*NOSEY POST ALERT!* If you are paying for your own wedding as a couple...

We have both contributed equally.....adn from this month its 300 each per mth to wedding savings account (we have a house joint acount too and then seperate ones each lol)

But now u mention it, us ladies WILL have to pay for extra stuff!!!! but then im doing it for him so i look pretty and he thinks WOW when he sees me i guess ?

I have control of all of our money anyway OH doesnt c his wages unless he needs something, sounds a bit harsh but i pay all bills with it, shopping and put wedding savings away and whats left over we use equally or on our little boy, so we r paying equally 2 the wedding really (we both earn about the same btw)

But what I mean flow is that because we are saving the same amount each and my outfit will cost 8x what his costs HE gets the raw deal IYSWIM

You see, I didn't think about this until this week but I suppose this would have been the fairer way to do it but luckily OH doesn't seem to have cottoned on!!

Everything except my dress/hair/beautifying will ultimately be paid for jointly. We earn approximately equal salaries and have similar levels of disposable income. I have a spreadsheet that I fill in whenever I make a purchase which automatically updates to give me current contributions from my account, his account or the joint account. What a saddo. ☹️

Why dont you make it up with little surprises / gifts?

Like on the morning Im going to have his best man give him man u cufflinks...

Im also getting this /

And Ive got him a man u certificate.....a personalised garter courtesy of Debbie Howe.....and not sure what all else yet!

I wouldnt get bogged down with thinkin about it monetary terms - a brides dress is generally going to be considerably more than a suit hire! x

In our relationship there is only myself that works. H2B has no savings, and is on job seekers allowance. I work for myself. Therefore i think he has put about £300 in the budget and i have put most of the rest, and his family gave £300 at xmas which has been used to pay for the wedding

Our poor parents are paying for most of it. The little odd bits and bobs we will be paying for equally, for example the flowers and car.

Lol, or just never tell him how much the dress cost?*

*Not really lol. This is actually my tactic.

Lol, or just never tell him how much the dress cost?*

*Not really, lol. This is actually my tactic.

Im pissing myself laughing here LOL

Technically, it is me who is paying for all of the wedding and the honeymoon as it comes out of the money I earn. However, Mr CB pays all of our day to day bills (including rent and mortgage, insurance, heating etc) except for the running of my car and the council tax.

His money is for necessities and mine is for niceties! We also have a pot that we can both dip into that we both contribute to - him each month, me in lump sums depending on when I pay myself from my business.

All said and done, it's joint money.

We put a certain % of our wage into a joint account which will pay for the wedding. I earn less, so he will pay more - but essentially we will contribute the same % - which is more relative to what we earn than splitting it down the middle. I see what you mean with the dress, shoes, etc. But I think that's just the price the men have to pay unless they want us nagghing them, he he!

I am pretty much paying for our share of the wedding. That being because until I qualified we didnt have ANY spare cash, so when I qualified all the extra cash goes towards the wedding. That way we dont really notice day-to-day having to pay for the wedding.

OH is paying for it. He's the only one that works (i'm a full time mum), so his wages is our sole income. He doesn't class it as his, he classes it as "ours", which works well for my shoe collection ?.

Same for us too! Although I *may* be selling one of my horses which will go straight in the wedding pot. OH also doesn't have to pay for his outift as he'll be in his RAF uniform which saves a bit ?

Well, this has made me cotton on to a few ol' things. I knew I was contirbuting more from the start - which I do moan about when I am really mad. I took a relocation away from my family and friends and gave up my rented house in order to save a huge amount each month - he does his best, but doesn't always come up trumps - for example I saved £1,000 this month and he saved, erm nothing and has designs on a new 50" TV from our savings.... Interesting idea darling...

Also, although we are saving in our joint account for the wedding, all these "things" I buy day to day for it go through my own account - from adding it up, it must be a good £1,000 or more which has gone from my "own" pot so to speak.

Hmm.. H2b better start being nice!!

