OM back with a dilemma :-(

Ooooh tricky one. On the one hand, it's their big day and if they want to get hitched in Vegas they have every right to go for it. That said, I can't imagine deciding to get married somewhere if I knew my family couldn't be there.

Perhaps you could try having a casual chat with him and just putting it out there that you might not be able to afford to travel to Vegas. I wouldn't put any pressure on him to change his plans to accommodate you, but at least make him aware so that he and his fiancée can make an informed decision about where to get married.

I'm in a very similar situation but for me it's one of my best friends.

Her and her OH got engaged in may and decided pretty much straight away that they were getting married in vegas in 2012.

Straight away all of our other friends were saying yeah we'll be there etc but there's just no way i'm going to be able to go, we've got our wedding next year then hopefully will be thinking of babies in 2012 so to spend 1k plus is just not of the option.

Someone mentioned they watched friends of their get married vis video link on here not long ago, could that be an option for you and your sister?

Yeah, I think a wee chat might be needed.

Also worried about my mum, she's not been ery well recently and I think a long flight would be a lot for her to handle...

Och, I know, it's thier day, thier way :-) Will shut up and be as supportive as I can :-) x

I understand that it may not be the wedding that you want your brother to have, but if its what he and his girlfriend want then you have to respect that. I don;t mean to be rude so please don;t be offended, but have they actually said they want guests? They may just want it to be the two of them.

If you are unable to make it, perhaps you couldorganise a party for them when they get back which you will all be able to attend?

Sorry you are a little disappointed!

First of all, I am so sorry about the redundancy - I hope something comes up for you soon. Yes, they have the right to get married wherever they like but I would still talk things through with your brother and give him the heads up about you and your Mum.

Hope you're OK and make sure you give yourself lots of TLC, and more importantly, lots of biccies! x

By all means have a chat with him, but TBH he's probably already expecting it.

We're getting married in Bali, and were well aware that if this was the road we chose to go down, then we would probably be doing it on our own as it's so far for people to travel. As it is, the only people that will be joining us are my Dad and (possibly) step mum and OH's best mate and wife will be coming across from Oz too. We knew that this was going to be the case before we booked it all, but we did it regardless. In our case, it was to avoid some massive family problems, but that doesn't mean that we're not going to miss the people that can't be there - just that this seemed to be the simplest solution to what could potentially be some nasty family issues.

Maybe your bro will have a ready thought out solution or compromise? Perhaps there will be some sort of live video link so that you can watch the ceremony and not miss out on the important bits.

I know it's crap, but it's crap for them too in relation to the people that they would really rather have there; it just also potentially solves some even crapper situations and family arguments too.

Good luck, and I hope there's a solution that you're all happy with x

Hey Bringiton

I know exactly how you feel My brother is getting married in vegas next Friday!! No one from either family is going just them and they are having apary when they return.

They announced their engagement after mine and I felt terrible as my parents had already committed money to my wedding so I felt like I was stopping them from going. My mum was a little put out by it all but my brother has decided that he wants to do this so thats his choice.

Not sure how I will feel about it next Friday when I watch it online - will keep you posted

Hi

I can understand your disappointment at going from being happy they are engaged to feeling sad that you won't be able to share their day with them - but it is their day & only theirs (in a way, if you know what i mean). And personally speaking, i wouldn't got for getting married in las vegas as it's not my thing either but sounds like the traditional sort of UK wedding isn't them either, and it's all down to what they want for their big day really isn't it?

Have a chat with your brother, explain that you're very happy for them both, say how you feel sad that he may not have any or many family to share it with him, then maybe go on to ask him if he'd be up for the family having a meal/party/gathering afterwards?? They may not want to pay for a big party afterwards but maybe the family would be happy to all book and pay for a meal to celebrate their marriage? It would give you all something to look forward to.

Sorry to hear about the redundancy... ?

If they only got engaged recently, might their plans change still and this might be a "thinking out loud" idea?

I agree and I think it is really up to you.

I thought it was but didn't want to say for definate and make a fool out of myself, lol.