No Gifts please

It's actually pretty common nowadays to ask for money towards a honeymoon etc.

We've just put wording similar to this:

The greatest gift would be to have you as our guest at our wedding however should you wish to give us something we would appreciate money towards our honeymoon.

Or something like that... I can't remember the exact wording.

As I'm sure others on here will tell you.... It's recommended you don't sugar coat or hide it with one of those awful poems! If you're going to ask for money don't hide behind a cheesy poem to do it.

You don't really need to say anything. People will then either ask your parents, who can say money, or will most likely give money anyway.

We had a line similar to Pugsley to say that if they wanted to buy us a gift, then honeymoon vouchers would be appreciated and gave our code.

Please don't use a poem.

XRX

We put on the back of our invitations:-

We are looking forward to your Presence rather than your Presents!

Dont be concerned over which gift to buy, a contribution to our honeymoon would best apply.

Our Evening reception is H2B birthday bash too - he is celebrating a special birthday! and I thought what the hell might as well do the wedding on same day (much to his shock when I finally confessed what I been up to and that I had nearly all the arrangements in place for our wedding) he won't forget anniversary so we included that on evening reception invitation.

We have friends and family coming which is going to cost them a considerable amount with the ferry and hotel costs so we have told them their presences is more important to us and we don't want anything from them.

Kept it short and simple is my advice.

We didn't mention anything about gifts or money in our invitations. A few people asked my parents what we would like and they had a few ideas of actual items that where needed / appreciated (eg some decent tea towels!) but by the most part we had cash or euros (everyone knew we where going to France) and only a few random gifts...a few bought us some random things that have been put away in a safe place! I was honestly overwhelmed by the generosity of our friends and family and was happy for them to do whatever they saw fit. Hope that helps.

This seems just as bad as a poem to me, sorry!

I agree with Mrs C that you don't really need to say anything. Your guests will know that you're renting and need money more than gifts, and although you will inevitably get some gifts from the people who think they need to buy something because giving money is crass, you shouldn't get too many.

If a couple doesn't have a gift list I would just give money and I know a lot of people who are the same. I would hate to buy someone a set of wine glasses only to find out they got about 5 sets from other people. Cash is easier for everyone.

My suggestion is to not put anything on the invitations at all, but tell all your immediate family and closest friends that you'd prefer cash because you're not settled into a home yet and wouldn't have places for anything. They can then spread the word to other guests. My mother get the 'aunt network' going with gossip pretty easily and it works well with messages like these, too.

I've have used a poem on our invites which applies to us as we have lived together 7 years already. I have put it on a card with all the info for our hotel and booking reservations for the night if people want to stay with us. Some of them are awful, but I love the 1 I have used. Each to their own though xx

We weren't going to put anything on the invites and just let our Mums and friends let it be known if people asked that we would prefer money rather than gifts, but now we have had our Mums ringing us saying Auntie so and so wants a list and Grandma doesn't understand why you don't have a list, whereas friends were the opposite saying they would just give money anyway. In the end to help with the older relatives who were pretty much demanding a list we set up a honeymoon gift registry and we chose gift experiences that they could buy us rather than just giving money because my mum said that they wanted to feel as if they are buying us something. We put little cards with the registry address in their invitations and on the website we just put a little statement saying that rather than a traditional gift list we had selected experiences to help make our honeymoon the trip of a lifetime. I also told Mum that if Grandma still doesn't get it she should tell her we need some new towels ?.

The famous no gift question ! I ended up not putting anything ... people will ask ! Before I heard hitchers opinions on it I was going to do a poem ! Lol x