send to anyone.

I agree with sunset21- very odd indeed. Is there any reason why he would think it a suitable thing to send?

I get Care for the Family mailings and email newsletters and on the whole they are filled with really helpful articles about parenting/coping with debts/bereavement etc. Obviously from a christian perspective but not 'OTT' in general (although that one is a bit strong for me).

I wonder if maybe he sent the wrong link?

Very odd

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Actually, on reflection I think the article raises some extremely valid points. All of us could find ourselves in the situation below:

He’ll say something like, “You know, my wife doesn’t really understand me.” And she’ll reply, “I think I understand you.” Or she’ll say, “Peter never notices what I wear – he wouldn’t notice if I came out naked.” “I notice what you wear,” he’ll say. “That’s new, isn’t it?” And the following Friday, they’ll sleep together.

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PMSL at "the following Friday, they'll sleep together".

I'd be utterly fuming if someone sent me this. Lois, I'd be emailing him right back and telling him to de-frigging-sist.

What an odd thing to send a colleague! I think I'd be tempted to email him back and say he might want to check his email address list as he's clearly sent this to you in error!

Last week I told a female colleague that I liked her new haircut.

Is there any hope left for G&T and I - should I phone relate immediately ?

The fact that he only sent it to women makes my blood run cold.

Although PMSL at "little children" - that's only a half step from "ickle children" ?

By Friday, you'll know ?

All I am getting fomr that article is that I shouldn't make any attempt to be at all friendly with members of the opposite sex as, before we know, we will inevitably end up in bed together.

Clearly I come across as a wanton hussy at 7am on a Tuesday morning

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Just Tuesday mornings? I'm quite disappointed, I'd put you down for wanton hussiness on at least 3 days a week. Very slack ?

My wanton hussiness days are behind me. No, not behind me, non existent.

I think I will reply with 'I have found that my personality does the trick without me needing to put any thought into not having an affair'

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Send it back to him telling him "thanks for the guidance on lustful thoughts, but to be honest I just don't fancy you."

I'd be more than mildly offended if I recieved such an e-mail. How cheeky!

How come he's only sent it to women? Does he think women are the only ones who are at risk of having an affair? If so, who does he think they'll be having the affairs with?

I was in a situation at work where a colleague started telling me that his wife didn't understand him, and he spent more time with me than with his family... In that case, that was my clue to run away - run away very fast!

So I replied :

Please would you remove me from your mailing list? I found this email to be quite offensive.

regards

Lois the Slut

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It sounds like the kind of stuff which Johova Witnesses bring to the door. Could he be one and is trying to recruit? No idea why he'd send it to women only but it just read like something I was given as a teenager after a couple had talked to me for 30 mins on the doorstep trying to convince me that my parents were going to divorce...er, don't think so!

They gave up in the end but left the stuff to read, which I did a bit but with a heafty pinch of cynacism.

He isn't a JW, but he is trying to recruit for his church, which I think may meet at his house rather than an actual church

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I'm afraid i'd have to start mailing him compulsively with 'help' - seeing as he meant this so helpfullly, surely he would welcome it himself?

i'd be bombarding him with everything from AA (defeat your alcoholism, my evangelical friend) to help for paedophiles to distance themselves from children...

This is someone who has their own business, so I guess he can email what he wants, when he wants.

However, this was actually something forwarded to him with a note saying 'I think this is important information for anyone' and he has then forwarded it from himself and his wife, as a personal email. (With a link to his church).

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It means that (a) he has a problem that he is projecting onto everyone else and (b) he has no sense of what is appropriate behaviour.

I'd be offended to be sent a link like that too, because of the implications.

However, as for the article itself, of course not everyone does that, but he's trying to give an illustration of how an affair can start really innocently, and it's important to be on your guard against going too far. I'm mildly offended by all the slagging the article has got tbh - after all, it was Lois's client (?) who sent it, not a direct mailing from Care for the Family warning Lois off an affair.

And I thought this was going to be about you being offended at my funny dance.

Ha. What a tossbod. I would stay offended for quite a while if I were you.

? - yep, that's what I would do!

THat's just really odd - I don't get why he'd send it.

(BTW, I didn't mean to rate this 2 stars, I clicked on it by accident!)

From him AND his wife... so smug AND preachy - he sounds like a delight.

i don't see why you're even mildly offended tbh. i think the article is laughable too.

of course affairs generally start after innocent encounters, but the article reads that you can barely talk to a work colleague of the opposite sex without a steamy affair following. and why do i need to be 'on my guard?' how conceited do i have to be to think every man who ever speaks to me is planning on bumping uglies with me at some time in the future?

Good point Kieren, well expressed.

Also, if someone has an affair, surely that's their lookout? I don't see how or why it's any of anyone else's business?