Hi ladies, I'm am totally new to this site, so before I ask your opinions, it would only be polite to introduce myself quickly.
Got engaged Christmas day 2010, age 29 and with OH since 1998!!!! Started looking at planning a wedding and the prices were eye wattering. Realised then that it was going to take a long time to save for. Also, as I was getting on in years, I knew that if I waited for the wedding before having children, our odds would be decreasing, so we decided that whilst we were saving for the wedding, we would also casually try for a baby also. We were blessed with our beautiful son in June 2012 and the ironic thing is that after he was born, the marriage was more important than ever, but the wedding and all the costs involved, became so much less important.
Anyway, we agreed to set the date for 4 December 2014 some time around last summer and I was beyond casual with it all until I went to The Wedding Journal Show last October and they scared the life out of me, telling me that I should be so much more organised. So, that got the ball rolling. We dont have a tight budget per se, we have chosen to spend as little as possible as there are so many other things in life we want to achieve and the money that we would spend on a wedding could be put towards acheiving those things.
With regards to venue, we thought outside the box and went for a local complex (it has function suites, and a restaurant and 2 bars) and we got an amazing deal!!!!! I have most things sorted but I wanted your opinions really on speeches
My father is so uncomfortable with public speaking and OH wouldnt particularly enjoy it either. I havent been to many weddings myself, but for the ones I have been to, I have found speeches relatively uncomfortable, unless you have someone that is used to public speaking and is genuinely funny (I dont mean to offend and I hope I havent, that is just my opinion).
Anyway, instead of speeches, I have written a poem explain that we arent having speeches, that we still want to thank everyone, we mention our parents, our son, each other and all of our guests and thank them for sharing the day with us. For my favours, I am having clear christmas baubles with our names, the date of the wedding, and a thank you to the guest for joining us on an insert on the inside. I was planning to attach the bauble to the scroll and at the end of the poem I have said that we are giving you this bauble so that you may, if you wish, hang it on your tree each year and forever think fondly of today.
So, my question, is this ok to do. To totally dismiss speeches (I'm sure someone will stand up to quickly say thanks for joining us etc) and opt for this little note instead. I had my heart set on it and OH asked if it wasnt a bit cheeky. That people had spent a lot of money to be there and taken time out of work etc and we arent even properly thanking them. Anyway, I'm so sorry to have rambled on, I guess I'm more into all of this than I thought lol.
