My Daddy doesnt want to wear tails :-(

Why not? Surely he should wear what you want him to!? Maybe I am a princess, but didn't even think that anyone would not want to!

Can you tell him how important it is to you? xx

Doh.. double post!

I disagree Butterflystar, he should wear what he feels comfortable wearing. What I have chosen to wear is completely down to me, and other than giving OH a bit of guidance about matching the colour scheme, what the men wear is completely down to them. Although Sparkles if Stu wants to wear tails then I don't think the father's suit definitely needs to match.

In all honesty, there is no point me paying £85 to hire him a tailcoat, when it would be removed straight after the photos, and left on the back of a chair, along with the waistcoat and cravat, and I do want him to be comfortable.

I hope I can persuade Stu that the rest of them should still wear tails though.

My OH and his best man are in tails, the other men in the bridal party will be in the suit version. Both of our dads are too short for tails!!

I can sympathise Sparkles, my OH and his best men etc are all wearing kilts but my dad hates them (some silly childhood drama he never got over) and I told him he could just wear tails so he could look the part but without being uncomfortable. He moaned that he didn't like tails either, even though he wore them for his own wedding, so decided that he would just wear tartan trousers...

This would never have been my choice but I just want my Dad to be happy on the day so I'm going with it. I don't think your dad's outfit has to determine what the other men will wear.

Some men don't like tails. And to be honest, not all men suit them. I would give your Dad his head on this and let him choose. I don't see why it means others don't wear them if they want to though.

As JoJo said, would your OH be happy to wear tails? I agree it would make him stand out.

At my wedding, i have left the male wedding party attite up to my OH and my Dad. They will be wearing a variety of different outfits! My OH and his best man are wearing kilts. The other 7 ushers were also supposed to be wearing kilts but a few of them have come back and said they are a bit uncomfortable wearing one so OH is thinking about putting them in suits. My Dad is still deciding on whether to wear tails or not and my stepdad and OH's Dad are waiting for him to make a decision so they can 'follow suit!' To be honest, I don't really care what my dad picks because I want my Dad to be comfortable. The only stipulation I have is that the suits are all the same colour - I think that different types of suits brings out people's personalities and the different roles they have at the wedding.

In the same way us ladies have imagined ourselves walking down the aisle in our dream dresses, secretly our Dads have imagined walking us down the aisle in their chosen outfits! (My dad told me this!!). I can understand why you are a bit upset that your Dad doesn't want to wear tails as you imagined he would, especially as it appears to have set off a possible chain reaction change of outfits from your OH, but I would like to gently put forward a thought: us ladies get to make 99% of the decisions when it comes to planning our weddings, so don't you think it is fair for your OH to choose this one thing he wants? I do. I don't think it is my place to tell my OH what to wear on the biggest day of his life (unless of course he wanted to wear something totally stupid!!!).

Concentrate on you and your BM's looking fabulous and leave the boys to figure it out. I promise you they will look really handsome on the day!

I don't think your dad needs to match with the rest of the men, infact quite the opposite as if he is dressed differently then he'll stand out as father of the bride.

Also different shaped men suit different styles of suits anyway. My OH says he'd like a 3/4 length jacket (doesn't like tails) and i doubt my dad will suit that so he'll have to be dressed differently too.

My friend got married in March and advised me not to sweat over the little things and I think this applies here ?

My husband and best man wore tails and my dad and hubbys dad worse shorter jackets, as my dad is a biggish bloke and thought he would silly in tails and i have to admit it looked really smart 2 in short and 2 in tails.. its a long day and they all need to wear what is comfortable in my opinion!!

Has he tried some on just to see...? Reason I ask is that both my hubby and Groom's Dad were very against tails for our daughter's wedding but once they got the whole outfit on, they actually liked them. Both Dads took their jackets off after the meal and speeches (as did all the others in formal dress) and later on in the evening, the Groom's Dad changed into something more 'comfortable' after the photos were all done with.

My partner isn't wearing tails. He has to wear suits at work and said there was no point in wearing tails as you can't wear the jacket again. He bought a normal suit, which is really nice on him and he can wear it to work after. None of the men are going to be matching and I don't mind to be honest. As long as they are comfortable, then thats all that matters to me. My dad is very tall and on the slightly larger side as well and is finding it difficult to find a suit to fit him. He says you gotta be tall and skinny or short and fat. He'll get his suit dry cleaned and wear that.