My partner is a non Practicing Catholic and i'm new to religion - Should we marry in Church?

If the RC priest (? - think that's the right term, apologies if not!) is happy to marry you unbaptised and is able to get the dispensation I'd be inclined to go with that option. You can always get baptised later at a RC if that's what you choose to do but you shouldn't necessarily rush into it if you're not sure it's the right church for you.

With regards your nan, I'd be inclined to thank her for her opinion but explain a marriage is a union of two people and therefore your future husband is entitled to a say in the location and ceremony as well. As you state you have no strong pull to any branch of Christianity and your main concern is that you're married in the eyes of God but he has been baptised into the RC religion you've both made the decision that is right for you both. It's nobody else's decision other than yours and your OH's where you choose to marry. Out of interest if your nan is that devout to CofE, did she raise your mum/dad in the same way? Have they got a similar view to her.

FWIW, I don't think you're being hypocritical or naïve at all. You've developed your faith off your own back and although you're still developing and exploring that, the general gist of marrying in the eyes of God is the same and that's what's important to you. To me, hypocritical would be 'I don't believe in God but I want a church wedding because it looks better in the pictures/its easier/cheaper/insert other trivial reason here'

If you feel comfortable getting married in the RC church then just do that. Thank your nan for her input and views and tell her you feel drawn to the Catholic church more. That's your decision. It's really not a big deal.

Don't get drawn into a fight between your nan and your OH's family about the differences between the denominations. There are plenty of similarities. I'd focus on those if i were you.

Seeing that the priest is happy to marry you although you are not baptised you could just go along with that and decide later if you want to be baptised.

When considering baptism I wouldn't get too bogged down with choosing between one or the other denomination. The real question is whether you consider yourself to be a Christian and want to get baptised and dedicate yourself to God.

I agree wholeheartedly, and don't think you should be criticised for marrying in one church or the other! At the end of the day, RC or CofE, you are still praying to the same God....it is just some of the other parties involved (Pope's and Synods for example) that add the extra, perhaps controversial bits in!!

Would it be possible for the RC priest (who does from what you say seem to be quite practical and accommodating about the whole situation) to conduct a ceremony somewhere other than the church? I've no idea, but it could work! You don't need to be in a bricks and mortar church building to be in the presence of God.

I applaud the way you are discovering your faith yourself, and the questions that you ask of it. Because of this, I think that some open and honest conversations with the Priest (or other clergy if you are considering CofE) about your doubts and questions of the faith would actually help you decide, and would also prove to them that you do take the whole thing seriously.

I am a Methodist, my fiance's family are Salvation Army.....yet neither seemed right to us for our wedding. My ex-H was CofE and my children were baptised as such. We've gone for a civil ceremony in the end. Both of us know that God will be keeping an eye, regardless of the structure of the building we marry in, or who conducts the ceremony. Remember, faith comes from within, and if you have it, you have it.

Do let us know what you end up deciding.