Not bridezilla, but guest/family-zilla moments... share yours

LOL My mum has already bought 2 outfits as she wants to change into a different one for the evening do ...

No way! Surely that's a joke, no???!!! ?

Some of these are outrageous

A couple of weeks ago my MIL2B was round and I mentioned I was having no adult bridesmaids just my H2B daughter as flower girl. She turned round at that point and said I have to have a maid of honour otherwise who will look after my H2b kids? I could not beleive it!!! Was raging when my H2B came home from work lol.

17 months to go and i've had a few,

My darling mother is picking a colour for her outfits that clashes with the colour scheme (cream and brown) at the moment its tourquise(sp) and hot pink, She also wants us to get married in somrset even tho only 14 of our 150 guests live there, and we've paid the deposit for our venue!

FIL2B wants us to organise reduced rates on bitter - he is the only person we know that drinks bitter (and he tends to drink larger more often),

My nan and grandad asked for an early afternoon ceremony so they cld drive up, attend then drive back (200 miles each way, and their first grandchilds wedding) Oh and my nan is making our beautiful invites (but she's panicing i didn't send the sample back on monday - i only got it on saturday!)

sorry didn't mean to rant x

I read that as "butter" and thought, why on earth does he want reduced rates on butter - what a wierdo ?

I must not scan threads or perhaps I should in fact go to bed!

Reduced rates on butter wld drive even me over the edge lol

Not had many bizarre requests yet, but the ones that stick out so far are...

"Ah mate, can I bring my Sister as my plus one?" From a girl at uni who I hardly know and would never dream of inviting anyways!

"So what do we actually get as guests? Is it just food, drink, accommodation? What?" From my best male mate! I was livid for days after because he didn't mean in an enquiring way, but more a, 'what will I get in return for driving from Bath to Norfolk?'

Uni mate: "Can I have a double room at the hotel, not just a twin?"

me: "erm, you'll have to enquire when you book your accommodation, but you do know that there is no accommodation on site, don't you?"

her: "oh right, so do I have to pay for my room then?"

me: "yes, we can't afford the wedding and to put everyone up for the night."

her: "oh, umm, so I'd have to pay for my hotel room."

me: "umm, sorry, but yes, like I said, we just couldn't afford to pay for everyone."

FFS - how difficult a concept is that to grasp?!?!

"Can I be your bridesmaid?" From three different people at uni and three different friends from home.

"What will we be wearing, as bridesmaids?" From a girl at uni who I never would ask to be a BM, I'm not even sure I'd invite her to the evening do, just because I don't know her!

"Can I be your Chief Bridesmaid?" From my Brother's partner! She would be a BM anyways as I love her to bits, but I thought this was really rude - as it's an honour, not self appointed!

Oh and my Mum is wearing her wedding dress!

What??!!

It's not been too bad so far, initially OH's sister asked us to change the date so she could attend a workmate's wedding...er..no!

Probably the worst thing is when I asked my mum to draw up a list of her friends that she would like to be invited (the idea being I would then have final say, since we're paying for it) - she gets back to me with a large list and the words 'I've text them all and they can come'!!

I've not really had any moments, but i have had a few people who have come upto to me saying dont forget my invite...but where was my invite to her wedding last year??? not that it bothered me not getting one but we dont really talk so why does she think im going to invite her and her family? another friend has told me dont forget her invite, when only a couple of weeks ago she got her son christened and again got no invite....why do these people think im just all of a sudden going to include them when they dont include me, it needs to work both ways??? x

Ooh La La!! Do you live in LooperVille?! And is it the University of Incredible Rudeness?! ?

Shocked at some of those...and how the hell are you feeling about your mum wearing her wedding dress? ?

(nice to see you by the way! I hope the initial planning's going well!!)

