Newly engaged! =) But.... do your fiance's get involved?

Congratulations and welcome

We're doing most things together too. He's doing the music though I'm dropping heavy hints. We're both choosing our own clothes. Everything else has bee pretty much joint decisions!

Hello and welcome and congratulations on booking your date and venue! Let the fun begin.

You sound similar to me, no wine on the table (fruit punch and ordering from the bar), I sorted the Photographer, love cheese and I DIY'd it but my other half was quite happy to sit back and let me do the planning. His contribution was pointing to the invite he preferred out of the two that I liked ?. He did sort the suits though. This might be the reason he got his a week before!

ETA what venue did you go for? Just noticed you are in Birmingham too!

Congratulations ?

Mine is completely involved in everything too - except the cake and what flowers we have, he said he really didn't mind on those and I had specific ideas so I dealt with florist and cake maker.

I love that he's so into planning the wedding but I do wonder what we will talk about after the wedding haha

Hiya, congratulations! Welcome.

My fiance isn't involved in the planning, I am doing most of it myself.it can be quite stressful at times too. We decided on venue together but that's it, I am very fussy so I don't mind at all.

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Hiya & welcome!

At the beginning I just got y OH involved in the big things like the venue & photographer, DJ etc. and checked he was ok with the colour of the BM dresses.

Then there were months and months when he wasn't very involved because he didn't really need to be other than again, things like invitations.

Now, from the approx 3months to go stage he's got a lot more involved again.

Welcome abd congratulations! We're doing most of it together (though any diy stuff I tend to do and he tends to do more emailing suppliers agreeing costs, paying deposits etc). He's way more involved than I thought he would be bless him, even joining discussions about shades of lilac and colours and patterns of lace.

Congratulations on your engagement

In case anyone else reads this and also thinks 'God I'm jealous' - don't worry you're not alone! My fiance isn't involved at all and doesn't want to be - I wish he was at least a little bit interested. I check things by him before booking stuff but he's never said no! Oh actually, he said no to having tool themed table names (he's a carpenter and I'm a DT teacher) but that's it. Maybe he'll surprise me and be interested soon...

If your fiance wants to help me plan our wedding, he's more than welcome

Hello & welcome to hitched

Mine has ben involved with a lot to begin with and I always see that he likes something before buying etc, he's mostly excited by the music planning and the cake and some music décor etc...whereas I loved picking flowers and nice things with my mum & bm and he's not bothered haha. A fair balance i'd say

Welcome to hitched and congratulations on your engagement my fiancé has been involved in every bit of the planning. When I first went dress shopping I even showed him the pics of me in the dresses...... I just wanted his opinion so badly. Luckily the dress I fell in love with wasn't one he saw so he will still have a surprise. He is doing suits himself so I won't know anything about them until the day. He's just as excited and into it as I am which is really nice.

Hello and welcome to hitched ?

I was really upset at first as mine didn't seem at all interested. But after we talked about it properly he took a bit more notice.. and then got a bit annoying over it all!!! We talked again and now seem to have an agreement whereby I do all the research and planning so long as he is consulted. He will be organising the wedding rings and honeymoon himself (though I have already done the initial researching haha) x

Hi and congratulations! Exciting times for you. I'm not having wine on the table either, I'm glad to read that it isn't as unusual as I'd thought and it's only been met with one negative comment so far.

Hi! We got engaged in December too! Getting married 03/10/15! My OH is really involved...we have made every decision together so far and he's just as excited about it all as me!! He came to every venue we looked at however I don't think he's overly bothered about going to wedding fayers so I plan on going to a few of these with my bridesmaids! It's great he wants to be so involved I think people turn weddings into being all about the bride and I really didn't want that to be the case with us. In my eyes it's his day as much as mine and I want him to be as involved as possible! Makes it's less stressful for me too!!!

My oh says he wants to be involved in it all but when i ask him about it he just says i dunno whatever you want so im just gonna plan without him lol.

hes in the army anyway so doesnt get home much so it will all be left down to me and my amazing bridesmaids who have been fab up to now

Welcome!

my OH is involved in the planning, he didn't go to wedding fayres after i went one with him and he felt like he stuck out like a sore thumb. but he has helped out a lot with planning and the DIY. I find it funny how a lot of suppliers find it funny the men want to be involved, not sure if we've in the minority or they've not moved with the times :/

Welcome! We got engaged in December too, getting married in September.

I have to say my OH is loving being involved. He has been handmaking invites, choosing music, trawling Ebay for things and got really excited on Saturday because he found the perfect shirt on Camden market! It is the second time for both of us, and for his first wedding his ex wife and her family totally dictated the whole day. This time, we are doing it all ourselves and he is enjoying having the wedding that he wants x

Congratulations! We got engaged last November and booked our church and reception venue by Early january!

OH has surprised me with his involvement! At first, I would show him stuff on my phone and he would be like 'ohhh yeeeaah' and not really interested! But I didn't quite realise how pushed out he felt until me and my mum we're going through pictures of cakes and showed him what I had set my heart on and he was really upset that I hadn't consulted him!

So from now on, we both discuss things together, get the nod from him, then I go off and book it etc!

Things like isle invitations and flowers and BMs is mostly down to me but he is sorting the cars, suits and music!

Hey congrats on booking your venue My OH has been quite good we decided on venue together, decdied on colour scheme together. he did let me pick our photographer though. getting married 16 May 2015

Hey congrats on booking your venue My OH has been quite good we decided on venue together, decdied on colour scheme together. he did let me pick our photographer though. getting married 16 May 2015

I have found most guys get involved in the planning but saying that I have a meeting coming up where the bride is coming on her own with a friend.?

I got engaged in December as well!! Congratulations

My OH is the complete opposite. In fact, we're not even mentioning weddings at the moment! I'm super jealous you have a date booked and a venue and a partner who actually wants to be involved. I feel this is how a wedding should be!!

Good luck with all your planning xx

We got engaged in December.

My fiancé is pretty much leaving it all to me, he jokes that he's done his bit with the engagement, and says that as I have dreamt of the day for my entire life, I should crack on with it! That said, I run everything by him to get his approval, and whilst I'm planning to go to wedding fayres with my Mum, that's really because he works most weekends, we did book the church and venue together, he has minimal involvement basically, he'll let me make the decisions, he's very laid back, he isn't too fussed of what colours etc and whilst I sometimes say I'd like more input, I think we have it right for us, he generally just isn't much of an organiser, where as I am in my element with it. I'm pleased that he is excited and when we discuss the church and the ceremony he feels super excited, but also, it's 2 1/2 years away, so maybe I'd be expecting too much for a man to get so giddy this far in advance!

xx