No Interest

If you're focussing more on the marriage and being married rather than just the wedding then that's a good thing I think! Many people can't see past the wedding (one day). It's your marriage (a lifetime,hopefully!) that counts.

I go through phases like that honey when i think i cant be bothered and then other times im buzzing round like a complete nutcase cos im so excited!!! its normal ? x

Hi there

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have three months to my wedding, and I love my H2B to pieces and i cant wait for that day, but i also, bought my dress in the one i saw in the first shop / Venue - once i saw it that was it, booked it. Just finished my invites - dont intend to send them out till april -

Haven't done anything else at all - We have the money, but i am really not interested in the small things - maybe i should be - i really dont know!!! But i totally understand where you are coming from.

I know everything will just come into place and everything will be fine - as long as the day is Sunny / He is at the top of the alter - that is all i care about!!

Thanks for the reply girlies, i feel better knowing i'm not alone, i was thinking there was something wrong with me. Other family memebers are flapping about my wedding day and i'm just doing owt for the easiest. i just want to get married and run off to the honey moon!!

I'm with you! I'm looking forward to marriage, I love him to bits, but all the decisions just overwhelm me. I feel like I'm running late all the time because everytime someone sees me they say, "have you done xyz?" and seem shocked when I haven't.

I have a venue for the whole thing, I have a registrar and I have a man. At the end of the day, that all you need and everything else is just decoration. It is your day, and you can have (or not have) whatever you like. I bought the second dress I tried on (in the sale, it's hanging in my back room - one in the eye for the tutters), booked the first photographer we met, and booked the first venue we saw. If you like it, get it. Don't worry about people's opinons about your attitude. As long as you're happy, and he's happy that's the main thing. Of course I don't begrudge my family and friends being there, nor do I mind the money we're spending (although it took me a while to get over it!) it's just I want it simple and stress free. It's a wedding for ONE DAY, not a part-time job.

Go forth, and be chilled. Sounds like you're getting on with it, (as the venue is booked) and you can't change it. If you really don't mind about these things, is there someone you trust to delegate to? Or someone to narrow the choices down for you?

I'm with you too! I am really looking forward to the day, but I'm not all that fussed about the details. I'm paying the florist/dressmaker/cake/venue enough as it is so I reckon that they can worry about the details for me I'm also leaving my bridesmaid to arrange her outfit (I'd rather she was happy than I forced her into something she hated), and I don't think anyone will notice that my invites don't match the flowers. It will be a great day regardless because I will get married to my lovely h2b with all our family and friends there.

I think also cola it's the timing - I haven't really done much for the last couple of months, and I think when you start planning it's a mad flurry of activity - getting the suppliers all booked, and then it just settles down a bit, until the last couple of months when it goes mad again (which, perturbingly is going to be a massively busy time for me at work...)

If there aren't still big things outstanding, I'd justchill for a bit..

Our wedding is next week and everyone keeps telling me that I'm too calm! I actually wish everyone else would stop stressing aswell! It is quite wierd for me as I'm usually quite a perfectionist and anxious person but like you've all said - as long as we both turn up and the registrar is there I'll be happy. Everything we've got is gorgeous but if the flowers are wrong and the food isn't what we asked for I don't actually really care - who else will know?

We booked the venue and photographer a year ago, booked everything else in January, picked up my dress today and made all the placecards, favour boxes and stuff last week so I've actually got nothing to do now except look forward to the day :o) I'm glad really chilled out about it - I'm really enjoying the run up to it and don't think it would be so much fun if I was a nervous wreck and stressing over the little details! hehe!

Fellow bridechillas!!!!it could be that i'm chilled because theres a lul in what can be done (as said above)but i think its all in hand, lifes too short to stress about little things, first things i've found in my buget i've bought.

i may be too trusting in the suppliers but as long as OH turns up nothing else really matters!!! although i am looking forward to exchanging vows ?