I've always been quite worried about how much this wedding is going to cost, and i'm finding it very hard to plan with this voice in the back of my head telling me i'm going to regret spending so much on one day. Has anyone ever felt like this? H2b is (or... was?) the one wanting the big wedding, but now he's said that if i'm this uncomfortable with the cost then we should just scale down to immediate family and close friends, get the first date we can at the nicest registry office we can find in the area, and take everyone out for a nice meal afterwards. We live in south west London so it's not like there is a shortage of things to do to celebrate, we could have a lovely day for a fraction of the cost and I wouldn't have the stress of planning a big event.
My main reservations are how our families are going to react (my mother wants to invite relatives from Poland who I haven't seen since I was 7 so I expect some resistance from her) and whether we'll find a photographer willing to attend such a small wedding because having top quality pictures is very important to me. I also wonder if i'm going to regret feeling intimidated at planning a big wedding, but I also think I might regret going ahead with a big wedding and I really don't want to look back on the day and have regrets.
Any and all advice would be very welcome because i'm really not sure what to do.