I think that the general rule of thumb is that you've been married or are planning a wedding, you understand the general etiquette of a wedding and most other people are ignorant as to how expensive weddings are. Well, I like to think that, rather than people are rude and see me as a pushover, hence asking these questions! lol

Mum told me ages ago (durning the BIG argument) that she was wearing her dress....along with "I couldn't give a FKUC what you wear" even though she knows I have body issues - this was when I said I'd love her to come dress shopping with me. I was told her name had to be on the invite as hosting it, even though we're paying everything....I was told what food we would have, what flowers we would have, what the men should wear, that my Dad's family weren't to come, that my OH's guests should be limited to OH, his Mum, Dad and Brother, that her choir were going to sing and the ceremony and would then need feeding at the reception, that she is walking me down the aisle, that the main attention should be on the bride, but moreover the Mother of the bride and that the "groom should turn up, say his lines and have very little input in anything else." I was told that we couldn't have a sponge cake, we had to have fruit and that we had to have something fizzy to toast with as my idea of Pimms or local beer and cider was "sh!t" - Note how all those things actually are fizzy!....blahh, blahh, blahh! This was all ages ago, hence why we've gone for a neutral venue and are keeping everything quiet until she receives the Saves The Date!

.....at least her dress is red I suppose, but it is still her wedding dress.

FIL2B demanded we change our wedding day to a Saturday instead of a Monday because it doesn't fit with his schedule, we told him we were getting married on the monday because its our anniversary of getting together and he said he didn't care and that we should move it and now isn't coming. Then he tried his hardest to get us to miss our deadline with the registry office by refusing to give us his birth certificate which we needed for documentation for our wedding license. He was hoping if we missed the deadline that we would have to move it to the Saturday, tough on him because we negotiated a longer deadline with the office and have ordered his birth certificate ourselves

Some on here are just so rude, i've had a few little comments from people:

My Aunty on finding out we'll be serving wine that will be costing us £15.95 a bottle: "y'know your uncle will only drink Blossom Hill."

My 25year old cousin "can i have the Chicken Nuggets from the childrens menu instead?"

with 12 months to go to the wedding, Aunty #2 demanded to know the address of the venue because she was panicking wanted to book her room NOW and didn't care about the speacial rates we'd get. ha ha needless to say she didn't get it, she has been nagging ever since (even had her on the phone on xmas day nagging) my invites with details are only going out this week with a ref number on for discounted price.

my cousin and Aunts going on a top secret shopping trip to John Lewis' to get their 2nd outfit of the day (they some how feel it necessary to change for the evening???) it just made me laugh that they were going to John Lewis' - They are all common as muck.

Not had too many tbh.

Family friend to mum, 'what colour bridesmaid dresses is your daughter you having as XXX (her daughter) has a nice red one she could wear' I've only asked family to be bridesmaids and that's what it's staying at.

OH's aunt to me, 'so how are your bridesmaids related to you and why have you picked them and nobody else' sorry I didn't realise I was being interviewed by the CIA, probably because we didn't ask her daughter to be one, of whom be hardly see.

Most of my negative moments have been little digs that have been made...I just ignore it now and think 'you know what it's our day if you don't like it don't come'...simples!

I've been married for nearly 8 years but the one I remeber most was my uncle telling me that he couldn't come because he was flying his plane that weekend and didn't want to miss out on his flying.

The guy flys nearly every weekend, but couldn't miss one day to attend our wedding........

This thread is AMAZING!

As I've only been engaged since April, I havent had much in the way if guestzilla moments but I am now starting to worry!

Only thing I've had so far that annoyed me is that OH's dad and brother seem SO concerned about whether our venue has draft beer or not. The first venue we were going to book (but the people running it turned out to be complete idiots) didnt have draft, just served cans and bottles. When I told the brother that we were going for a second viewing there all he could say was 'but I just dont like the idea of drinking out of a can' - err I dont care what you think!

Then, at the place we are probably going to book (fingers crossed) we will have to do the bar ourselves - well buy the beer/wine etc and get someone to serve it for us, and all they could say was 'how are you going to get draft installed' - if you want to pay for it then thats fine by me! Alcohol is such a small part of the day for me, yes wouldnt it be nice for everyone to get a bit merry but isnt it more important that we get married and have the day that WE want?

Why do any of these people think they matter in any way? At the end of the day its our day not theirs and we will have what we want! ?

Sorry bit of a rant there! ?

After reading these posts never has the hitched phrase 'Your Day, Your Way' rang more true.

tell em all to shove it and rescind the invitations if they don't like it!

