OM's - your wedding disasters...

My dress broke as I was being laced up! I had to be sewn in!!

Brilliant idea for a thread JoJo!

My main disaster was my original venue cancelling our booking and us having to go all the way to Australia to find a new venue! I was pretty peed off at that, but in the end, the new venue was way better than the old venue and we got some compensation from the old venue for breaking our contract.

On the day, I found out via my SIL that a guest was a vegetarian but hadn't bothered to tell me. I was all ready to serve her the biggest plate of steak the kitchen had, but the kitchen dealt with it without a problem.

Apparently some guests walked in after me, but I didn't even notice.

Someone trod on my dress in both the abroad wedding and home wedding and broke the bustle.

At my sister's wedding, the vintage type bus that they'd booked to take the BMs to the church broke down so they sent a car instead...which was too small!

Great idea for a thread, and reading it is making me less nervous about my wedding in 18 days!

Waitrose messed up our order for afternoon tea. I'd selected a lovely array of cakes and sandwiches and the plan was for my auntie and uncle to pick it up on their way to the reception venue after the ceremony. We'd also got a few cakes from Tescos in advance which my mum had taken over the day before.

On the day itself, we arrived at the reception and only had the Tesco cakes... Waitrose tried to fob my auntie off with only half the order, luckily she checked before leaving and made them run around to get all the other stuff on the list. Meanwhile we had to have cakes first and sandwiches after, when she finally made it there ?

Nobody minded, and funnily enough I never got charged for that £500-worth of food... so really, it worked out for the best!

I had meant to wear the ring OH proposed with (just a cheap one until I chose my engagement ring, but it was Welsh gold so quite pretty) as a toe-ring as a surprise. I forgot.

I wore my white flip flops the day before the wedding and got them dirty, so they didn't look quite as they were meant to when the photographer took snaps of my accessories.

We had travelled halfway round the world and spent a small fortune for hot, dry weather. We were to marry bang in the middle of the dry season. It rained.

One of my detachable sleeves self-detached as I walked up to OH and he had to pin it back on for me before the service started.

From the moment the service started, not one bit of all this mattered.

Ah yes, this reminds me that I'd spent hours attaching charms to an old plain anklet which was to be my "something old". I forgot to wear it.

Plenty of stuff happened on my wedding day that was a pain but in the end doesn't matter:

*My Dad and Step mum ended up at the local train station instead of my Mum's house.

*The TOG's sat nav took him to southport, 40 mins away, and so he ended up lost and late.

*The bridesmaid dresses were all too tight on the bust and the hook and eyes pinged off every single one of them.

*No one could remember how to do my dress up, so the hairdresser had to take charge

*a bone in my corset broke as i climbed into the car on the way to church and then stabbed me for the rest of the day in the ribs.

*It rained heavily all afternoon

*people kept pulling on my veil when they hugged me and my hair half fell down, the venue co-ordinator had to quickly put it back up for me and people kept standing on my train

*D dropped my train in a bush and a muddy puddle

*my sisters couldn't sort my bustle out so two of my cousins and D's grandma all had to get under my dress and sort it out instead.

*I then stood on the bustle during our first dance and it all came undone. Also all the netting underneath is shredded from my heels and people standing on the train whilst I was walking.

*my sister snogged one of my uni mates in her drunken state.

*and last but not least, at 10pm a tree fell down outside the venue, meaning people couldn't leave.

And not a single bit of it mattered on the day or matters now.

My dress broke in the evening and I had to be safety pinned back into it. I didn't care at all apart from the fact that it kept me off the dance floor for a few minutes ?.

I have been married almost ten years so sadly don't remember the details that well (having 3 kids since has also destroyed my brain).

All I know that at that point it was the happiest day of my life and the only time all my friends and family would be together, apart from my funeral - something to look forward to heh?

Some great stores here though, I'l have to dig out my photos and reminisce!!

One of the ushers got lost on a diversionary route to the venue and was late. I only found out when he and his OH apologised profusely later on.

On the morning of the wedding, the partition in the function suite wouldn't close and it was a really close call getting the room set up for the ceremony. I had no idea until about a two weeks later.

One of my flower girls was ill and had to miss the entire weekend. Obviously I knew about this the day before, and I am sad about it to this day, but it wasn't a catastrophe that I was a person down on the day. These things happen.

My hair completely refused to cooperate on the day, despite being perfect on the trial run. The part that hung down beside my face wouldn't curl at all.

As I left the hotel room to go down to the ceremony, the brooch on the ribbon on my dress broke.

The venue set up all the tables for the wedding breakfast backwards.

