Nightmare!

You have definately done the right thing!

Good for you - her loss!

Poor you huni...tht sounds very stressful!! I think uv done the right thing...bridesmaids r supposed to help ya not add more stress!! Good for you!!!

Thanks Girls!

I was really worried about posting this as last time I posted something about our tiffs I basically got called a bridezilla lol.

Just one of these things on it's own wouldn't have took me to breaking point I think it's just a mix of it all is the straw that broke the camels back.

I think I will definitely leave it till after the wedding, no point in adding more stress to the situation now especially since it's 18 days away, think I just needed some re-assurance I wasn't being a crazy lol

On sunday when I went to pick the bridesmaids dress up.

She only spoke about 2 words to me however did not put any sort of fight up to stay a bridesmaid like saying she would go and get it altered or asking if there was any way I could get a rush order dress in.

She also said it wasn't a size 10 but an 8, I've taken it to a tailor who has told me it's nearer a 12 than a 10

I think my gut feeling is that she didn't want to do it in the first place, and if that was the case why didn't she just say no?

I also don't get along with her partner and think he may have something to do with it

To be blunt, she sounds like a right kn0b. You have definitely made the right decision.

You have made the right decision, the whole point of a bridal party is to have your close girls around you helping you out and taking on some roles so your not so stressed and also to enjoy the day with you, i think if they act like selfish bitches then get rid of them because it sounds like she never had your best interests at heart so clearly wasnt right for the role! BM's are supposed to help you not hinder you. Sometimes i think they forget its your big day! dont loose any more sleep worrying! her loss! x x

You've done the right thing. It's your wedding day & that means that you want the people around you to be excited

for you coz it's an exciting day!! It's fantastic that your cousin has now taken the other girl's place, she sounds like the kind of person you need around you on ur big day.

I hope all the palava hasn't stressed you out too much!!

I think you've done the right thing. A bridesmaid is meant to be a support to the bride and it sounds like she's done nothing to support you or make the wedding planning process easier for you.

WPPS

Overall I think you've probably done the right thing, you're obviously not the friends you thought you were.

However asking her to tone down her hair or not taking on her opinions re the dress is being a bridezilla and I wouldn't dream of asking my friends to change their hair for me. Not massively surprised at her reactions if that's how your relationship as bride and bridesmaid started tbh.

Not a bridezilla at all - this forum should be about posting what you want and not being judged, but getting an honest opinion if you want one!

General consenus is clearly you are not a bridezilla - I think it sunds like you'#ve had a terrible time with her. It's not as if her hair was ronald mcdonald red to begin with, she's dyed it like that just before your wedding! I agree sounds like she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid in the first place and has handled it in a terrible way - sounds like you are better off without her.

I started off trying to get my bridesmaids' opinions on dresses and turns into a nightmare unless you have bridesmaids with identical body shape, heights and opinions. Two of them (including my usually lovely sister) gave me a hard time for being so fussy and it was my mistake trying to keep them all happy. I should have just picked one and said "you're all wearing that!"

x

Also, i must add that a very traditional friend of mine had asked another friend to be one I her bm's... Then near the wedding the friend decided to shave her brunette long bob on one side & have dyed in to the shaved part leopard print. Needless to say the bride was not impressed & told leopard friend to hide it or not be BM anymore. I don't blame her! I'd never dream of doing something so drastic if I was to be BM. Leopard BM hid it well on the day but I completely empathise with the bride for freaking out!!

She is the only one who has said she has hated the dress. I have 6 bridesmaids so I didn't expect I would make them all happy but all except her love the dress and are just excited that they were asked.

I wouldn't have been bothered about her hair if it was always like that, but to dye it that red so close to my wedding without a second thought I just feel is wrong. I would never dream of doing that to my friends if they were getting married as I know there is enough stress as it is. Especially since my wedding is under 3 weeks away I'm sure she could wait to have her hair red after it.

I asked my mate if she minded me cutting my long hair shortish just before being BM for her wedding as I wasn't sure if she wanted all her BM's to have the same do, she couldn't have cared less and no-one made a comment as all eyes were on the bride. It's polite to ask before doing anything drastic, also why would ou want to stress your mate out any more.

I have another friend who had a "moment" when her BM turned up with pillar box red hair on the day itself, (she takes attention seeking to a whole new level), this girl looked a total tool on the pics and my friend was livid.

You've done the right thing hun. x