MOH money issues...HUGE FIGHT PENDING!!

Err, I'd be telling her to jog on.

Thats ridiculous.

Tell her you've booked someone else because they are cheaper, end of.

I can't believe a 'friend' would do that to someone.

If it was me I'd be ditching her as a MOH and telling her she isn't invited to the wedding at all!

If she got upset and didn't speak to me I wouldn't care less, she doesn't sound like someone I'd ever want to be friends with anyway.

There wouldn't be any drama surrounding it for me - why would you not just get rid?

I don't think JoJo is being harsh.

This person is not your friend.

Forget looking for another make up artist. I'd be looking for another MOH. And another friend. You know, you don't have to have a MOH. Hell, you don't even have to have bridesmaids. I'd rather be alone than deal with this nonsense.

Also I forgot to say - don't bother fighting with her; people who don't care about you are not worth your energy.

I wouldn't be using her for the make up. Firstly if you hire a professional make up artist then they will bring their own make up. The Girls I see a lot also give you a trial and tell you what they are using so if you wanted to go out and buy the same lip gloss for example, then you can do touch ups during the day. You shouldn't have to buy the whole lot and then hand it over to the person doing it.

Ouch. I was surprised by her charging you, and them by how much, and to not include make up us rediculous! Even if she was a proffession thats still awful!

My hair is £25 and I'm just providing the head band. Shes been my mums hair dresser since I was small and even did my hair as a BM when 9, so are getting it cheaper. Then make up, I'm paying £45 including travel to us and travel to me on my hair trial. She did an amazing job and even lends us the make-up incase of any touch ups needed on the day!

Your 'friend' is just exploiting you!

This about sums up my thoughts only using politer wording !

Erm....

Only have who YOU want in your wedding party to start with. If you have other bridesmaids I don't see any need for a MOH at all?

I agree with others, I'd get rid of her from your life, not just your wedding?

So she is suggesting you'll effectively be pay £300+ for her to do your make up? Don't know why you even 'got her down' to £200. I am not a professional MA but have done my two of my friends' make up at their wedding, and have been delighted to do it for them, as they are my friends FFS.

OK so here is how it goes jog on my "friend" jog on...that is complete and unnecessary drama. BTW not sure she really is your friend and how do you ask to be MOH?? Isn't that up to you.

Steps

1) Find another make up artist and hairdresser, tell her as you hadn't heard from her you assumed she could no longer do it or as I would do tell her she is too much drama so you no longer need her to help with that. i.e. thanks but no thanks

2) Sack the MOH

3) Start smiling as you do your wedding planning again...end of

I would definately sack off the MOH! Some friend she is, as if you dont have enough to deal with

Oh MY how MUCH! Ok mine is £35 for the trial (and that is as many trials as i like leading up to the actual day) and £65 on the day including all her travel and make up. She also does a package for 4 people including trials and on the day make up for £220.

£200 is a JOKE! and worse that you need to buy your own make up..... Jog on yep!

I have 3 of my best friends coming to my wedding, not one of them has asked to MoH nor asked for payment when they offered their services for hair, makeup and general dogs body. I am paying for them to stay at the hotel as a thank you. If my MoH asked for payment I think that I would have to have 'the' conversation....thanks but no thanks.

I would tell her to jog on and close the door on the way out!

Being a bridesmaid/MOH is an honour and not a job you're paid for. If mine asked for money I'd tell her where to go!!

I'm shocked you still call her a friend. She certainly isn't acting like one.

If you don't want to get rid of her entirely maybe explain to her how this is putting a strain on your friendship so you've found someone who is cheaper and will also mean she can just enjoy the day as your guest and not staff ;-)!

Thank you all for your replies. I just dont know why i feel bad. Im so used to being last and thinking of others first.

I know i have to speak to her but how to go about it without me feeling awful is the issue. Am just wayyy to nice hence why i get walked over...☹️

You could give her a choice and state that if she wanted to do your hair and make up that was fine but it may spoil her experience of the day as she won't be able to relax as your MoH and that would make you feel bad. Something along those lines? You may have to forceful in stating that she can do one thing or the other but NOT both.

Don't be afraid to offend her cos she's definitely taking you for a ride, you owe her nothing, it's not right what she's doing!

Ok I will message her now sayin that I dont think it is a good idea she does both makeup and be MOH as she wont enjoy it. So i will look for some1 else to do the hair and makeup.

Il let u know what happens next..

That is one of the most riduclous wedding stories I have ever heard. Do not be taken advantage of Ola. Just tell her no. She is trying to take money from you and your hubby-to-be. Do not allow it. She is not your friend.

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I have my fingers crossed that all goes well..

Like I said. I texted her and her reply was 'I saw this coming' its cool, its up to you want you want to do.

I said- You are being passive agressive and I feel ur treating me as a client rather than friend.

Why do I have to decide. It just shows that she would rather have the money. What the hell does that mean.

Yeah but the price isn't right for a non pro (and friend!).

I paid £200 for my hair and makeup inc trial but that was for a pro. And I didn't have to provide my own makeup.

I would of text back thanks for understanding....Ola xx

Otherwise you may enter into another level of conversation..The main aim is to limit the drama.

And then make the choice for her and then it's whatever you want it to be. I understand Kharv's p.o.v I admit I don't know how much it costs but its what level of involvement you wish her to have now.

I also am paying £200.00 for my hair and make up but again that's a qualified professional and I'm not buying the make up!! Plus I get a free lippy!!

I'm paying £65 for my makeup including trial and £35 for my hair including trial.

My hair and make up was £200 for me and 3 bridesmaids... ?

Well she has offered to do it for free but I dont think she wants to. This is because I had said to her to do the makeup as a wedding present and her reply "i cant believe ur asking me this". She keeps pointing out that I need to choose what I want. I dont know what to say to her..