New name - exciting or a bit of a pain?

Ha!

I have had to spell my surname all my life, and getting married will still result in my spelling my new surname. Oh how I long for Mrs. Smith!!!!

Not wierd but we have decided to double barrell (neither of us wanted to lose our surnames) and im constantly having to spell my surname so with two to spell it might prove a little annoying. Also have to pay for the pleasure so all in all a bit of a pain ?

No too wierd, but the name I will be having is Irish. It is prounced a certain way, but there are a few people who have that surname and pronouce it differently. I will be spelling it and correcting pronounciation for the rest of my life.

I don't mind changing it though, my current surname is rather unglamorous.

I'm going from a fairly common surname to a not so common one but even with my current surname I have to spell it for people over the phone.

TBH, I cannot wait to be Mrs *****. I am really looking forward to changing my name! Never crossed my mind to keep my own name or go double-barelled, it's one thing I am a bit old fashioned about.

Not so much a weird name but I am a secondary school teacher who will become Mrs Rand! I might leave it as my maiden name at school!

I asked the O/H a few months back if I could double barrell once we are married. Got a reply that I really could not repeat on here as would get black listed and thrown off hitched ?

Was only messing with him though as V excited about my surname being changed. Not practiced the new signature yet though as quite a superstitious person x

I have the opposite, going from a long Polish surname that people spell many different ways to a common English surname. Not really sure I want to change but h2b might be upset if I don't.

Yup WSS, I have grown up having to spell my surname and trying not to get too irate over the lazy misspellings and will only be exchanging it for a different surname that I will have to spell and try not to get too irate over the lazy misspellings!!

I have a lovely common english surname which i love and will be moving to a fruit!! YES BLOODY FRUIT!!

But its set the scene for the wedding so at least its helped a little ?

My current surname is double barrelled (my mums and dads surnames) and am so fed up of people getting it wrong or thinking i am quoting my middle name to them (how many girls do you know called Lewis as a christian name!!!!), not being able to fit it on forms, trying to quote it over an automated telephone service- 'Your surname only please' It is my bloody surname!!! Im quite happy to be changing to a boring run of the mill name, lol mini rant over, I don't hate it as much as it sounds, I'll just be glad to make life a little easier.

Oooh me too - I feel like I might jinx it! lol

We're getting married abroad so I'll have to travel home as Miss ******* anyway so I might practise my new signature on the plane home, or on the napkins at dinner the night we get married, or on the plane from the wedding to the next bit of the holiday.........basically every chance I get once it's official I think!

I'm happy to be changing my actual name, but very sad to see my signature go - I love my current signature, it's dead easy to do, just 3 letters piled on top of each other but I can't just change the last letter for an R because it won't flow in the same way ☹️

I'm going from a wierd surname to a common one. Looking forward to not having to spell it.

Mine will be changing from an English to an Indian surname, but at least it's quite a short one. I'll change it legally, but I've decided to keep using my maiden name for work, so that I don't have to deal with spelling it over the phone every day.

My OH was actually quite up for taking my maiden name, but to me Mrs [maiden name] is my mum and just wouldn't feel right! I definitely want to be Mrs [OH's name]!

WSS.. Absolutely..

Theoretically, I would switch from a relatively uncommon but not difficult surname to one that is very very common (have a guess - it's a colour).

I say theroretically because it was never on the cards to change my surname.

I will be changing my name as I don't really like my own (too many cruel nicknames at school!) but will not be Mrs for most purposes. The main problems this raises is that "Mr and Dr B" sounds like a gay couple, and there are already two (male) Dr Bs in his family, which could get confusing! It is a hassle to change my professional registration, but I think it will be more of a hassle in the long run to have to remember who knows me by which name, which signature to use etc.

ummm hard one Mrs brown ?

When the female holds the professional qualification, this should go first i.e. "Doctor and Mr B" We will be "Doctor Brown and Doctor Mysurname" (or "Doctors Brown and Mysurname"?) so less worried about order but never thought people might assume we were both boys (and it would annoy me immensely).