Same for us, since moving in with OH April last year, I had to leave my job so at the moment OH is paying for everything, although I do feel a bit bad, ive been trying to buy little bits and pieces along the way and trying to get the best deals I can, and currently searching for a job, as soon as i get one, i will start contributing towards the wedding more.

We are really relaxed and dont see our wages as yours and mine, it all goes into one account, and the leftover is going into the wedding fund

We are going thirds on our wedding (third my parents, third in laws and third us). Although my parents paying for everything of mine and bridesmaids in addtition :-).

In order to save our third of the money, ive probably saved a little more than my fiance (but we earn the same). We have been saving for nearly 2 years.

My OH earns double what I do (Cos I only work part time), but tbh we don't look at our money as seperate money.. Once he earns it, it's basically mine once it's in the joint account cos I have controls over all spends and sort out all our finances/bills/wedding purchases etc.

I have never thought of it that way before! We have pretty much just seen it as saving for our occasion. We are paying for it all ourselves, his parents were quite enthusiastic about helping, but we have said no, and my parents didn't even offer.

I think H2B will be paying a much larger contribution, he earns more, and we figured out what we could both afford to save per month, and have been sticking to it. He has a savings thing that will mature soon that is going in to the pot, and I am just about to get a small bonus that will also go in. If I ever bring anything up like this, he would just say that we are a team, and there would be no point having a wedding we didn't want just for the sake of him only contributing the same amount as I could afford.

Having said that, he has capped the amount that I am allowed to spend on my dress, saying that if I go over a certain amount that the excess above that comes from my money and not the wedding fund, which I think is fair enough. He got a bit concerned when I told him the price of some of the dresses I had been looking at!!

Not really thought about this till this post.. We both contribute as much as we can.. I work full time and oh stay at home dad but he does occasional bits to help his mates so any money he earns goes straight to the wedding fund.. But I guess I pay most of it.. lol

I do this too!!!

We both save what we can each month into our own accounts... mine is more £ as I earn a lot more but the % is about the same.

I have a set amount that I save each month and transfer on pay day, but if I can buy anything out of "spare" cash in my current account I do, that way I am not touching the honey pot and there seems like there is more in it!!!!!!

Only 2 more pay days till the wedding.... eeeek!

Mrs C - the number of paydays till the wedding is a very scary thought indeed!

As I am relocating either just before or just after the wedding and starting a new job, we don't know when exactly my last / first paychecks will be, which is a worry. going to try and save at least 2 months wages to keep as a contingency.

We pool all our money, so it isn't really a case of who saves what. We're only setting a small budget anyway, so will just put in what we can when we can

Hmm interesting question.I think I assumed couple paying for themselves were splitting it equally, so it is interesting to see the different situations people have.

After M proposed and people started hassling us about a date, the first thing we did was grab some bridal magazines and work out a budget, and work out from there what we could both contribute each month. Luckily we are both in good positions in terms of wages, so we are saving 400 each a month til next August which will hopefully include some money for a honeymoon too. It sounds like such a lot, but it is easy to see how it could spill over.

My mum has offered to pay for my dress, and I know his men's outfits will be considerably less! So I think OH is getting a better deal out of it! ? Then again he is using all his savings to get us a house deposit togther so he views 'his' money as 'ours'... I have nothing but an overdraft to share with him!

We are trying to do everything equally, and I wasn't planning on having hair/nails/make-up professionally done anyway (just not 'me'). I also found a stunning pair of shoes that will be ideal for my wedding - sounds awful I know, but they are ballet pumps, flat (I don't do heels) and comfy and will be hidden under my dress anyway (hate my big feet!) and they were £10.00...so I got 2 pairs in case I wear one down with dancing! Is that really awful?? My friend was horrified and wanted to take me to luxury shoe places etc and I just can't bear the thought of cramming my feet into expensive heels and being uncomfy all day and having spent tons of money on them!

Not awful at all. Personally I'm all about the big flashy heels, but it's crazy because as you say nobody will be able to see them under my big, puffy dress, lol! It's YOUR day and only you know what's right for you. If they're the shoes you like, then they're the shoes that you have! ?

Same here.

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