Need a rant

I would tell her that you'll be happy to share the photos with her and you'll see her at the reception.

Firstly, just try to relax, secondly hope his grandma gets better soon.

How long have you planned it/how long have the guests known that it is a Wednesday wedding? Yes to only let your OH know today is a p*ss take, but is her job something like a school where getting a day off is very tricky, or is it an office job where it is easier?

I wouldn't be saying anything to her face yet, because you are angry and you may something that you do regret later on. Speak to your OH, and see if there is a way around it, so she can still come, and if she is quite difficult to talk to, maybe get your OH to speak to their mum, as she will word it carefully without being rash.

We're not having a reception. Just a meal x

I don't blame you for being furious!!

We get married in 9 days and my OH's brother told us like a week ago that he can't come!! Fortunately that was still in time to change with the venue but it screwed up my seating plan!!

I don't understand why people don't book these things in advance!! We'd only just booked our venue over a year ago when I started a new job. I told them in my interview I needed the week off to get married!

Is there anyone at all that you could invite to replace her? Otherwise I'd have your broter explain how much it's cost you inthe hope that she might pay some back?!

Sorry I'm of no real assistance!

I would also be furious with her. She could have booked the day off or half day off. Yes something at work could have gone pear shaped and she's been asked to miss her time off and sort it out but as you say it's her brothers wedding. Not some second cousin four times removed and it's last minute and you probably paid for her meal.

so assuming it's work pressure to be honest I would have said I need to work round my brothers wedding to be there however I will happily start early, stay late or move meetings to help but not attending the wedding I've booked time off for isn't an option.

maybe as the other poster said you could get other half to have a word with his mum. Or invite a friend in her place and tell her not to bother!

Id be raging too, don't let it spoil your day though. draw a line under it and enjoy your last night without stress. have a wonderful wedding day x

Have a wonderful time tomorrow. Deep breath and forget about her. It's her loss. Xx

I too would be furious. But i don't feel you should say anything. If your husband to be wants to speak to her about it let him do it. Otherwise just say you're sorry she can't be there. End of. It's your day and it'll be amazing with or without her.
No point in falling out with her and potentially causing problems with husband to be and his family. As with things like this everyone seems to get involved.

Wishing you all the best for your big day. Hope it's everything you've dreamt off

xx