Hi, I'm bumping this thread to ask some advice. I'm currently writing my thank you cards and I don't know what to write in one for MIL. She didn't get us a present or a card. After the behaviour, I don't feel particularly like sending a nice card that tactfully skirts the issue that there is nothing to thank for (not just present-wise or financially, also didn't contribute towards the wedding in any way with moral support or even helping decorate etc). Any advice?

Don't send one?? ?

Seriously though, it doesn't sound like you do have anything to thank her for? If you feel obliged to send one then I would get your H to write it.

Thank you for your son, he was the one good thing you ever did?

Seriously, don't send her one if you have nothing to thank her for!

I wouldn't send her a Thank you card then. You simply can't make up something to thank her for if there isn't anything to thank her for! LOL! Unless...wait a minute, I think I am having a thought... yes, that's definitely a thought! OH! Now I'm having an IDEA: thank her for bringing your husband into the world!

Wicked... yes getting him to write one was my first thought but *sigh*. I dunno, I feel like if he does she'll think she behaved in a correct way?

Recently a good friend who lives abroad and will be coming to the wedding has asked me not to use a specific dress model for the BMs. i sent her an email with the two designs the girls were trying to decide between and she picked one of them and said that she had that dress for a wedding and her heels kept catching the hem at the back (it's a dress of just over knee-length at the front and floor length at the back (just above the floor) She emailed me with the text: "Please don't use that style dress..."

Sounds like this is something that will, understandably, stay with you for a while. In which case, it's a separate issue from her thank you card. Send her a simple 'thank you for your help' card as will be expected but make sure your H tells her that this upset you. ?

Thank god for this thread!

Not cos im happy that people are going thro crap but because im not the only one going thro it! Its one day, my day and people are so rude and complete ba****s that they cannot for one second be happy for us, not jealous or over involved and shut the hell up!!???

I think from now on when people ask me stuff im just gunna behave the way they do and see if they like it!!! That would give them a shock!

Phew, rant over!

I love this thread!

Me and h2b took both sets of parents round our chosen venue yesterday afternoon (before booking - yay!). Told my mother that I just wanted the parents and no one else, as would be too many people, so she turns up with my uncle as well! Grrrrrr

Best part was when the wedding co-ordinator firmly told my mother that it was my day and no one elses, and that that is the most important thing! Brave woman!!!! Ha ha.

Mil2b putting h2b down over venue, my nan telling me that nobody will want to come to the wedding coz they will have to drive there and therefore cant get drunk (because obviously im getting married for everyone to get pi**ed), nan also telling me that aunty wont make bridesmaid dresses because she wont have the time (not that bad i can manage that was just the way she said it).

Mother told my H2B (whilst I was out of the room), that there is no way she will allow my best friend to be my MOH, and that it will definitely be one of my sisters. Not decided whether I want my friend to be bridesmaid yet, as I've always thought I'd just have my 2 sisters (and don't want to offend other friends by not asking them), but my Mother is tempting me to have her as MOH with her behaviour! Grrrrrr! ?

Oh god.. everyone must be fuming with all this lot.. lol! Ive had a bit of a teeth gritting moment...

After 2 months of trying to sort my seating plan and lots of tears later (cuz i cant have top table and Oh's parent are split and hate each other)... We had decided to have just us and Bridesmaids and best man and Ushers on top table.. so i chose 3 friends for my side and OH wanted his best friend and 2 more close friends.. SORTED!!.. ahem nope!... Invited Oh's brother and wife and kids up for the weeked (they live in london) and whilst the boys went off for beers.. his wife says to me.. her: Whos OH's best man then? Me: well its A*** obviously Her: oh! Me: why whats up Her: well C***** wanted to be best man! ME: Oh well sorry he already chose...

What the F****!!!?!?? hang on a min.. they have lived in london for years and Oh has seen his bro maybe 4/5 times since he was like 15.. How would he do a best man speech about the groom and what hes like.. HE DONT KNOW HIM! ufffff..

Oh and had another annoyance when i told my mum i only was having 3 adult bridesmaids.. and she said in front of my sister "oh so what dress is ur niece having".. umm now how am i guna say shes not a bridesmaid.. and now ill have to have OH's Niece too.. 2 more dresses to buy!!

RANT OVER! HEHE X