It's an amazing position and a fantastic opportunity for him career-wise but there's so much to consider. I'm not currently working and have been applying for jobs with no luck for a few months now. I would get a visa too and would be allowed to work but I don't know if there will be any more opportunities there or not.
I don't know if I can leave my family, my sister is expecting a baby in the next few weeks and my mum is having treatment for breast cancer. We're very close and I don't want to leave them but neither of our careers are going anywhere at the moment so I feel it would be stupid not to take the opportunity. He really does need to change jobs, he's not happy where he is and he risks getting stuck there if he doesn't move on soon.
We have discussed him going without me but it seems pointless me being on my own in the UK with no job, I might as well be with him. But then there's the family thing plus his holiday would be rubbish (3 weeks, which is half what he currently gets) so there wouldn't be much opportunity to come home to visit (I could come on my own of course, finances permitting). If I do get a job here (UK) I will stay as my career is too important to turn down an opportunity but do we really want to be apart for 1-2 years? I should point out btw that we are both academics, hence the reason it's hard to get a job and also the reason why it's not a good idea to turn down opportunities like this. We've always known that we might have to live apart for some time but the facing the reality of this is not easy. He has also said that he will consider going without me but will turn it down if I ask him to (I couldn't do this though!).
The job is actually permanent but he wouldn't stay for more than a couple of years as we don't want to move abroad permanently, that's one thing we're certain about.
My main worry if that if he turns it down what if in a year from now if he is still stuck where he is? In this scenario I think (and he agrees) that he will really regret not taking it.
I'm not really expecting anyone to advise, I just thought it might help me to get my thoughts down in black and white as I am so confused. If anyone has been in a similar situation though I'd love to hear how you handled it.
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