*Now with Flashes!* Can I have some honest opinions on whether I'm being childish, or if it's OH?!

Do your nails however you want.

He's being a child, not you. How odd of him!

He's definitely over reacting, but my question would be why? For him to feel this strongly suggests there is something else behind it. Let him calm down, then have a chat and ask him about it x

He is being childish.

You're a grown woman who can do what she pleases with her nails. His reaction is nothing but ridiculous.

He went bananas over a few rhinestones? Oh dear.

Do them how you want too, he will get over it, he might have forgotten by the time the day rolls around!!

I am not a fan of nail 'art' and I tend to think it looks fairly low-rent. However, they are your nails, so it's your choice.

With regard to your partner's response, I think it may be understandable if this is a Law Ball, an Oxbridge College Ball or something. I don't think your nail decor will fit the tone (and it sounds wildly out of step with the rest of your outfit anyway). It's completely over the top if this is a p*ss up with mates.

It's definitely an over-reaction on his part, but if this is going to cause a massive rift between the two of you, is it really worth it? I'd just go without the rhinestones.

Bit of an over-reaction by OH but why not compromise & put just one rhinestone on each little finger. You still get the bling, but maybe a little classier & he may not even notice.

I find it an odd comment to make about nails. Is there something else behind his outburst I wonder? Personally I'm not keen on rhinestones on nails but it's each to their own and not worth having a hissy over so I do wonder if there's more to this. What's your dress like and what is the occasion?

Sounds like an over-reaction but again can depend on the type of ball and how many you were going to put on?

I think hideous is definintely a bit over the top, but if it really bothered my OH I'd probably not do it, esp if it's his friends you're going to be meeting...

This is the most bizarre thing I've ever seen. I don't understand why he would even care?

This is bizarre. I've always told my H2B that his opinion on what I wear are welcome but if I disagree I'll still wear what I want. I have a pair of dogtooth check tailored shorts that he has a weird dislike of but otherwise, he's never really objected to anything. This is a preposterous over reaction to a rhinestone and I'd just tell him to stop being so ridiculous.

My thoughts:

1) No, he can't blow up and dictate and blackmail in relation to your appearance or choices. That's not ok.

2) When my OH makes comments on my choice of appearance, I listen to her. Because I value her opinion. Sometimes she's right and I'll change, sometimes I tell her she's no idea what she's talking about and go with my own instincts. It's the same the other way round. But then, neither of us would ever tell the other what to wear/do, we'd just give our opinions.

3) Pick your battles. What is this about, you wanting to wear the rhinestones, or him telling you what to do?

Finally - no, you're not being childish.

I don't think my OH would even notice. I actually admire people who have the patience/skill to do nice things with their nails, I don't! He is being childish, not you.

Sorry but this is such a petty thing for either of you to be bothered about. Is your oh worried about making a good impression at this ball or is he nervous about going? Might explain why he reacted this way. If this is out of character for him I'd just not bother wearing the gems this once.

Hmm.... his reaction is really odd and over the top. Let him calm down and try to get to the bottom of it.

Is he feeling under pressure to impress at this ball e.g. because of work or friends or whatever? He might know that it's going to be quite conservative in tone and is worried about what other people are going to think/say?

Either way it's for you to decide what you want to do with your nails and he shouldn't dictate to you.

Thanks everyone for your opinions.

There's a big agricultural/country show near us this bank holiday weekend and they do a pre-show ball every year the Friday night before the show starts. It's basically just a marquee in a field, with dinner and a live band etc. We go every year, with our friends. I know most of the people we're going with and get on well with them so it's not as if this is the first time I'm meeting anyone. You always get a range of outfits from ball gowns/black tie to people looking like they'd be better off in a nightclub (think really short luminous pink dresses they're falling out the top of!) A single rhinestone on each nail certainly wouldn't look out of place or lower the tone.

https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/clothes/00100002194.html <--- that's the dress I'm wearing

That's the nail style I'm using, although like I said intending to do Nude/White (although the colours above have got me thinking now as would match my dress!) I would have only put max 1 on each nail, possibly even just one on each thumb or something.

I've never put rhinestones on my nails and actually looking at the picture I may not bother as I think my nails will look busy enough without the rhinestones, I just really object to being told what I can and can't do. I think SillyWrong you hit the nail (pardon the pun) on the head. This argument is now not even about the rhinestones, its about what they represent and how I refuse to be dictated to and blackmailed.

