MOB versus MOG Dress - Advice Needed!

Hmmmm coffee makes it sound like it could be more of a browny colour?

Pictures on the internet can be so deceiving so I'd be tempted to go to the shop to have a peek! I bought my bridesmaids dresses from Coast online (they looked a hot pink colour) and when they came they were blatantly purple and had to go back!

I didn't see your other post but it seems my opinion is different from the masses. I've told our mums they can wear whatever they want as long as it isn't the same colour as the bridesmaids. I think it would be quite cute if they turned up in the same colour! I understand you are probably more worried about your mum being peeved than anyone but maybe this is something you could ask her? My mum couldn't give two hoots if someone wore the same colour as her, or even the same dress for that matter! (as long as she looked better in it ?)

Sorry if this is no help!

They do look really similar but if the second one is called coffee then maybe in the flesh it is more of a browny colour. I know when I've ordered a couple of dresses online they look a different colour in reality. If they are the same though I would pretty miffed considering your fmil knew damn well what colour you mum is wearing. I would feel hurt on behalf of my mum. I would check with her politely first and if it's the same then explain that you/your mum are not happy about it and why the hell couldn't she pick a different colour?! Maybe put it more tactfully than that. My fmil rang me before she went shopping to check what colour my mum is wearing so they don't have the same, I think it's common courtesy.

My mother probably wouldn't even notice, TBH, but I'd be upset for her because as I'm her only child, this is the only wedding where she'll even get a chance to be the MOB. I want her to have her special day as well. (Not that MOG shouldn't feel special, but it always seems like MOB take priority?) But also, because I'm doing my BMs dresses as different dresses but within the same color family (not the same color, just different shades of the same color), I don't want it to look like I'm carrying that same theme through to the mothers.

Think it's good though, as you each suggest, to take a look, as you're right, internet can be very very deceiving.

I can completely understand. I told my FMIL the colour of my mums outfit and she went and bought an outfit in the same colour. Although I havent seen it as she refuses to show it me, claiming that she wants it to be a surpris eon the day?! Subsequently my mum has gone and ordered another outfit which is in a different colour so they wont class too much! I would say go and have a look at the outfit in the shop, and if you arent happy with it say something to her. She may have time to take it back. Dont leave it too late as she may not be able to do anything about it! However if she is as stubborn as my FMIL she wont take a blind bit of notice about what you say!!!

x

Although they look similar when placed side by side, when you click on the jacket, it looks more dark coffee coloured than the dress which looks quite amethyst looking so maybe in real life it is coffee so it wouldn't be a problem. As the others have said, maybe worth a look in the flesh so to speak but I think with completely different coloured accessories and the fact that they won't in theory be sat exactly next to each other, I think it would be OK. Annoying I know!

Aaah what does it matter?? As long as they are both happy, comfortable and gorgeous? I wouldn't care if all three of our 'mums' turned up in the same dress, it would be funny. I don't get what's so offensive about having a similar colour.

If they had brought the same dress I would be concerned but don't think wearing the same colour matters

I think it's quite nice if they are reasonably close, your pics will be well colour co-ordinated! You could sit with yout mum and FMIL and work out how you make them similar but keeping your mum's as the obviously more special one (maybe thorough the use of jewellery or hats?) ie. "FMIL DO NOT wear a big fancy hat as that's for MY MUM" :-)

Being honest, I dont think it matters. My mum wore an ivory/cream colour to my wedding (I wore an ivory dress, white made me look ill!) and MIL wore cream/white colour. It didn't matter, it wasn't the same outfit, they were both happy and comfortable (and had different coloured hats :lol: )

With everything you're planning for you wedding, really, what the heck are you doing worrying about this?! It doesn't matter what they wear so long as they're comfortable wearing it! I can almost understand getting upset if they wore ivory, or if they had bought the exact same dress, but if they're wearing similar colours? Who cares? No one at your wedding will, that's for sure, as they'll be focused on you and your groom.

If you get so worked up about the little things like this, you're going to drive yourself nuts!

I actually think it will look really nice if they are in similar colours...I also think it doesnt really matter at all as long as its not the exact same dress. But then to be honest I couldnt care what any of my guests choose to wear, my FMIL wants to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids, its no biggie!

Wait, has it actually happened where the mothers have chosen the SAME dress?!