New and issue with registrar

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We didn't have a rehearsal no. About 6 weeks before the wedding we met with the registrar, paid fees, went through the vows, talked about readings and music to check there was no religious content etc. Then we just saw them on the day.

We didn't have a rehearsal.

We met them when we gave notice but that's it. Everything else was done by post, phone and email.

Come to think of it, we didn't even meet OUR registrar until the day.

Can't think why they possibly need a rehearsal to be honest.

Exactly this except I met with a few different registrars to give our music and we had an issue with our marriage forms as we had Hs step mum put on and his birth mum removed. We never met our registrar though. Also h never met anyone! The first time he was there was our wedding day!!

Thanks for the replies, this is what I was thinking.

I really dont see the need for it, surely we can just send them our reading by email, and tell them what music will be playing.

I have replied asking them what we can do, as it is so close to impossible for us.

xxx

We did everything over the phone - got married in a different area to where we live so we didn't even meet anyone when we went in to give notice. We had to post our readings and song choices so they could check the content and then didn't meet anyone until the morning of the wedding.

We gave notice in person at the Registrars in Cardiff (had to go there as I'm a foreign national)

Then we had to go in for a "Pre-Marriage Interview" with the local registrar's office anytime within two weeks of the wedding. Luckily, only one of us had to attend that, as my OH had just started a new job and couldn't have possibly gotten away for it.

During the appointment I confirmed the details of who was involved in the wedding (attendants, who would take my bouquet at the appropriate time, who are witnesses were, etc) and the word selections that we'd chosen out of the booklet they'd sent us.

I can't imagine trying to squeeze in an appointment with the registrars in addition to everything else you've got going on. Good Luck getting it sorted.

We have managed to get an appointment for 4.30 the day before the wedding. They basically insisted we do it. And I dont really want to kick off incase it impacts us getting married, but afterwards I will be considering complaining, its such a hassle. I hate whinging like this, but I really dont have time to do that too.

Glad you managed to sort out an appointment.

We gave notice at our local office - that's unavoidable!

We booked our registrar at the venue by phone. When that office received the paperwork from our local office, they sent us an information pack. Part of this was beautifully-presented questionnaire booklet, where we had to write down all kinds of information. This included the names of bridal party members and how they should be addressed, who was giving me away, who held the rings, who would I give my flowers to etc and preferences where applicable (did we want the registrar to ask my Dad "Who gives this women in marriage?", did we want people invited to photograph us after signing the register). The registrar used everyone's name liberally, which was lovely..."Alice, would you like to take Emma's flowers?, "Can Tracey and Phil join us at the register".

Anyway, I digress. I can't see why this type of questionnaire service isn't offered by all. Surely it saves so much time on everyone's calendar?