Moody :( (BT ref and I am a a bit of spoilt brat)

What else did she get?

Sent you a message on FB Tricks. I don't want to put it on here in case someone clocks it and would know exactly who i am/she is.

How does the collection work? is there a suggested amount or up t o the individual? is there more people in her team? could her direct boss has put a large sum in? just trying to help you feel better...

It's just whoever wants to contribute and however much they want.

As Carole said is she in a large team? For example some of our departments literally have 2 people whereas others have 8 or so so you may expect someone in the team of 8 to have a bigger collection because their direct colleagues may put more in? I know I would

Oh that would make me feel poop. It's lovely that you got what you did, but seeing someone else get so much more can't be very nice.

Hmm, maybe. Not so much the team thing but that she is probably in touch with more people throughout the company than I am.

Aww Panj ☹️ Where we work the collection organiser will buy a bunch of flowers and hand it over along with an appropriate voucher (e.g. Mothercare, John Lewis etc). So nobody except the organiser and recipient knows exactly how much people gave.

I can understand you feeling upset lovely but try not to think about it. You don't know why she got so much, could be her boss putting most in.

Oh that is crappypants!

Could it be the person doing the collection (was it your boss?) just didnt put much effort into it going desk to desk, etc??

I'd be very miffed. But not as miffed as I would be if I were on the receiving end of the 'special' present ?

I'd be pissy too. I don't think you're being a spoilt brat at all!

It was worse at my place - I didn't get anything because I didn't organise it! But everyone else had lovely gifts because I made a fuss of them. I haven't since. But £120 is a huuuuuuuuuuuuugggggggggge amount? But I'd still feel gutted?

Tbh I think £120 and a bouquet is a pretty awesome going-on-mat-leave gift to start with.

I probably would be a bit upset that this other girl got so much more, but it's not a reason to be cross either at her or at everyone else. There could be all sorts of reasons - did her manager/boss put in a big wodge? Have Christmas bonuses just been paid? Is everyone just feeling more generous because it's Christmas? (I can't remember what time of year you went on ML) Was her collection organiser a bit more pushy?

I can see why you'd feel miffed but I don't think it's worth taking as a personal grievance.

Who does the collecting? In my work if I went off I'd not get much as I know the person who'd collect would be very polite to people about it- but we had someone leave today to go on mat leave and she got £470, plus flowers and pressies. The person who collected for her just bullied money out of people!

I can understand why you're a bit miffed. £500 plus extras is an obscene amount though! I'd be embarrassed to receive that.

It would make me feel a bit crap but if she knows more people/is more popular/whatever, then it's not actually her fault that she received such generous gifts? You were extremely fortunate to receive what you did.

I'd probably be a bit narked but a lot of it comes down to working relationships etc. We have 3 due to go on mat leave in March. One is on my little pod at and we have lunch etc together and help each other out, I will put more in to her collection and would probably buy an individual gift too. One I chat to but don't know that well so I'll put a bit into her collection only. The other I don't think has said 2 words to me since I started in August. If I happen to have a couple of quid in my purse when her envelope comes round then I'll pop it in, if I don't then I won't be rushing to the bank.

Hey ladies, I'm not pissed off with anyone nor do begrudge the lady who got the things. She deserved everything she got, I think I was just musing over why I didn't deserve the same. It just made me feel a bit second class. On my last day, I was kind of ushered out with a few kisses. Friday was like a big party with cake and drinks and a big speech from her boss and a speech from her. I think maybe it is down to the time of year too.