One of my bestest friends has been going out with her boyfriend for TEN years. They have split up a couple of times, 3 years ago they moved in together, a year later split up, then moved back in a year ago. She loves him to bits, love of her life, never been with anyone else. She's been hinting that she wants to get married for ages now, but he hasn't seemed too keen. First he wanted to finish uni (he started late, at 23) - he finished 2 years ago and is now 28. now he says he wants to work on his career a bit longer etc. She was going to give it until christmas and if it didn't happen she was going to think about splitting up. She emailed me today to say she had a chat with him last night about how she wants to get married soon as she is 29 and wants to have kids soon etc. But apparently he said he wasn't sure (im not sure if about marriage of how he feels about her) and that he thought they should split up. ? They've been to weddings together and he's said "at our wedding we should have", and "when we get married we should..." - I don't know what he's playing at. im not saying its only his fault but if he wasn't sure why did he let it carry on if he didn't want to marry, or marry her?
It doesnt help that she's had a pretty difficult life, her parents had major problems and she has recurring health probs too.
It doesnt help that she's on the other side of the atlantic so I can't call her to console her but she is heartbroken. I dont even know what to say to her. Any ideas?