New to this and feeling glum

That sounds like a sensible plan if you have training to finish and you need time to save. You shouldn't worry about what other people think about when you get married. You need to do it when it's right for you and your OH. Maybe if you'll finish your training sooner you could have another chat and decide on 2019 or similar if you're truly not happy with waiting?

There isn't anything wrong with waiting and doing it right. People will make comments but just ignore it. It's more common now for people to wait anyway.

Also you're waiting for the right reasons. You're better to take your time and be able to afford to have the wedding of your dreams. Think how amazing it's going to feel on your wedding day knowing you did the right thing and you are having this amazing wedding and you have no debt to go with it!

The same happened to us as we got engaged in Oct 2013 and aren't getting married until June 2016. People seemed surprised by the length of time we were waiting, but it suited us and at now only 9 months out seems to have flown by. You definitely get to enjoy the planning stage with more time, and it allowed us to have conversations over expectations and then make informed decisions - I hate being rushed into a decision as I second guess myself over it all the time!!! However the impatient part of me has been pacing and tapping her foot since Oct 2013 and it can't come soon enough ?

Unfortunately you have to just let a lot of comments wash over you. You're doing it your way for very good reasons and you shouldn't even have to explain that much. It's really no one's business.

There will always be people who have something to say, if you were doing it within 12 months they'd tell you you were rushing it. We will be engaged for 2 years when we get married which I don't think is a particularly long engagement but we've still had people act surprised that we're not doing it sooner.

I agree it really will come round quite quickly. Training and wedding planning would be a nightmare! Just tell people you want to finish your training before you plan your dream wedding and don't want to get into debt doing so. How on earth can people find fault with such a sensible idea. It also means you can lurk on here and spot all the ideas you like but haven't thought of yourself yet that you might fancy incorporating.

Enjoy your engagement. Go for the wedding planning when you're ready not when everyone else seems to think you should do it.

Congratulations on your engagement. I've been engaged ten years by the time we get married lol. We just never got round to it. X

Thank you all xx just fed up of people's expectations and family telling us how our day is going to be. Been quite tempted to elope but the being killed by 2 mum's doesn't appeal xx we've come up with some middle ground we're going to have an engagement party in the new year so that should hopefully take off the heat xx

Thank you all xx just fed up of people's expectations and family telling us how our day is going to be. Been quite tempted to elope but the being killed by 2 mum's doesn't appeal xx we've come up with some middle ground we're going to have an engagement party in the new year so that should hopefully take off the heat xx

Stick to your guns (says she who is eloping) and have the wedding you want when you want. My mum wouldn't be happy no matter what I did so makes no difference to me and my mother inlaw to be has been very supportive. We decided to tell everyone now we are marrying in Lapland in 4 months time rather an when we get back.

The engagement party may take some heat off yes. Then if need be ban all wedding talk with family till your training is finished. X

It is your wedding! I know what it is like too well, as soon as you get engaged then people start pushing you to set a date pretty. I can imagine it is annoying. But it is your joint decision and whatever works for you.

I've got the same problem, we're not getting married until January 2019, we decided on this date as it will be our 10 year anniversary so will have meaning and will give us plenty of time to save. I'm fed up with peoples reactions when they ask! my FMIL's joke is that she might not be around by then! I just laugh it off now and think that it'll be worth the wait, we're in enough debt at the moment without adding to it! and although it's my 2nd wedding it's my OH's first and so I want it to be special for him.

Congratulations on your engagement by the way and just enjoy the run up as I'm sure it will come around a lot quicker than you're expecting it to x

MrsStanleyToBe

when they say they might not be there by then just say oh well that saves us a bit on the budget for meals then.

Haha Jayne I like that a lot - must remember x