Need your good vibes on Tuesday 14th *Update*

What an incredibly tough few years, well done on not giving up when all the odds have seemed against you. Wishing you heaps of good luck tomorrow, lets hope the judge is rational and non-biased. Let us know how it goes, if you can take time out of your celebrating that is!!! See what I did there??? It's called positive thinking LOL - Good Luck

Thanks Portia. I'm a strong believer in positive thinking which is why I've posted this on here. I'm hoping that if a lot of people send me good vibes it will have more effect than just my own thoughts.

Bon Courage Sharon. I know how incredibly frustrating French law is, just as you think you've got a handle on it along comes another curve ball. I sincerely hope you get the result you want in order for you to get your life back on track, 4 years is a long time to have had it put on hold.

My family too are waiting for some good news so we can get on with our lives, my sister (whom I now loving refer to as the "IT") is contesting my dad's will in France and its an unbelievable process that favours the blood line over any marital rights. It's been incredibly stressful and costly for my stepmum who was only 6 month in to her grief when my charming cow of a sister visited her notaire. My dad left her nothing and was very methodical because he knew the it had the potential to do this, should anything happen to him, which sadly it did and his hunch was right!

We are hoping when my stepmum returns to France this week that she can start putting this sorry mess behind her and start to, like you, rebuild her life. My SM has worked incredibly hard to get all the documentation she needs to prove the "it" is entitled to nothing, which she isn't and that delightful news should've have been relayed on to her by now, which won't have gone down well at all! So we wait with baited breath for her response, I know that the "it" will be mad as hell that she is not getting her theiving hands on any of the equity of the house! I

Keep us posted on how you get on and I wish you well for tomorrow.

p.s. Whereabouts in France are you?

Hi pigalicious,

Sorry to hear about your step mums troubles too. I can imagine her situation is very difficult as it's almost impossible in France to disinherit your children. The other problem is it's guilty until proven innocent. They accuse and you have to prove it's not true - it's totally ridiculous as all it creates is a mountain of bloody paperwork and never ending court battles.

I also found out in my separation that had my husband died, our daughter would have inherited 50%, I would have got 25% and his parents/brother would have got the rest - can you imagine. Your father seems like he covered things quite well so fingers crossed it will work out for your step mum. But, in France you just never know.

I remember reading some of your posts before. You have been amazingly strong through all this. I dont think I could have fought it all like you have. I will have everything crossed for you xx

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow Kalli.

Hope tomorrow brings the best news possible for you and your daughter. Please let us know the outcome.

x

Fingers crossed Sharon (I remember you from before). Hopefully it will all go in your favour

Thank you ?

Hi Sharon

I wondered how you were getting on. I sent you an email a while ago and was going to see if I still had your mum's number to ask after you.

I truly hope everything works out for you as I've often wondered about you and your daughter. Please get in touch the next time you're in the area.

Love Lorraine X

Hi Sharon,

Thanks for updating, sounds like you've got yourself a great lawyer!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for the best possible outcome for you.

Pig xxx

Well it sounds like it went well, it's a long wait to find out the final outcome isn't it?, how on earth do you hold it together with all the waiting!!!

Gosh. what hell you've been through. I sincerely hope that the outcome will be entirely in your favour and that you can move on with your life. Well done on getting this far and may the judge see sense.

x

Hi,

Whilst the month does seem a long wait - Mr's lawyer did actually say that he saw the case would probably go to appeal. I could have cried when I heard this as if he does actually appeal the decision it would be another year before it became final and there is a chance that it could be overruled. It's quite amazing that someone can speculate an appeal without actually knowing the outcome - makes me think I have a good case.

Lorraine, I've lost your contact details too. I didn't have internet access for a long time, I'll try and email you through your profile and we'll have to meet up when I come back in July. ?

Hi again Kali,

I so hope that doesn't happen to you, this could potentially also happen with my stepmum. Although my sister can't get anything from the house, she may have the right to appeal. The thought of that just fills me with dread and horror and it almost feels like we are held to ransom, should she choose to do this and knowing my sister this could be a real possibility.

Lets keeps those fingers crossed, hey!!!

Hi pigalicious,

I certainly do not want to tempt fate to think we might be discussing our same issues in a years time but I guess if the decision goes my way and your stepmums way it could well be the case.

This is afterall France we are dealing with, I'm sure all the procedures are simply a way of keeping people in jobs and the unemployment figures lower than they otherwise would be?