My lovely Dad

I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I just wanted to stop by and give you a virtual hug ?? xxx

Big hug x x x x x x x x

Hello, sorry to hear you are going through some tough times. My Dad also passed away - over 9 years ago. My brother will be giving me away. We want to visit his grave but cannot before the wedding due to Chinese tradition which is sad. I'm not sure what we will do on the day itself, but I know it will be really hard and I cry everytime I think about it

Your Grandad must feel so privileged to be able to walk you down the aisle xx

Thanks everyone, hugs much appreciated! I know I'm going to shed a lot of tears come November. I don't have a grave to visit, but will asking our Vicar to say a prayer for him in the service, and for all the people that can't be there to share the day with us.

My grandad cried when I asked him to give me away - he's getting a bit fidgety about having to do the speech now though lol!

Hi badgerbeetle, I am sorry you have had a hard day. My dad passed away nearly 8 years ago and my mum will be giving me away, so I know a little of what you're going through. I know that on the day I will be missing him so much, I was thinking about having a photo out of him and my mum on their wedding day but I don't think we will... our day is meant to be a happy time, so we don't want to have anything that will make us all feel down, it's not like people will forget about him. My dad and my mum's dad, who passed away around 4 years ago, will both be mentioned during my mum's toast and we will 'raise a glass' to honour all our lost and absent loved ones.

Yeah, we've had a couple of people suggest having a photo of him out at the church and reception but I think that's a bit too much - we are putting a photo and a few words in the order of service though, and my sister is doing a MOH speech too so I know she will mention him and raise a toast. I know he'll be with me. Will be bittersweet I'm sure. I'll have to invest in some good waterproof mascara...

Sorry to hear you've had a sad day. Tomorrow will be 2yrs and 9months since my Dad passed away and it still hurts loads. We are hoping to wed next year (not set a date yet) and like you I've been thinking of ways to include my Dad as I know his absence will be tangible. Dad loved his garden and particularly loved Fuschia's and Daffodils so thought we'd try and incorporate them in some way. Afterwards I intend to take my bouquet up to the Hospice where he spent his final days. He would have been so happy to see me marrying the man I love and who he thought the world of and I know he will be there with me on the day. Your Dad will be there with you too and will be happy for you. (((hugs)))

My dad died 11 years ago so i know how your feeling. My grandad (health permitting) will be walking me down the aisle. I feel as its already going to be an emotional day that i we were to have a photo/or similair it would be too much for some family members. Thats just our feeling though aas everyon eon e is different . Instead i will have the ring he gave to my mum as her enagement ring ( OH was given it to then propose to me with , i then picked one more my style later) tied round my flowers. That way its still remembering him but nothing to obvious . As for the speeches i had asked my younger brother but he will only be 16 at the time and feels he is too shy to say a few words. But whoever takes on the role of the FOTB speech im sure the will mention him . It will be hard not having him on the day but i take some peace in knowing he would have loved my OH they are so alike ( personality/interests) and if he was still here they could have been good friends. Well apart from OH having no interst in football ..... that might have been a sticking point

My Dad passed away just last January, so I know how you feel too ☹️ I'm planning on having a little picture of him tied to my bouquet, and also both me and my Mom will mention him in our speeches - she's giving me away, and my OH doesn't really do public speaking, so I'll probably say a few words from the two of us. I'm also giving my two brothers a little pin badge each that signify my Dad (I'm having them as "bridesmen" as I've dubbed them). It's going to be hard not having him there though regardless, and the other day I just randomly burst into tears when I realised I wouldn't have a father/daughter dance at my wedding ☹️

*hugs*

Hi BB, .....First things first....**** BIG HUG****

We have had 4 close male family members pass away since March 2010, My OH's dad, my Brother and 2 of my Uncles ( 1 of which I've always been very close to). As we both only had a small families in the first place and due to 3 of these 4 being very sudden and unexpected it is still often difficult to deal with. Because of this we did original thought it was best not to do anything regarding "honouring" them all on the day as we thought other family members might find this upsetting but lately I've been considering lighting a single memorial candle at the beginning of the ceremony as a way of honouring all of them. But this might change again over time.

What ever you do your dad will be with you in your heart and that of others regardless.