As others have said its really not worth the argument and if he'd just made it really clear that he disliked them I probably would have agreed not to wear them, but he's made such a fuss I now feel like I should wear them out of principal, even if I don't like them (which I know really IS childish of me!)

I think it's all stemmed from when I went to boots the other day to the make up counter for some more foundation and they did me over with the new products. He really didn't like the way she'd done my eyes (I wasn't mad keen on them either but didn't think they were that bad) and he was desparate for me to take them off. We were just at home so I said it would wait until bedtime because I didn't want to waste face cleanser/wipes when I'd do it again at bed anyway. In his strop yesterday he claimed 'he didn't even know who I was anymore' which while I know that wasn't really what he meant, I think he's concerned I'm going to turn into a chav or something (I'm not!) He's just a stubborn little s*** and so closed minded it drives me mad ?

Cover your nails in gems and stick a huge pair of skyscraper heels on. Bloody cheek.

The dress is stunning, however blue nails with a blue dress would be too much IMHO.

He's acting really weirdly!

I'm not huge on the blue nails, but think that would look nice in nude/white. Or you could just do what Mini said.

I would see how many gem stones of a range of colours I can shove on there and maybe even wear them elsewhere too (my sister used to have one on her tooth about 15 years ago)

Wow, it sounds like a complete overreaction from him. He's being very unreasonable to refuse to go becuase of a little nail art! My first reaction was to tell him to eff off and wear what you like on your nails, but there has to be more to this and I agree with 'chooseing your battle'!

With the ball being tomorrow night I'd forget about the rhinestones, you might be disappointed but you don't want to ruin a good night out by being mad at each other. I do think you need to get to the bottom of this when you're both calm (&sober!) though.

Is he from a place and time where women should be seen but not heard?!

Do what you want to your nails. How will they effect him at all?!

Is he often like this about your appearance? I find it strange.

My husband would likely feck off before dying of boredom if I was having my face done and chances are would not notice anything different unless I was painted like a smurf perhaps.

Ok, firstly, ahahahaha! Some of the comments on here are hilarious! But more importantly, your fella is over-reacting. Worth getting to the bottom of, because it must be something more than a bit of bling! Worth sitting down and talking about it, make sure it isn't just controlling behaviour. I love the nails without the bling actually.

I sort of think you are lucky that your OH even notices your nails. Mine doesn't ?

Absolutely this. The comment about the makeup I found a little concerning too. It's not for him to dictate what you wear or don't wear.

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My OH is funny about make up too, he doesn't like heavy make up (I hardly wear any anyway) but my friend is doing my make up for the wedding and he keeps saying to her that she must not use too much or make me look 'not like me'. I think he is worried I am going to come in to the wedding looking like Alice Cooper or something! Men are funny creatures.

I don't know why, but when I was a kid I hated it when my Mum wore red nail polish. No other colour, just red. I'd get really angry about it. Still don't much like red now on me.

Exactly this.

And now, having seen your gorgeous dress I think your nails would look nicer just plain nude. (But I am an old gimmer)

Ok, so the nails are done... without the rhinestones!

I have put the stripes on and I quite like them. As soon as I tried to sit H2B down to have a proper chat about it he immediately apologised for the overreaction, he'd had a rubbish day at work and unfairly took it out on me, so that was hurdle number 1.

We had a proper chat about the nails, both put our points across and established it was about so much more than nails for both of us. I'm not prepared to be dictated to, and he felt like I didn't care about his opinion and that he was losing the 'pretty, natural looking girl he fell in love with' (his words, not mine). And that this was all a slipper slope to ending like a Barbie doll. I explained that if he'd just said from the outset he really didn't like rhinestones and thought they looked tacky I probably would have just agreed not to wear them, but when he tells me I can't it just makes me want to do it more!

He then pointed out that I made him promise never to wear his horrid faux snakeskin shoes he bought before he met me as I can't stand them, and clearly rhinestones have a similar affect on him! I'll still use the rhinestones at some point I'm sure, but I'll save them for my hen weekend or similar girly event, and not a ball... now I stop and think about it probably wouldn't have gone with the dress anyway, but when he had a strop it made me more determined to do it!

Anyway, all is well and we had a proper kiss and a cuddle goodbye this morning before work rather than yesterdays half hearted 'bye' shouted from the top of the stairs as neither of us was prepared to find the other to say goodbye properly before he left ?

Although I do like the 'f*** you' on the eyelids suggestion, that's genius!!