I'm kind of indifferent overall to changing my name - on one hand, my present surname is little embarassing and lent itself to nicknames at school I've rather forget but on the other it's fairly rare and there aren't many of us about. Also, my new name will be the same as my MIL2B - we have the same initial too - so I'll be less 'unique' - but then again it's a more common name that's easier to pronounce and spell.

We agreed that there was no chance of us double-barrelling our names either because they don't exactly trip off the tongue when you put them together!

In my opinion (again albeit old fashioned) that not taking your husbands name is saying to him you are good enough to be my husband but not quite good enough to take your name.. so wrong!!

Sometimes I wonder why people get married, just because you may have been together for x number of years doesnt mean to say that marriage is the right thing for you if you cant fully commit to it. IMO!

Mrs sounds boring now! lol. I used to work in a box office when I was younger and when I asked the question "Is that Miss, Mrs or Ms?" I'd get embarrassed when people said "none, I'm DOCTOR <insert name>" but the worst one was "NONE, It's LADY B******". Lady B****** used to ring quite often and it became a bit of a joke to call her Mrs B****** just so she would correct us in her fake posh accent (she had purchased the title not inherited it)

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I've managed to avoid this as MIL2B has remarried and BIL2B's wife kept her maiden name, so there will only be me and OH's step who are Mrs N

Also, i checked on Fb for people with my first name and married surname and there are only 4 so I'm thinking it's not too common at all. With my current surname there are PAGES AND PAGES of results!

My current surname is 2 Uncommon names Double Barrelled and my first name is not common either...so i constantly spell out my name!

As far as i know i am the only one with my surname so changing it may feel weird but i seriously cant wait to be Mrs T!

He he, when I first got to use "Doctor", I must have been unbearable. Now, many years on, I'd never bother correcting. It's seems a bit petty. Only time I force it is if I'm complaining or if I feel a little out of my depth e.g. booking a posh hotel or something.

I adore my H2B's surname and can't wait to change mine. I dislike my maiden name.. with a passion. It's my Grandad's name and I have never met him.. me and my sister are the only ones left (besides our grandad) with this surname. My H2B has a double-barrelled surname.. his Mum is English and his Dad is Chinese. So it's a mix of English and Chinese names.

OH NO... I've just thought... OH's ex wife still calls herself MRS N****!?!? I don't like that thought, effing b*tch! I wish she would change it!

I, for one, can't wait to change my name. I have a double barrelled maiden name, which came from my great grandparents (how very modern of them in the 1920s!). Like Starlight85 said, it's such a pain to say it over the phone, doesn't fit on forms, some computerised systems won't accept hyphens etc.

My poor sister has just lost a hyphen but gained an apostrophe!

Yep, same as my OH ex, she still calls herself a MRS... she isnt! they divorced years ago so she needs to seriously wise up too!

Wow, that's a strong view to have. And you are, of course, entitled to have it.

I have always been happy to take his name, and keeping my own never even entered my head (maybe if I like my name more it might have done) but that's my choice to do so - it's got nothing to do with me thinking my OH is so brilliant that I can't wait to have his name - that seems really strange to me.

'You're good enough to be my husband, but not good enough for me to take your name' - do you mean that if people don't take the name then they're ashamed to be married?

'doesn't mean to say that marriage is the right thing........if you can't fully commit to it' - so if a woman doens't change her name for whatever reason, she's not fully committed to her marriage?????

My OH isn't getting a wedding ring or having to change his name at all but he'll be fully committed to the marriage, and obviously thinks I'm good enough to be his wife - double standards for men and women clearly!

I kind of understand it was for their son's sake that she kept the name, to be the same as him, but she is pregnant with someone else's child now so what is she going to do when that one is born?

Only in my opinion and Im sure my opinion is the minority

But to me when a couple get married then they share everything, including their surname, rings.. everything and to me when I see marriages that the woman keeps her "single" identity i.e maiden name then why does she want to get married, why not stay living together?

If the bride keeps her maiden name, she is still having the name that a "man" gave her... i.e her dad so why cant she change her name to another mans name.. some woman say that they dont want to carry a mans/her husbands name but what they are doing already is carrying another mans name, albeit her fathers!