Mum getting on my nerves!

First off, I like the idea, it's simple but looks really pretty, what colour are your flowers?

2nd I know what you mean about your mum, mine has pretty much been against everything we're doing.

I've learned not to show her anything or have her there when I buy anything.

The only thing she has agreed on was my dress and our venue!

Everything else has been: why are you having that?, that looks stupid, you should have this, so and so had this at their wedding.

It's OUR wedding no one elses!! Weddings need to be individual and suited to each couple!

Just don't ask for her opinion and do it all yourself, that's what I'm doing.

Be strong! :-)

Have you got to share it with your Mum?

I've not really shared very much of our day with anyone - because I feel too many opinions spoil the broth.

I've consulted OH and thats about it, so our day will be what we want, and we have had no interferences.

Yep my point exactly.

The only people that know about our cake is oh side of family cos his grandparents are paying, so they have seen our plans.

And my mum has seen dress/ bm dresses/ invites/ and a few decos, but have stopped showing her and don't pay attention to her opinions now, lol

Bms have seen their outfits and that's it!

Everything else is a surprise to everyone, no one knows it's a Halloween theme, although the invites may be a slight giveaway, but no one knows what to expect!

It's difficult at the moment because we are living in the same house so anything I but se has access to... As much as she gets on my nerves I also don't want to exclude her! I'm a only child she'll only get to do this fun and while its my wedding I feel it's unfair to no include her! But my days does she have to try my patience... Who knew this would be so hard!

It's difficult at the moment because we are living in the same house so anything I but se has access to... As much as she gets on my nerves I also don't want to exclude her! I'm a only child she'll only get to do this fun and while its my wedding I feel it's unfair to no include her! But my days does she have to try my patience... Who knew this would be so hard!

My mum is the same, full of the weddings of her friends' children and critical of mine. Her favourite phrase when I tell her an idea is hmmm. I just listen to her suggestions and say they sound nice and do exactly as I want. I think it's a generational thing their idea of a wedding is so different to ours.

OH keeps saying she will love it all on the day when she sees it all together, and I'm sure your mum will too.

Just be really simple and clear - its your wedding, and you want your ideas...

you can listen, but just say, thanks, I appreciate your ideas, but you'll understand we want to do this our way...

the more simple you are, the more direct you are the quicker the message will get through