OM's How much do things change once you've got married

Nothing really!

The only thing I would say, and it's hard to describe, is that we feel more solid so little disagreements seem to matter less. We still have them but we don't seem to dwell on stuff so much at the minute.

It's almost like 'well we've made this huge commitment to each other what's the point in dragging out arguments?'. I still don't think I've explained that very well!

We were together ten years by the time we got married.

Thanks Kharv - this was the sort of answer I was hoping for ?

We got married after being together for 4 years, we'd stayed together for a year and been engaged for (exactly) a year.

It feels very 'right' for us to be married and we love being husband and wife and i feel we are more open to planning our futures, talking about children, it all seems much more real now and i feel we go about things as more of a team. But for the little day to day things i would say no it doesn't feel any different.

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I think it depends on whether you lived together before marriage & how long you went out beforehand. Also, what your expectations of marriage are.

We were together 9yr before getting married, having lived together for 7-8, so not a massisve change. Def feel more secure though & I dont have constant arguments about the lack of commitment now!

I'd say no difference at all. We didn't really argue before, and we don't now. We're both very very busy with work and then there's always something to do round the house - same as last year before we were married. It's nice to be "official" though, and not "living in sin" ?

Odd one out here.... massive difference for us as we didnt live together until we were married, naturally we did spend a lot of time together. To us it makes it all the more exciting and special, IMO if I'd spent all that time/energy/money on our wedding and there wasnt a big change I would be fumming, but that is just me, I can be very old school at times.

I'd say that day to day, things are pretty much the same, we'd lived together for over 4 years. I do feel like it's a bit more special now though and I'm still enjoying the novelty of being able to say husband and wife instead of boyfriend and girlfriend.

It's nice to show that we've made a commitment and are a solid team. We've been commited to each other for years but to me, referring to my boyfriend could mean that we'd been together 5 minutes. I don't think I've explained that very well but hopefully you get the gist.

I also agree with the others that disagreements don't seem to matter as much.

We had been together 5 years and lived together for 2 years by our wedding day.

I would say things have changed - not day to day - but only in an emotional way. Just the feeling of happiness and security. Plus the fact that I feel a lot more confident in myself since.

Exactly this.

Nothing has changed for us but everything feels "complete".

I agree with this.

Just before we got married I said to a friend that I didn't expect to feel any different as OH have been together 9 years and living together for 7, but my friend said that they felt much more settled and relaxed once they were married, and she was right! Its a lovely feeling to know that you have made a solid commitment to each other in front of our friends and family.

I'm not an OM yet, but I can't imagine it changes things anywhere near as much as having children does.

agreed

Me too! Nothing concrete changes but emotionally it just takes it to a bit of a new smug place!!

Getting married meant I could throw my ring at him, instead of the lamp/plate/child - whatever was at hand.

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I second the fact that day to day nothing is going to change. I have a nice new shiny ring *snigger* but thats about it.

However it does feel more solid. Little arguments dont seem to mean so much, I quite like saying "my husband" as opposed to "boyfriend" (we never used fiancé-grim)

We had been together a year when we got engaged and had been living together 2 years by the time we were married.

They dont change. You feel more secure but that's it. I know some people who have wed thinking things would improve or change. They don't! If there are issues in a relationship, marriage will not fix them.

We had been together 10 years when we got married and lived together for 7 years so nothing changed as such, we felt more of a unit and you're in a bit of a bubble for a few weeks after but then life just goes back to normal.

I can't say I've noticed any difference, but we've been together 9 years, living together for 7 years. I don't particularly feel more of a unit, or more committed, just fun to call him 'husband' every now and then.

We do live with two housemates though, and I think things might have felt more different if we returned to a place of our own (we rent in London, could never imagine being able to afford a decent place on our own - and plus my housemates are ace).

To be honest nothing has really changed that much as we have been together for 7 years and living together for 5 years. Suppose I just feel comfortable, although maybe a little too comfortable as i did ''pop off'' quite loud the other day and H looked around in utter shock.

Well we've only been married 3 months, but I'd say nothing changes (other than my name hehe), the only slight difference is that we know and feel more committed to each other. We already lived together but feel more cemented if that makes sense, as we made our vows and fully meant every word, that was the important part to us. Other than that, everything is much the same.

We were together 2 years, moved in together for two years and then got married this april.

Hubby says it does not make any difference or feel any different to him, but to me it does. I feel like he can't leave me if I piss him off ;o) I say that even though I'm a divorce lawyer ;o) I felt that way since we got engaged.

Bizarrely I feel closer to Pascal, although if you had asked me before wedding, I would have said that we couldn't be any closer. Every once in a while it hits me that we will be together forever more and it feels like the nicest feelng in the world - and other times it's a little scary!

Love married life!

We were together 2 years, moved in together for two years and then got married this april.

Hubby says it does not make any difference or feel any different to him, but to me it does. I feel like he can't leave me if I piss him off ;o) I say that even though I'm a divorce lawyer ;o) I felt that way since we got engaged.

Bizarrely I feel closer to Pascal, although if you had asked me before wedding, I would have said that we couldn't be any closer. Every once in a while it hits me that we will be together forever more and it feels like the nicest feelng in the world - and other times it's a little scary!

Love married life!

Nothing has changed as such but we seem to feel a lot closer.

This was the same for us. I just feel even happier now we're completly commited to each other

No changed when we got married apart from me being called by a different name. But that's it.

Aimee x

We have been together about 5 years, lived together for 2, we always go through phases of rowing and phases of utter bliss and nothing much has changed. OH has always referred to me as his 'missis' and 'wifey' so he just does that more. I changed his name in my phone to 'Hubby' and that's about it!

We definitely felt stronger and more secure together afterwards. Nothing much changes on the day-to-day level but it's great just knowing that this is for keeps in a way that I didn't think was possible before the wedding.

He's being extra nice to me, cooking for me and bringing me tea .... it's been a week how long do you think it will last?

They don't but then we married as we were happy together and didn't want anything to change.

However saying this I do agree it's soooo nice to say my hubby... Still make me smile and use it at every occasion ?