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Beginner May 2015

No longer a wedding or relationship

maxi-qu, 9 February, 2014 at 05:27

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This isn't something I thought I would be writing, oh and I split up yesterday. after 6 years together. after finding fb messages sent a year ago (very flirty ones) I asked him why? And after a few hours talking he admitted he didn't want to get married and he was doing it because he thought it was...

This isn't something I thought I would be writing, oh and I split up yesterday. after 6 years together.

after finding fb messages sent a year ago (very flirty ones) I asked him why? And after a few hours talking he admitted he didn't want to get married and he was doing it because he thought it was what I wanted and would make me happier. He then went on to say he didn't think he was mature enough to be in a relationship and we are at different points of our lives.

so 2 days ago I was planning my wedding and now I need to cancel it. Also move out of our house (that we rent together) and in somewhere else.

thanks for all your help with everything so far, you can see I won't be staying on the site for much longer, however I do have 4 bridesmaids dresses never worn and a wedding dress that will never be worn so might sell those on at a later date, when things have blown over a bit.

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  • Erin8
    Beginner June 2014
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    I am really sorry to hear this. At least he was honest with you eventually, he should have been from the start! I hope you are getting lots of support from your friends and family.

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  • TheMrsMeFo
    Beginner April 2015
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    Maxi-qu I am so sorry to read this, like the other posters have said, it is definitely better you seprate now than after the wedding. I went through similar back in 2008 with just over a year to go until I was due to get married, my other half at the time came home told me it was over as he didn't want to get married. I also found out that he had been sleeping with a girl from his work and also been texting / calling a girl who he met on a night out!!

    The emotions you will go through will vary so much, but keep strong as you deserve so much better. Just get your friends and family around you and am sure they will support you through it all. You'll come out smiling at the other end and be a stronger person for it.

    I would make him call the places to advise that the wedding is no longer going ahead.

    Keep your head held high chick xx

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  • ebony_rose
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    So sorry.

    I know how devastating it feels. I have cancelled 2 weddings, and the support I got from Hitched was great, so please don't feel you can't stick around.

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  • H
    Beginner August 2014
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    Really sorry my heart goes out to you. Most of us have been there it will take time but you will be happy again. Just take it day by day at first. Don't forget to hold your head up high. Sending loads of love. Xx

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  • M
    Beginner May 2015
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    So sorry to hear this Smiley sad what an arsehole!

    take care x

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  • Saralou39000
    Beginner October 2015
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    Keep your chin up. You are going to find out that you are stronger than you think. It will take time but I promise you will come out the other side. In the mean time make yourself busy with plans - dinner in the week with your girlfriends, some drinks at the weekends, visit family/friends in UK and as another mentioned - book a holiday. It will do wonders.

    Sending you a virtual hug xx

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