Not bridezilla, but guest/family-zilla moments... share yours

I love these threads!

I had a "Would you mind cancelling buttonhole?" from the MIL2b! I dug the heels in and said NO and that I had ordered them all to match!

I had "Are you paying for our hotel?" from my cousin of all people. Now I know they live abroad and for them it is extremely expensive to come over, but that one is a step TOO far! I am on a budget as it is!

or:

"can you not ask for bowls of fruit dotted around at the wedding breakfast? Everyone likes to have a grape or something to refresh after a meal" - from MY MUM!! [No, Mum, it's not on the menu, if i order that i pay more on the side etc] LOL bless her!

Not a zilla moment, but FIL2B couldn't understand why he had to fill in a menu now. "Can't we just order what we want off the menu on the day?" Bless, this is the first wedding in their family for a long time. H2b thinks that the last wedding they went to was possibly their own!

My MIL2B, who is usually the most unassuming woman you could meet, said 'we've been thinking, you should invite the Best man's parents so they can see him do his duties on the big day'... Erm, no thanks!

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There are no words for this FF!!!! OMG

Quite! She really showed her true colours.

I had the "Can you book our room and pay"! erm....no (we did have to pay for one room when they didnt turn up sigh)

My dad at the champagne and pimms reception "Please can you open the bar as I want a proper drink, I'm not drinking this crap!" erm dad it was free and the bar was only shut for half an hour!

My personal fav - my husbands best friend of 25 years took us outside and proceeded to say "is all this a front, because we and everyone in there only give this 6 months to a year"!!!!! NICE!

FF

i can see why you left that out of the report.

Hmm well this weekend OH mother had an almighty nagging session to get him to make his brother part of the grooms men (she pushed for best man even telling him one of his potential choices wouldn't be able to do it because he hasn't asked yet!) at this point should say OH has selected no one for his BM and ushers yet and his brother was not even on the potential list we were going to ask him to be a witness like my older sister suffice to say brother is now an usher and OH is reassesing the potential list of bestman and usher to accomadate this.

I am shocked as his mum is usually paranoid about interfearing I am also a little bit cross!

My zilla moments have been by my mum. So far I have had...

I want a 2nd outfit to change into it's red and strapless... told her you can't my bridesmaids are in red strapless

When i do my speech I have to be stood next to you because her OH is filming it... I said no one else who is doing a speech will be standing next to me they usually just stand at their seats... she's having none of it!

She has randomly invited some of her friends to my hen do (I don't think I have seen them since I was about 9!)

I still have four months to go so lets see what else comes up lol!

OMFG!!! that is disgusting! I don't know if I could've controlled my anger!!

OMG!! Did you smack him in the face? Me and OH had a bit of a falling out last night over the guest list as he wants to invite one of his friends who I don't paticularly like. This is exactly the kind of thing I can imagine him saying on our day and if he does he will be shown the door with my stiletto up his bum! x

Can't believe this one - bloody cheek!!!

I haven't really had any yet but i've still got 9 months to go!!

The only thing that's annoyed me so far is....

OH's daughter is being our flower girl and she's got a gorgeous dress with little butterflies on so i've brought her some little clips with the same butterflies on. Bearing in mind her hair is the curliest, frizziest hair i have ever seen and the only thing that we can do with it is put it up in a top knot sort of thing.

Now her being a typical 5 year old wants a tiara, like a princess, but i'm not that keen on them (sorry) and am not having one myself so i've said that she can't have one either, wicked stepmother i know, lol.

So we go to pick her up one day and her grandmother says "Oh M***** said she's not allowed a tiara for the wedding she's only got clips?" My reply was "she's ONLY got clips because they match her dress".

We go another day and the grandmother says again "we'll buy M***** a tiara for the wedding?"

Uuumm NO, if i wanted her to have a tiara i'd buy her a tiara!!

Now their saying that their going to buy her one and she can wear it after the ceremony, i'm sorry but no, i've spent alot of money on her dress and the accessoroes to go with and she will not be changing!!!

Sorry that turned into a really long rant, lol!

xxx

Guest wanting to bring their friends whom we have never met to the service where every seat had already been allocated.

FF - I'm really sorry but I actually laughed out loud at that and then was ? - Am really not surprised you left that out. Do you not get on with her, or was it the drink talking?

Casino Girl - OMG I can't get over how hugely rude and inappropriate that is/was. I think I would have asked him to leave (after I'd thumped him) ?

Penny - I didn't take it to heart! While I think there was an element of drink talking, I think drink just loosens your tongue to how you actually feel. I gave up trying to get her to like me a long time ago - she once said it's not that she doesn't like me, she'd just rather I didn't exist so she could have DH back to herself again. At least now it's clear to everyone that the issues are hers and hers alone!

CG, what a charming man!

I had "if my dog's still around, you know I won't be coming, don't you?"

From my Nan.

Oh and, "so is this place a hotel?" "not a hotel, so is there a hotel next to it?" "oh, so what am I going to do about a nap?"

