''Oh no you're not!'' Things You've Banned Guests From Doing...

I say this all the time, ha ha!

It was 3 double sided sheets (outer card) comprising of the invitation and all the information, with an rsvp card and envelope inserted loose for people to reply.

*shrug* semantics I guess, all the same as far as I'm concerned. Just considerably more than the usual time/date invitation that's all.

Nothing at all,i expect though...everyone will be taller than me,even my 16 year old daughter is taller than me with my 4 inch heels,my OH is 6ft 3 so i have accepted i am a short arse and will continue to be a short arse on my wedding day.

Noise from kids...i fully expect my three year old will comment as i come down the isle and speak to myself and oh a bit throughout the ceremony,he will be excited and when i have a dress on he always comments and say's i look nice (well trained!)

The one thing that i don't want though but hopefully anyone who knows me well enough will abide to is i do not want facebook pictures put up..esp throughout the day.

I agree completely with AJ and I have done the same thing and included a Guest Information leaflet (a piece of double sided A5 paper included with the invites). It has full address of ceremony venue and reception, gift info, confetti advice as one venue is picky about it and a general order of the day. It has saved so much time and everyone knows where they are going.

I agree about the shoes issue as I went to a wedding a few year ago where it was all grass in the gardens, no hard standing at all where the welcome drinks were being served and pics taken and as such the women were staggering around and wobbling on their heels because they were sinking. Most of them said I wish I had known about the grass. My venue has steep gardens as it is on the side of a cliff essentially and this information is on my guest info leaflet.

I wrote these as the information in them is what I would want to know if I was a guest. If people want to ignore it then fine, but at least I know I have given everyone the information about the venues so they can make an informed decision about their travel plans and outfit.

The only ban I have for my guest is about Facebook. I don't want my wedding on there at all but stopping my Facebook mad friends will be a challenge.

HA HA HA HA! AWESOME!

Back to shoegate...

The way I read it, AJ suggested people wear sensible shoes. He didn't insist, and he didn't say no heels or anything of the sort.

My fave shoes are simular to this:

- lots of velvet which would be ruined should they get wet and would have to be binned if they got muddy.

Going from what AJ said, i'd probably now opt for something like this:

which are leather and so wipe-able post dirt / water, and with a wider heel so I don't spend all afternoon digging my heels out of the grass.

This does of course assume I was a guest at AJs wedding, but you get the point! I know it's vain but at no point do I want my red velvet shoes ruined so yes, please tell me! Same for someone who mentioned the cold - if I didn't know to bring something warm, and found an outside wedding, I'd have to leave early as I'd be a right moany witch!

I would still wear 5" heels and just get OH to give me a piggy back.

I've read almost all the posts and I am very much bored of "shoegate" it has totally took away from the OP, anyway how can it be deemed as patronising to give your gusts the heads up on wether it be we advise you to wear sensible shoes, we advise you to bring something warm for the evening etc etc I doubt you add this info as a stance of authority "you will do as I say" its ridiculous. We had the same thing when we went to my OH's wedding in France - Sun screen is a must was one of the comments on their invites I dont think poeple were offended and thought excuse me! We will sit and burn thank you very much.

In answer to the OP

If a family member or firend rocked up in jeans I would be a bit miffed, but to be honest nothing would get in the way of me having the most amazing day ever.

Hmmm this would be worrying. Was meant to read OH's "brothers" wedding

I love how Flat shoes have suddenly become 'ugly' you can get loads of pretty flat shoes out there, and tbh, despite only being 5ft 1 (and a half) i would probably opt for flat shoes because i hate being uncomfortable. I think it's a nice idea to say to guest that it may be muddy under foot.

Our venue doesn't have a cash machine. i still need to check with our venue about their policy on cash back etc, although i'm assuming that won't be an issue, but if it is, I will be warning people that there is no cash machine in our venue or indeed in a 5 mile radius of it.

Some people do appreciate the thought, and if you know the people who are getting married, then that kind of information wouldn't be misconstrued as being tedious or patronising.

Just sayin'

To answer the OP, though, I'm banning guests from doing anything, but I might check through OH's speech before the day because his humour is sometimes a bit odd and I have a horrible feeling he's going to want to put on a funny accent.

Really? I think that's perfectly reasonable ?

