OMG! Could really use some support :-)

Looks like we are giving in!

Haha guests ills, love it!

Oh my god Becca - I really feel for you. I have problems with planning requiring compromise with my OH but I know that he would stick up for me whatever.

I honestly don't know what to say. As you say, it seems the decision has been made for you through your SIL2bs brattish behaviour and the totally unacceptable stance of your OH. If it were me, I would probably announce that I was having nothing to do with planning the wedding, everyone else can do it, I won't be paying for anything and if nothing happens I honestly couldn't care less.

How badly do you want the wedding? Although it would be daft to cancel it for the sake of one guest, that can be enough of an issue to spoil the process. Maybe some time out from planning would be good for you and your OH. Down the line he might see your point and change his mind to meet yours. Just as they are being difficult, you both can be by pulling the rug out from under her feet.I am so angry on your behalf about the SIL and MIL 2b and your OH.

Bless your mum for being so lovely, make the most of your time choosing a dress with her.

Put your foot down with FMIL and say if she wants the 5 guests she has to pay for them. Say the same with the hotel room for SIL. If they want the family in the same hotel she can pay for her. Tell her you haven't got the budget for it and unless they want to contribute to it it ain't gunna happen!

I agree though call your OHs bluff. Say to him it's all getting to much and you don't know if you even want a wedding anymore. Once he sees how upset it's making you he may be more willing to tell his sister and Mum where to go.

Can't really offer any advice beyond what's already been said, but the behaviour of your future SIL is just shocking! ?

OMFG.

I'm not sure who i want to slap more on your behalf! The FMIL, the FSIL or the OH.

No way in hell would I give in, especially now. Every single one of them sounds to be being completely unreasonable. She has got no grounds whatsoever for kicking up a fuss about this. It's 30 minutes without the kids, and you have laid on a babysitter. My FSIL would probably try persuade the babysitter to take them for the whole day!

Its your day, and its your decision. Dont let them bully you in to backing down and changing your decision if you ultimately dont want to. I can perfectly understand why you wouldnt want them there for the ceremony. Last thing you wont mid I DO 2 kids fighting and squabbling because they are bored.

And to be perfectly honest, I would be having serious words if my OH was threatening to cancel the wedding if I didnt change my mind. If this is happening before you are married, whats it going to be like afterwards?

As for paying for her hotel room? I'd pay for it and then insert the room key somewhere painful upon her person :-)

WSS

If you and OH are happy with the decision to not have children, then stick to it. Point out to your OH that she most likely will come, she is just trying to get her own way. Be strong, she wont miss her brothers wedding, if she does act like that, then its her loss. I know your OH must feel awful but he cant let his family hold to random for things.

Stick to your guns, with families like that (believe me i have experience lol) its one demand after the other, 1st she's saying to have to pay for her room, then she said she wants her kids there, whats the next demand gonna be. unfortunately with people like her you and OH need to make her understand that you are not going to give in everytime she kicks up a fuss!!!

Wish i could use my own advice lo, i have a nan in law from hell lol

x

Dont have any other advice to give other than what has already been given. Id say stick to your guns though and may try calling your ohs bluff!! best of luck with it all!! xoxo

I think a lot of us on here are upset and annoyed for you. Feel like some help and back up straightening this girl out?? ? I think lots of gals on here could use some stress release

Disclaimer: I am not seriously promoting violence incase something "accidently" actually happens to here and the blame ends with me lol ?

That actually made me lol! When I offered to make her disappear I was referring to a magic trick and not a Mafia hit!

Haha, I did assume you meant some sort of Mafia Hit!