L x

Thanks for all your lovely messages, I'm so sorry to hear of all your losses too. This year without him will definitely be harder than usual, but I know he'll be with me and he certainly wont be forgotten on the day

Our vicar is absolutely lovely and he's more than happy to add a piece into the service, which is really nice. xx

Oh badger beetle so sorry to hear this, and the rest of you who have lost loved ones too ☹️

Big big hugs xxxx

My dad passed away, end of last yera, i am having a silver heart with his photo in my flowers, and i have engraved a verse on the back of it, i wont dare look at it on the day because i cry evertime i think of him, its so hard.

Here is the verse it beaks my heart everytime i read it:

My little Girl, Don't cry for me
I'll be right by your side.
I'd never miss out on this day
that you become a bride.

I'm here with you to hold your hand
and give your heart away
To a man God chose to take care of you
forever from this day.

Today, I place your hand in his
with blessings and with pride.
My little Girl, Don't cry for me
I'll be right by your side.

That is so beautiful, and I might have to borrow it. Perhaps not for my ceremony, but definately just for reading again, probably when I need a good cry to be honest! Lovely verse.

I'm going to cry my eyes out all day, I just know it!! That's a really lovely poem and I'm welling up now! And a really beautiful idea about the locket, really personal and something to be treasured forever.

My Dad loved a party too, his last birthday with us was lovely he got drunk as a lord lol! And he loved to show off me and my sister, so I know he'd be so proud on my wedding day seeing everyone so dressed up and smart.

Aw BadgerBeetle...sending you a virtual hug. It was the 14th anniversary of my dad's death on Sunday ☹️ it's gone so quick.

My uncle gave me away and both my uncle and my OH mentioned my dad in their speeches, which was lovely. Also, my best friend who works in a jewellers, made a beautiful silver angel pin to slip into my bouquet. And we had a Chinese tea ceremony, to thank our family for raising us and there was an empty chair next to my mum to represent my dad, and we served tea to him / the chair.

Nik_Nak that's beautiful and has brought me to tears! We are Italian and for his funeral my Nanna had a chair made up of flowers - to symbolise that his spirit will always have a place and be welcome in the family. I wondered how appropriate it would be to have something similar made up for the reception room... xx

My cousin got married before me and she did the same for her Chinese tea ceremony and I got really choked up, so I was worried that I might lose it for mine but surprisingly I was ok. Also, I wore a pearl necklace on the day which belonged to my mum - my dad brought it for her 25 years ago.

Maybe you can find a spot on a table in the reception room, and have a lovely flower arrangement with a framed photo too? *EDIT - sorry, just read your earlier post. Instead of a photo, maybe something else that represents your dad or a glass of his favourite tipple*

There will be his photo in the order of service, along with OH's dad who died in January. I am considering having something of his in my bouquet though, perhaps not to show off but just to know it's with me. xx

(((Big hugs)))

I also lost my dad nearly 8 years ago. My brother is walking me down the aisle. My mum will be doing a speech, which is going to be emotional. I will hopefully have a pic of him on the stems of my bouquet. And i will be putting my bouquet on his memorial tree the following day. xxx

Here's what I've been playing around with for order of service so far. Thought to keep it simple, because we are asking the vicar to add in a few prayers of thanksgiving and remembrance in the middle of the service.

(NB, personal details removed for obvious reasons)

My grandad is giving me away and doing the father of the bride speech, and my sister is giving a speech too, and my OH will be mentioning him I'm sure. Really do need to investigate a good waterproof mascara! xx

Just purchased this on ebay. I will be putting my dads picture in here ?

? Your order of service is lovely.

We have lost a lot of loved ones and I find it particularly hard. I lost my brother 10 years ago and then his son, my nephew, last year!! This year we have lost my OH's Aunt and Uncle (separate ones) Plus my grampy a few months ago.
We have decided to have a table at the reception with a picture of each and a candle each. For my nephews memory we have got pin badges from the hospice that looked after him and my OH's aunts member we have pin badges from the hospice that cared for her.
It is very difficult to not get upset about them and we know everyone will be sad but we have asked our DJ to play Westlife Flying without wings, after our first dance and ask everyone to dance or at least stand for the memory of those that can not be there.

xxx

Hi Mrs p2012,

Can i ask you who is the seller on ebay you bought your locket from, its beasutil?

Thank you xx

Hi Crisp1s

This is the link to the seller...

http://www.ebay.co.uk/sch/nicksterallen1/m.html?item=251062527243&sspagename=STRK%3AMEWNX%3AIT&rt=nc&_trksid=p3984.m1497.l2649&_trksid=p4340.l2562

Hope this helps xx