my friends don't seem excited?

Hiya Josiep00

TBH it was the same for me until we hit the 3.5 months to go mark. Thats when the hen and stag do's got arranged and the boys were asking what their roles were etc. Everyone is dead excited now though including MIL2B whos been GREAT Im sooo surprised about that!!

Ive gotta be honest though, you find out who your friends are when you go through major milestones in your life, weddings included, one of my closest friends of 18 years came over the other night, who I dont see that often and she didnt ask me about my wedding plans ONCE!!! Let alone ask me if I need any help with anything!! I wasnt gonna shove it down her throat like a bridezilla, so I didnt mention it either..................... weird, upsets me a bit though?

Could be an underlying jealousy thing going on there? Her marriage has been a bit rocky in the past year or so. Im not rubbing her nose in it though FFS!!!

Feels good to get that out, havent been able to tell anyone lol!!!

XX

Hmmm I seem a bit different to that. I never really spoke about the wedding to friends unless they asked me. How boring must it be to hear me going on about wedding plans. "Guess what favours I have decided on", "Guess what flowers I have gone for". Boring! I don't think it's jealousy but then again you know your friends. Why would they get excited about something that doesn't really effect them?

Perhaps that's just me.....

Thanks ladies.

They do politely ask questions every now and then - I never bring it up first, but then they became all "meah" again. it just seems since we've got engaged it seems they just don't want to spend time with us.

Think you're right Gemini - we have a while to go yet. Maybe closer to the date I'll get some excitement. When I mentioned to the bridesmaid we'd have to go dress shopping for her soon she said she doesn't enjoy shopping ☹️

Our friends got excited about 2 months before. I use the term loosely however.

i also think it was damn rude of your pals for upping and leaving your housewarming....if they cant celebrate with older people/family then thats their problem and not yours. Obviously thought your housewarming would be serious drinking and loud music, lolol....so dont worry about your wedding celebrations. At our wedding the rowdy lot of guests stayed outside smoking in the gardens which suited me fine. The 'nice' crowd didnt see/hear anything they shouldnt have seen. LOL.

Hi i have a dad and his wife thats not interested they havent asked questions at all not even been involved in planning sent them a invite but that was all they havent even said they got it , brother is just the same as i said his two daughters couldnt be bridesmaids . dont get it and yes it does hurt

That's EXACTLY how mine were! I have a large group of friends in my church and they're split into two - the ones I've grown up with who are my age and slightly younger and then the others are a bit older and I've known them mostly in the last 3 years. The friends I've known for ages werent interested at all when I first got engaged I had to sit down with them and ask them what the issue was!! We never really got to the bottom of it but I had already picked 3 of them to be bridesmaid but I'm finding its the other girls who are more supportive of me.

I think its exactly what you've said - 'jealousy' because suddenly your status changes and they may think they're losing you or something; absolutely no excuse not to be happy for a friend though! What i would say is that you should try and surround yourself with people who ARE happy for you because that's what you need in the run up to you're wedding and beyond.

Good luck to ya