Name changes???

I think I've changed everything now apart from my passport as this is fairly new and I refuse to pay the price of a new one just to have the name changed. I haven't had to pay to change anything else.

I wanted to change my name because I wanted to have my H's name. I would also want the same name as any children we have on the future.

I am quite stuck on the whole name change issue as well but mine is for a purely different reason. I have a son from a previous relationship who has my maiden name as his surname. If i take my oh name then i lose that link to my son in name! I wanted to have a double barreled surname but my oh is dead againist this and really wants me to take his name.

I will take my H2B's last name. There's no question really, it just seems right to do it. It's like the final seal that you are married I think.

It will be sad though, it will mean I no longer have the same surname as my Dad. My Mum changed her name back to her maiden name when they divorced which I really didn't like, felt like she was doing it to spite him, which she probably was, but it meant we didn't have the same surname anymore.. Was weird. My Sister has been married 5 years and took her Husband's surname.

I think I will take my H2B's last name. Before i am confused about it. And i told my Fiance. He said it doesn't matter if i don't take his last name. I know he loves me so he says like this. Even so, i will take his surname after we get married. Coz i love him too.

I have decided to take my H2B's name despite the signature being impossible and having a really strong identity with my family name. But it just feels right to have the same surname if we are going to be a family together. But then I have not been married before and have no kids to think about, I know that puts a different spin on things. If your H2B genuinely doesn't mind then I guess you can do what feels right for you, and you could always change your name later if you change your mind.

I just presumed I would take OH's name when we married but when I mentioned it he was really surprised that I wanted to change my name. He said if it was him he wouldn't want to change his family name and he said it does not matter at all to him. I must admit the thought of losing my name, especially being the last in the line with no boys to carry it on makes me sad. But then saying that I would like to be Mrs 'something' so I really don't know what to do.?

I'm changing my name. Feel sad that I won't have the same surname as my Mum, Dad and Brother but like the idea of being 'Mrs' ... although that scared me a bit last night! Hahaha!

I've mentioned us having both our names ... that didn't go down to well!

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I changed my name back to my maiden name b4 as ex kind of forced the issue, he got remarried very quickly and said there couldnt be 2 mrs h's and i had no right to still use his name (it was his not mine with a bit of foot stamping thrown in).

Although I love my Mr B more than life, my name is my identity and I fought hard to get it back and step out of my ex's shadow.

I can't double-barrel as both our names begin with B and his is really long so would sound so daft.

I shouldn't be scared i'll lose my identity again as I was very very young, timid and shy the 1st time but a little part of me refuses to believe this is for life this time.

Ok I think this has actually helped me make my mind up.

My passport will be up for renewal at the time of the wedding so will need paying for anyway and the license won't be too much.

I can write standard letters to everyone else and get him to help (after all it's his fault lol)

Thanks ladies for your thoughts, it's been really helpful and has helped me decide I will be Mrs B.

Hi, kelbag1974!

I, too, have been married before but exactly for that reason - ease and expense - after the divorce I kept my ex-s name (it was a fairly amicable divorce and he didn't mind it anyway). However, now I really want to be MrsO and my OH also says that at the beginning he didn't mind but lately my name is always reminding him of my ex and also if we have a kid he says he doesn't want the baby to have a little wristband in hospital when it's born saying my ex's surname on it (I understand they always put the mother's surname on those plastic wristbands to know which baby belongs to which mother).

For me it would be a double expense in terms of the passport because I have dual nationality and also hold another passport apart from the British one.

But I am changing my name to my OH's.

I cant wait to be Mrs H2B. Its not as nice as my surname but its what i want. I will finally have the same name as my three children, they all have their dads surname, we always knew we would get married one day. Just didnt realise it would take us so long...lol

I took my H's name because for me, that was what it was all about. I don't think it's any less romantic to keep your name though - it's whatever works for you. Could you go double-baralled?

We've been married 10 months and I still haven't got my driving licence changed ?

I am going to take my OH name but i will be very sad to see my surname go. My dad's dad was adopted but gave my dad his birth parents surname and his adoptive parents surname so the only people are my immediate family. Luckily my brother is married and they want children so will keep the name going. I am a teacher and my kids are getting quite excited about me getting married, my year 3 class next year want to call me by my married namefrom September (I dont get married till February). Although i am taking OH's name my mum didnt take my dad's for years as she was known in her profession by her maiden name and did not want lose clients or have people think she was an unknown. I know a few people who have started out by keeping their maiden names but all of them have changed in the end. I think it is a very personal choice and you should do what ever you feel happy doing.

I'm taking H2B's name. Firstly I have zero link with my family name because I changed it by deed poll when I was 13 to my mum and stepdad's names when they married. That marriage fell apart a few years later in a particularly devastating way and my mum has since remarried. I don't have any contact with the stepdad anymore so really all my name reminds me of is a big pile of hurt feelings from when I was a kid. Also h2b's name is Italian and very pretty! Plus we have 2 kids with his name (I also have a son from a previous relationship but he has his dad's name, not mine). It wouldn't make any sense for me to keep my surname.

I'm changing mine.

I personally can't wait to become mrs greatbatch and get rid of my name. I'm looking forward to the fact that people can look at my name MRS Greatbatch and know i'm married.

I want the same name as my husband and my future children. However the only thing i'm annoyed at is the cost of a new passport with 4yrs left on it.

Luckily my passport expires in 2012 anyway so I'll just leave it as it is (Can I do that???) and change the name when I get a new one. I don't *think* we're likely to be going abroad anyway because we can't afford a honeymoon AND the wedding itself all in the same year! hahahaha

I shall be changing mine

I am planning on changing my name to my h2b but i am worried about what effect that will have in the future for my 2 year old son. I am not marrying his dad and when he was born we decided to double barrel his surname so he has both of our names. However, now that I am getting married I will be Mrs May and my son will be a Read-Smith. I hope that this will not be a problem for him as he grows up?!

We are both double-barrelling our surnames

I’m not taking his name! I like mine better..but I agree that the children will have his surname… He’ll be satisfied with that.?