The fact that I've had to really rack my brains to think of these goes to show that on the day, even if things do go wrong, it really doesn't matter and these details aren't what you will remember about the day.

Love this thread.

* My florist wasnt able to get the correct flowers but only told me on the wednesday - got married on the friday.

*Made my own table plan but couldnt cut the lines straight so were all wonky.

*2 guests dropped out 2 days before and 1 didnt bother to turn up.

*Rained ☹️

*All the suits arrived but not all together.

*People kept treading on my dress while it was long and bustled up.

*Left my bracelet at home, luckily my BM let me wear hers - she turned out to be my something borrowed.

*The bow on the back of my dress flopped around, TOG had safety pins on him.

*Painted my toe nails at the last minute as my something blue, got it all over the underneath of my dress.

No one noticed any of this and on the day nor did !

Ive got quite a few, but it was still a perfect day!

We got married abroad as well.....planned a sunset wedding outdoors, it was cloudy (thankfully didn't rain until we were at the restaurant!

there was a power cut at the hotel when I was getting ready so couldn't straighten my hair, queue change in hairstyle!

husband forgot his belt for his suit so had to buy a fake one from one of the shops on the day of the wedding

stepdad forgot to bring socks to go with his suit (luckily I had bought him some as a joke!)

husband lost his wedding ring in the car on the way back to the hotel as he was messing with it - they had to search the car for it when we arrived back at the hotel to find it!

There was nowhere to hang my dress at the hotel the night before, so my dress spent the night on a sheet on the floor.

My TOG disappeared for an hour or so before the ceremony and nobody could find him. This may have been a blessing in disguise though as the only photo of me getting ready is me in multicoloured rollers and a man's dressing gown - NOT a look I want immortalised in any more than one photo, at best!

The florist showed up at literally the very last second.

One of my hair extensions came unclipped during the ceremony and started to slide down my natural hair. I just tucked the end bit into the front of my dress and carried on!

The MUA over-did my make-up and then scarpered - I had to 'adjust' it so that I didn't look like a clown. Seriously.

At the reception, the satin flowers on the side of my dress started to come off - so I just borrowed a few safety pins from the hotel reception and stuck them back on.

My MIL got so drunk that she couldn't remember how to pin up the bustle on my dress, despite knowing that she was the only one who would know how to do this.

My sister had too many vodka shots, cried inconsolably onto my chest, and dripped her mascara all down the inside of my dress. (Better than the outside, I suppose).

During his speech, my dad made a joke involving an actual piece of toast, which he then proceeded to eat. However as his mouth was so dry he couldn't swallow it, and had to keep shifting it around his mouth for the remainder of his speech, at which point he could secretly spit it out!

I forgot my shoes for the evening reception so had to spend it barefoot.

None of it mattered, though, in the end. ?.

We got a parking ticket the day before as we dropped the cake at the venue, we were in there 2 minutes and the traffic warden SAW us with the big 4 tiered cake. TWUNT.Its only money, we got our cake where it needed to be, its fine.

My make up was a disgrace so as soon as the MUA left I wiped it all off and did my own. We were running late but I just had my ten mins tears then switched my phone off and people had to wait! It was fine and it looked lovely in the end if I do say so myself!

About 50% of the guests were late for the church so a call had to be made to the bridesmaids car to pull over in front of the the bridal car on a country lane en route. We were then instructed to do laps of a nearby golf course for 20 minutes untill everyone had arrived. This was inspite of me putting "please be seated 20 mins before the service to allow for photos and the arrival of the bride" Our 1pm service finally got started at 1.25. Naughty guests, very hot and bothered bride, I thought I had been stood up! It didn't matter in the end though.

This one did matter, and still upsets me now. Stupid tog got no photos of me and Dad coming down the aisle. Then lied afterwards and said she wasn't allowed by priest. Priest is our cousin! ?

H got stung on the lip by a wasp during photos after one got in his champas, my dad put some whiskey on it and his sister has a piriton, all was fine!

The fans were on very loudly so guests at the back couldn't hear my Dads speech so he had to do it again and they had to be hot for the rest of the speeches! Its a listed building and the windows dont open, price you pay for having a gorgeous old chuch for your venue. It was only half an hour, they lived!

You honestly wont care on the day!

This made me think you have freakishly massive toes?

I think this is a very good thread. Anumber of things went "wrong" on our daybut it now makes the day more unique / memorable:

* Our stationery didn't turn up until the day (eg place names, seating plan etc) so there was a hurry to get it all set up and I though we weren't going to get them meaning none would have known where they were meant to sit.

