Mothers!

Show her a pic, it will probably help. I've only told a few about my caper but have showed them a pic of it, that way they don't imagine an old, rusty white tranny type camper haha!

Oh you poor think, I think everyone will have had a similar experience with family members.

I don't want a tiara, but oh no mum says I'll look like an idiot without! Oh what we go through!

Sometimes you would think it is their Wedding Pfft!

My mam was evil at the begining, but at the 1 year to go mark she changed, and my MIL2B is now hell personified, so I hate to tell you this but you'll just have to throw a totally over the top bridezilla paddy and just book the camper and tell her after ? its so much harder for them to complain if you've already made the decision lol

Some mothers truly are nightmares combine that with MIL and joy!!!! i think just gently remind people that it is your and your OH wedding and therefore your choice!!!



Gawd I am sooooo lucky as my Mum is amazing, and totally ‘gets’ the feel that we are trying to create for the wedding and is happy to help in nay way….MILTB on the other hand…well let us just say that at this stage she is not actually invited to the wedding!!

He he I'm the same!

My Mum is tring to convince that a side tiara won't suit my hair/dress/style of the day where it would. She just wants me to wear a bling bling tiara and I don't want one!!

Oh and when I said I'm walking up the aisle to At last - etta James......her response was "It's a bit of a fast song to be walking up the aisle to, you'll be practically speed walking" btw I was playing it to her at the time so there was no chance she could have mistaken the song for something else!

Had something similar with my mum friday.....

Mother: 'you know the mother of the bride traditionally goes to the ceremoney with the bridemaids dont you, so il have to come here with your father and go with the girls...'

Moi: 'maybe back in the day, but id like you at venue greeting everyone and making sure everyone knows where they are going, plus we'l need an extra car if you go with them, theres enough seats ina normal car for my BMs and we cant afford 3 cars!'

Mother: 'well, i think itl look terrible on the family if you dont follow tradition....the fact you dont have a BM from OUR side of the family is bad enough!!'

EFF OFF WOMEN

Hee hee she sounds like Bridgette Jones's mother! Bless them, they are all the same and don't seem to have a stop between brain and gob and just come out with stuff.

Luckily my Mum is fantastic and is right on the same wavelength as me. We like to irritate my OH by going on and on and on about stuff we like when we know it bores him to tears haha!

Lol i have no issue with my mum but my dad keeps having a winge about the vintage car we have booked for the bridal car, moaning about how hes going to have a sore bum and bang his head on the roof ( we're only traveling at most 25 mins), this is it below! lol parents are mental! He says can i not have a 'fancy car' like a merc or Jag :/

I had exactly the same thing from both my mother and sister when it came to my camper van - your dress wont look nice, it'll detract from your day etc etc.... but it the end both me and OH loved the camper so we booked paid deposit and dealt with the comments for a few weeks... they died down eventually!

I love that everyone seems too start by saying - it's your wedding you must do what you want... sadly this seems to change when you say what you want and you get a response such as... I wouldn't do that... really??? or my favourite from my mum "if you do that you'll completely ruin the look of your day" - bless her.... love her to bits though :o)

My mum has always told me since I was a little girl that when I get married it's up to me what I do - when her and my dad got married my dad's parents paid for most of it and invited who they wanted etc and there are people on my parents wedding photos that she still doesn't recognise even now 30 years later!

OH's parents are slightly different lol

They want us to have our day and keep saying 'well, we don't want you to think we're interfering' but I know they're disappointed with a lot of our choices so far. SIL2B got married last year and they got to do the big wedding and be the wonderful hosts etc so I know our wedding will be compared to theirs but I also know that our wedding will be EXACTLY what OH and I want - nobody will force us to make any decisions we don't want to and we'll have a brilliant time.

Everyone else will have a brilliant time on the day too, it just won't be as expensive as the brilliant time we all had last year lol

I kind of wish my mum and dad cared enough to comment on things. If not even that they disapprove of the wedding it's just they do not care. It makes no impact on their lives so they just aren't bothered. I'm trying to involve them but it's just making me more upset that they can't see how much it means to me. Ironically we're also buying a house and they have an opinion on everything to do with that so it's clearly just the wedding they aren't bothered about.

