No children - invitations

Theoretically, if everyone picks up on the invitation cues and everyone understands the etiquette of a formal invitation, then only naming the parents should be enough. How confident are you in your guetss being able to work this out, and subsequently how confident are you to tackle the issue if RSVPs come back saying that the children will be attending too?

"We are very sorry but we are unable to accommodate children at the venue".

I deliberately left it ambiguous as to whether it was our choice or a venue restriction (in reality a combo of both).

We did something very similar, although we were allowing family children so we had something like 'unfortunately, due to venue restrictions, we are only able to accommodate children of family' (it wasn't that but you get the gist).

Do tell them!!! People do have a habit of assuming you forgot to put names, or it's implied with the invite (to bring kids) and they come as a package.

We only asked two couples not to bring kids (work colleagues and we were full to the brim and squeezed them in) and so H told them at the same time and apologised about it, and they were perfectly fine and so happy to be asked.

Hi,

We have been advised to put something on the invitations, if you google it you'll find lots of variations that are really polite. We have also already told people we are having no children in advance so they can prepare.

Good luck!

We said..

'We have decided not to extend invitations to children.We hope this means you can still share our special day with us'

As I've got a fairly small wedding compared to some I've been able to just talk to most people who we've sent save the dates to about it.

We didn't really want lots of kids at our wedding as the venue just isn't really geared up for them (unless the weather is nice, then the grounds are lovely!). And when we have spoken to parents to put the feelers out most of them said they would rather have a day away from the kids!!

Having said that, I think we will still put a small sentence on the RSVP part of our website where all guests have to RSVP just to clear things up.

I think in the end we'll only have OHs cousin's little boy who will be just short of 2yrs old and possibly one young baby on the day.

We had, "Please note, due to restrictions on numbers *** and *** are unable to celebrate with their younger family and friends, so please take this opportunity to relax and temporarily pass on the responsibility of children to willing friends and relatives"

I'm starting to panic a little bit now as we didn't put anything about not bringing children, but we have just thought they wouldn't if they were not on the invitation.

Thanks everyone! Obviously the consensus is to add it on!!! I've talked to h2b and he doesn't want to put it on - in fairness it's only his friends who have children, so he's said he'll just tell them beforehand. He's also got no problem going back to people who RSVP adding their kids names on, saying we're not having children, so I'm happy to leave that with him! I wonder if any poor couple has had people just turn up to the wedding with their children?!

We banned them as well (apart from a few family ones) but didn't have any specific reference to them in the invites.

We just had names on the invites, which just happened to not include any kids.

Hi,

We're having no children to the day. Was thinking of putting something like 'children are invited to the evening reception starting at........'

Dont mind them coming to evening as I see it as a party! Going to try and make it easier for guests with children and inviting there parents/child minders along to evening. It's really tricky.