I wont be banning anyone from doing anything but I really hope people wont fuss, worry or moan and just go with the flow on the day. We're not really doing anything 'weddingy' in terms of the structure of the day, the plan for the day will be flexible based on the weather, and I really want people not to mind about that. I am generally very relaxed and want our day to reflect that (if my OH was more laid back he'd be horizontal!) but the only thing that winds me up is other people getting wound up!!

Yes.? in my opinion. You had your pennies worth. i'm having mine! Anyway, like you say, moving on...

P.s. I'm bored of 'shoegate' too but I would be quite happy to have the heads up to save me ruining my shoes (but then would still wear the pretty ones and take them off/ get OH to carry me) ?

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G&T anyone?? ?

yes please. Large for me ?

Me and OH broke up for 6 months - he asked if he could mention the 'divorce' as we call it in his speech. He thought he should ask in case I had a look of stone when he said - at first I banned it but actually it will be hilarious!

Everyone will look really akwardly to me to see if I'm laughing!

Mr C told everyone about how I tried to dump him at 1am by text after 2 weeks... I was a little mortified but I did laugh when he also told everyone that I now refer to that whole episode as a "wibble"...

@ RKB - oops is that bit re the cash machine patronising? I've mentioned it on our wedding website too... ?

I have done so as our venue is in the middle of no-where (about 10mins to somewhere with a cashmachine), and there isn't a cash machine onsite, and you can't pay by card. I know its a bit like saying "And bring your wallets stuffed to the brim please" - but i'd rather that than have guests going thirsty as they have no cash for the bar!

OOPS! thanks for reminding me of that - our venue hasn't got an ATM on site and is actually about a mile from anywhere with a cash machine and half a mile from the main entrance to the grounds - hmmm how to word it???

I am trying to ban people from wearing leisurewear. This is mostly aimed at h2b's friends. No common sense. I want to ban goth gear but I can't. No getting ridiculously drunk. No smoking illicit substances (like the groom was at the last wedding I went to)

I wasn't saying that part was patronising at all! ? Our venue is literally miles from anywhere, and i don't know if our venue will be able to accommodate everyone paying by card all the time. We're going to mention it on our invites (most of our guest's who stay in the area already know this, but i suppose it's good to remind them! )

I know what you mean with the "Wallets Stuffed to the brim!" sentiment. I think a lot of our friends will find this amusing as they already take the mick out of me for being a country bumpkin.

Definitely worth mentioning the lack of a nearby cashpoint - it was a massive shock to me when I moved to the country (where I live now) that the nearest cash point was at least 6 miles away and doesn't even always have cash. When I lived in London I almost never carried much cash, and would just get out what I wanted when I needed. Now I carry more as I've finally got used to certain pubs not taking cards at all, and the nearest source of cash being our Spar!

Mine's a double! ?

I haven't banned anyone from doing anything ... yet! My nephew's just asked me what colour his 4 year old daughter should wear and tbh I hadn't even considered that I would be asked this question! She can wear what colour she likes. I may take the opportunity to say that I don't mind as long as it's not a denim dress!!

Also, I won't be insisting that the children are kept quiet. If I didn't want to run the risk of them making noise (I mean seriously, you can't keep kids quiet all of the time - especially when they're bored and anyone who thinks otherwise probably doesn't have them yet!) I wouldn't have invited any.

This is pretty much our stance too. There will be just shy of 20 kids at our wedding, ranging from 2 weeks old to 16 years old. I am not even slightly under the illusion that they're all going to sit silently for half an hour. My 3 kids can't even sit quietly for half a minute! As we're very child-oriented people, it will only enrich the whole experience for us to have it include the odd "heckle" from a small person! I'd be upset if any of my friends and family members felt they had to excuse themselves from the ceremony because of a chatty child.

My 2 year old can't either! Luckily my mum will be on hand with him on the day!

Sammyjay - totally OT but I've just looked at your ticker. Not long to go now for you!!

I thought it was law that there is always a fight at a wedding, or is that just the ones I ahve been to! ?

I have never seen anyone wear denim to a wedding and ive been to loads.....

I banned MYSELF from singing. I have sang at many peoples weddings, some out of request, some out of sheer alcoholism. Everyone then expected me to sing at my own wedding and i said NO!

I sadly couldnt ban one guest from smoking dope at our reception, the arse.

Unfortunately I have...my cousins wedding, and my uncles step son turned up in jeans and trainers...personaly I would never have let him out of the house wearing it!

And there is more than likely going to be a fight at my wedding now my SIL2B is coming :/ she is a nasty piece of work and always starts trouble! GREAT!