MIL2B on the other hand is the typical "well it's your wedding..." to everything we suggest. She organised all of her daughter's wedding and wants this one to be done her way too. It's not happening though because it is our wedding and we will do it our way.

Grr...

So far I have faired pretty well as mum hasn't yet really interfeered, although she did come pretty close when I explaind what OH would be wearing. In her humble opinion it wasn't "formal enough!". We are both 2nd time round and it's a pretty small do, not Westminster Cathedral! As for MIL, well I won't have one - secretly rather relieved of that - naughty I know but honest! My previous marriage was fifteen years of battle with MIL phew, thankgod she's history.

I'm in a similar situation to mrsb2b2011 - absolutely no one is interested in helping me plan! I don't know if it's because march 2012 is ages away or what. But my mu Doesn't ask any questions about how I'm getting on and if I mention it and ask her something she just shrugs her shoulders!

My mum passed away 7 years ago and I would give anything for her to be interfering!

I wish I had someone who could get as excited about the little bits like I do.

My dad, is still in shock I want a big wedding.

Whilst my MILTB is really kind, she doesn't want to get involved in the planning.

OH is now bored of wedding stuff!!

My aunt who would have helped and who I have been really close to since my mum died, has fallen out with ne. She is angry I haven;t asked her grandaughter to be a bridesmaid. Apparently I promised when I was 5, 32 years ago!!!!!!

Im so sorry I know I'm not suppose to laugh but I love what you've written "I DO NOT WANT A "LOVELY" ROLLS ROYCE MUM! I AM NOT JEANS DAUGHTER! I WANT A CAMPER VAN!" I work with someone called Jean whos daughter just got married and it was so over the top not sure if they had a rolls tho (Im sure its not connected!!!) ?

I grew up with a campervan as my parents mode of transport so I love the idea and I'd have one if we werent just in one venue!

Good luck Im sure you'll be fine just text her what you told us!!!

Ah just try being a bloke, nobody in the world seems to believe I could/should have anything to do with organising a wedding! I just don't think most of them have twigged that working in the business means we have a pretty darned good idea of will and wont work for us.

I know what you mean. Suffice it to say, I deeply envy those of you brave enough stand up to anyone who tries to make you change your plans. ?

I'm normally just a lurker on here, but this thread struck such a chord I had to reply!!

My mum, bless her, rowed wth my grandma all the way through her wedding plans - they paid for the reception so they took control. My mum has been so clear from the offset that she wanted our wedding to be all about us, what we wanted....but isn't it funny how as soon as you mention something they don't love, or quite get, how much they suddenly interfere!! lol

The biggest thing my fiance and I have in common is music - we go to festivals, gigs, and are very proud of our CD collection - so we want music themed tables based on venues we've been to and the acts we saw there....

started to explain this to Mum, and she dismissed the idea completely and said I should have musical instrument themed tables instead! considering we mainly listen to indie, short of guitars and drums god knows what we'd do.

then she went on and on about a wedding that had inflatable guitars, saxaphones etc as centrepieces - then the guests danced with them at the reception, pretending to play these inflatable brightly coloured instruments....i genuinely couldn't think of anything tackier or more hideous, but she went on and on about how funny it all was and how it would be really fun.

needless to say i'm now avoiding discussing centrepieces!

Very early on in the planning proecess I suggested something and my mum said "well, if it was my wedding i would..." and I just stoped her and said "i appreciate that mum, but its not is it, its mine"

since then she has been very well behaved!

she very kindly offered to pay the venue costs so I have asked her opinion on anything related to that as i think its fair if she is paying, she should get a say, but luckily, that hasnt caused any arguments!

Not any help at all but for some reason i know have an image of your mum being Bridget Jones' mum , sieve the gravy Una

Sorry no offence meant dont know what made me think of it!

StupidLamb if you imagine her crossed with Hyacinth Bucket you are kinda there!

Bless her, wouldnt change her for the world but she is bonkers!!