Moments of clarity!

Absolutely. I was a complete stresshead before the wedding as I am not good at general planning, organisation and admin!

And I was crying and whinging at hubby for making me to a proper dance rountine....

Then my little bro got knocked off his motorbike the day before the wedding. He was ok, just very bruised and injured hand, but really realised what could have been.

Ha I did tell him he was selfish for the timing and almost ruining my wedding :o)

Was busy trying on my dress, tasting canapés, making orders of service. And then the phone rang, my son is in hospital with suspected apendicitis. Moment of clarity, TICK.

My MIL was diagnosed with a brain tumour a couple of months before our wedding. We had a few emergency hospital admissions. She had a stroke the day before. We had several moments of clarity. I hope yours is going to be OK.

I remember talking with my now SIL a few weeks before, that none of the wedding sh*t mattered. All that time I spent on f*ucking cake and nonsense, just frivolity. It's about friends and family and you two. Nothing else.

Absolutely. Very very recently. My OH went to a friend's flat the other night for dinner, I should mention that this friend has within the last eight weeks lost his own wife to cancer (they had a quick wedding as she was very sick). The night they had dinner I took time to do some little bits of wedding planning and worrying about little bits that may or may not come together. Got frustrated, saved the spreadsheet and went to bed. When OH got home he came in to see me and I thought he was going to cry, which is unusual for him. He didn't - but he leaned over, held me and told me that he loved me. When he got into bed I could tell he was really affected by going out to dinner. Our friend confessed that he sometimes spoke into the empty flat, though out of respect for him I won't mention what he says. He's also getting a lot of mail about what to do with her pension plan, legal stuff regarding the flat etc. Some of his friends don't hang out with him any more as they don't know what to say or do. It's so so so tragic. It made me appreciate the hell out of my OH and it made him appreciate the hell out of me too. All the planning 'stress' went. Whenever I feel myself start to stress about it again I just remind myself of our friend and it puts things straight back into perspective.

We have been so lucky that nothing awful has happened to us, but I was fretting over the venue and how far it was for people to travel to hubby to be and he went all quiet and sulky. About to pick a fight, I said would he rather no one was around to see us, and he said yes. He'd decided on the church because he knew how much it meant to me and no where else would do, so people would have to travel there.

That was my moment. That despite the fact he doesn't believe or have a care for religion, he has chosen to do that for me becuase the church is where as a child we went to with the family & we got my girls christened there.

Little things.