From my OH's dad!

My family expect my sisters to be my bridesmaids, which is fair enough, but my Mum is insisting that one of my sisters if my maid of honour, rather than my best friend. She has also suggested that I shouldn't include my best friend as a bridesmaid at all!

Ah, I see. She is a mother with issues. Well, you have all my sympathies and a zombie hug as well for her being a cow ?

God, I hope I'm not like that when my son gets married.

This is a brilliant thread!

Oh. My. Gosh. @fancyfree - glad it didn't affect your day!

@casinogirl - was that the one that was rude to you before the wedding as well?

My guest-zilla moments have been

OH's friend: "Are you going to have a free bar all day?"

Same friend: "Will I be getting a plus one?" - he's not even seeing anyone!

OH's brother: "Can you invite xx and xx to the wedding" - this is OH's brother's friend and his girlfriend - OH and brother grew up with the boy, but he was always more the brother's friend and OH hadn't seen him for 10 years before the brother's wedding, I've only met him once, and neither of us have ever met the girlfriend!

But you know I read this thing about askers and guessers - apparantely askers will ask something even if they don't think they're likely to get it, 'cos what's the harm in asking whereas guessers will only ask something if they think the person they're asking it of will say yes - and guessers (which I think I am) find askers incredibly rude because of it!

You know what, I don't think I have any guestzillas... ?

Had one strange request though, from OH's cousin. "Can you ask for a highchair for Z please?" Now, this is only a strange request because of course we have got her a highchair - she will be 8 months old, what exactly did they think we were going to do? Let her roll around the floor or something??

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ETA: I had a small flowergirlzilla moment when my 4 year old niece announced that she was wearing her 'Belle' fancy dress outfit rather than her bridesmaid dress but I don't think that counts?! ? It's more cute than zilla!

None yet, but with 9+ months to go there's plenty of time ?

Some of these are outrageous ?

Shocked at some of these, especially Fancyfree's and Casinogirl's!

Mine aren't really as bad, but here goes anyway. One guest in particular is an elderly aunt of OH's and only lives directly over the road from PIL2B so she was one of the first to receive her invitation, since we handed out the ones we could before posting the rest. Afterwards, we heard from MIL2B that this aunt was apparently straight on the phone to OH's grandad and his other 2 aunts, asking them if they'd had their invite yet and exclaiming dramatically when they said they hadn't ?

The same aunt also phoned PIL2B about 3 or 4 times during the week after receiving her invite, asking why her son and his fiancee hadn't received theirs yet (they were invited, but just got theirs slightly later because it was a posted invite) and that she wouldn't be going if they weren't. It's just a bit rude and embarrassing if you ask me!

I've also had a friend say to me "Am I invited all day?" which, although not zilla as such, is still really rude in my opinion!

The women on OH's side have just been quite mental too to be honest, loads of them have been ringing MIL2B saying they've not heard anything about the hen night and are they being left out (one of these I might add is doing a reading in our ceremony, why would I leave her out of my hen do?!), people I hardly know have been asking MIL2B if they can come, madness! They're also unbelievably nosey! Always asking MIL2B when I'm doing this, what I've ordered for that, bla bla bla.

That turned out to be a longer post than intended! ?

Flippin heck stazzle your calendar is under two months. *stares*

Any news on the veil yet? It'll be exactly 4 weeks tomorrow since I ordered mine and they're going to get a call from me...

Yeah...your '60 days' is freaking me out too!! ?

No, still no news! I actually dropped them an email yesterday because mine is 5 weeks today. If they don't respond I'll be calling too!

Hmm. Starting to worry now...Oh well, give them a call and see what they say I guess, but they should really have let you know if it was going to be over 4 weeks.

No hun, this was a new one - but they are all friends so no surprise really.

TBH ladies, I just ignored him, I had a fantastic time and refused to give it any energy x

Loving this thread. Some real shockers on here, glad it didnt spoil your wonderful days.

I have only just announced our wedding so no gremlins as of yet.

I've only had two but they were very strange.

Our families have been pretty great about it all but my MIL best friend, who I've met only once before, has been really weird. She forced me to take her daughters tiara and veil as my something borrowed (even though I directly said I'm not wearing a tiara or veil) and then insisted FIL2B is the cheif photographer....err no he isn't. Then she tried to get us to change the wording on our invites, AFTER they'd been sent to printers, to ask for money instead of presents. I'm not asking for either, thanks!

My best friend also came out with the corker 'I think I'm going for a floor length, strapless grecian goddess dress for your wedding' Me: 'Oh, what colour?' Her: 'White'?

Like they say: "In vino veritas!" ("In the wine is the truth" or if you really wnat to know what someone thinks listen to what they say when they're drunk!) LOL

O just remembered another one...my cousin telling me before he knew we had a date set that we should get married at a weekend so he'll be off work the next day! I was BM for him and his wife and they got married on a tue!!