Hello all! I am so excited there is only 3 and half weeks ish to go until our big day!!
We have had no drama except from one family member who we fully expected it from, this does not mean it hasnt been disappointing for it to actually happen although we had kind of prepared for it!!
So first off family member we shall refer to as X rang my parents house to speak to my mum. I was there for dinner and mum was still at work so I answered. "Oh well actually you might be able to help me it's about the wedding" (well yes it is my wedding so I guess I can??!?!?!?!) X then went on to say that her other half was unable to attend so would it be okay to bring someone else in his place to watch their son who doesnt have a life threatening condition or anything like that otherwise obviously it would of been a yes. But when you want to bring a stranger to our wedding who we have never even heard of before and your excuse is "then I don't have to worry about him" unfortunately its a no. Either you watch your own son or arrange for him to be looked after if you do not think he can handle the wedding. I politely said we had no room to which she replied, well he would just be having my partners space....well we do actually have a list of people we would rather give that space to?? I told her it was a no then miraculously her partner could come. Fine. End of problem.
I recently had my hen do. I received a message from X asking if she could bring along her 12 year old daughter.....again I said unfortunately due to the restaurant I had chosen there was no room whilst thinking to myself...a 12 year old at a hen party.....really. I messaged my MOH to tell her what had happened and informed me that X had already asked her and been told no. I was slightly annoyed that she had then felt the need to come and ask me anyway after being told no but let it go.....until I found out that after speaking to me and being told no she then went to my grandmother to ask her. Now my grandmother has had nothing to do with the planning of the hen and very sensibly asked X if she really thought it was appropriate to take a 12 year old to a hen. Again the problem was resolved X was told no and the hen party was fabulous and I got very drunk!!!
Now for a brief history on the latest installment please see this post
https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/479436.aspx
Now we stood our ground and did not invite the other half who we will call Z. There is some history between her and one of my bridesmaids and there a few other reasons that we do not want her at our day. So we sent out the invites to the day guests and where a other half was invited to the evening we sent a separate evening invite. So to X we sent an invite for X her husband and 3 children. Nothing was sent inviting the Z to the evening do. Nothing was said, we received the RSVP all fine. I then noticed on Zs facebook a status asking where to buy an outfit for a wedding, didnt really think anything of it until I shared my countdown and Z commented asking what day it was on. I was kind of worried about this so planned to write on the status about wedding clothes asking how long she had as I knew some places but they take a while to arrive. I then saw a comment asking what wedding it was that Z was going to, to which Z had replied that it was mine!!! First I've heard of it!!!!! I rang my mum who suggested I rang my nan who told me she had spoken to Xs son on the thursday and he had said "Z cant come because noone will be able to watch our children" and my nan not knowing anything about Z not being invited said as she was not staying late she could watch them so my nan felt guilty when it wasnt her fault at all. The status and comment saying that Z was coming was on the wednesday so it had obviously already been decided!!
I messaged Z a polite message to say that some wires had been crossed and that unfortunately she was not invited. I was very apologetic and calm considered I was actually really P****d off that this had all happened behind my back. I received a reply in which Z said "I know there arent any spaces for the daytime but thought there were for the evening?" So if there had been any spaces to that you would of just come along??? it isnt a free for all!!!!! And the fact her attitude was so rubbish, acting like I was obliged to give her a space?? And the fact that my OH and I would not of known she was coming until she showed up on the day??!?!?!?!?! Who just assumes they are invited? I can only imagine X has discovered some other peoples OHs are invited but even then if you havent received a written invitation should you really just assume????
I cant actually properly put into words how angry I am, Z has unfriended my on fb but I very much doubt this is the last Ive heard of it. X is currently out of the country but I have no doubt that as soon as she gets back Ill get an angry phone call, although she will most likely go behind my back and do it anyway!!!!
Eeeeesshhh sorry for the rant guys!!!
xxxxxxx