* It rained all day. We have some really lovely photos of people posing outside under umbrellas like this one......

* The caterers "forgot" to serve the vegetarian food in the evening meaning vegetarian evening guests only had cheese and biscuits to eat.

* Some of my cousins got incredibly drunk and made a bit of a show of themselves

* Someone stood on my dress and as a consequence the bustle broke. Also, I lost a button off the back and one of the flowers on the strap.

* My hair didn't want to stay in place and began falling out.

But, I really didn't care about any of it x

Brilliant thread, perspective is a brilliant thing!

Hmmmm lots of dresses breaking etc. I am defo going to have some emergency safety pins at the ready now!

I packed mine months ago! I can see me getting stabbed lots of times as my mother pins me in.

Great thread. You just cope on the day & get on with it but these are mine:

- I too 'thought' I'd booked a venue in Sydney, to be emailed 3mths later seeing if I'd picked a date!!! Admittedly they hadnt taken a desposit but I too had to fly back to sort out another venue.

- FIL is a printer so always thought he's do the invites. After 2mths it was obvious he wasnt too fussed at helping, so went to a local stationer who also let us down. Guests got their invite less than a month before our wedding in Sydney- consequently NO guests from the UK came!

- My BM's hair looked like SHirley temple in ringlets, but with rough ends & really silly. WHen she turned around at the hairdresses, I laughed as thought it was a joke. We softened it a bit but I didnt have the heart to tell her what I really thought

- I forgot to put the garter on- my something blue

- It poured with rain (in Sydney!!!) so we couldnt use the golf carts to have pics by the lake, seaside or anywhere outside

- The TOG took NO family pics or portraits, nor any of the back of my dress with the train out

- To compensate for taking only limited pics & for giving us the final pics 2mths after promised, the TOG sent me a free enlarged pic from the day. She left this on my front door step, wrapped in just cardboard, just before a storm! WHen I emailed to thank her but ask why she hadnt checked I'd be in, she went on a huge rant about how she had gone out of her way for me by delivering it & how demanding I had been!

This is depsite me collecting all previous pics from her house, letting her sit with guests at the wedding & paying for a full guest meal as she knew someone else there, giving her an hour off during the wedding so she could breast feed, handing her the full payment within 1hr of getting the invoice & hubby fixing her computer problems for free during a meeting!

Nothing too terrible - or at least lookng back it doesn't seem that way now....

The local Zanzibari guy doing our invites got the colours wrong - bad enough but then managed to spell my name wrong as well - despite having the exact wording printed out;

OHs family didn't come - his mum went to visit her brother who was sick and his dad................ was working. This is after several reminders nd them saying yes of course we're coming. Ok so I can understand his mum feeling she had to be with her brother but.........

Very good friends not being able to get the wife's visa in time due to someone at work not doing their job properly;

My shoes killing me

And the TOGs pictures taking ages to arrive then weren't as fabulous as I had hoped.

OH has far more things he was upset about on the day than I did! The ones I can think of are: -

- OH's grandparents were unwell in the week running up to the wedding so we weren't sure if they were going to make it until the morning itself (they didn't).

- One of OH's (female) ushers was having a marriage crisis and decided she didn't know if she would be able to come to a wedding in the midst of her own possibly falling apart. She did make it in the end, but we had got to the stage of arranging a backup usher just in case!

- My hair and make-up took longer than expected, so the car arrived to pick up my BMs before I was in my dress, so they didn't get to help me put it on.

- I forgot my special "wedding" umbrella.

- The train up from London was delayed so several of our guests arrived and rushed in as I was waiting outside the hall.

- My garter fell down as I was walking down the aisle so I spent the ceremony with it round my ankle without realising. Fortunately I think only my BMs noticed!

- OH's flower came slightly undone from its buttonhole so in half the photos it's kind of flopped down. He is far more upset about this than I am.

- Dinner was delayed because everybody suddenly decided they needed the loo as soon as they were told to go into the hall!

- Two of the desserts were not done to OH's exact specifications, which again, really upset him, but I doubt anyone else noticed or cared.

All of these things were really only tiny though, I didn't care at all at the time!

My mini bridesmaids shoes were far to small for her on the day, hence why she is wearing grubby flip flops in all the photos.

Mrmini totally corpsed on his speech, he basically said thanks and sat down.

Thtas about it, everything else all went to plan!

Hmmm...

* My mini meltdown when I spent hrs sorting paper confetti, etc and text a few friends afterwards asking if it was worth it and would anyone notice? They did.

* The invites had the wrong postcode on and the info sheet had the correct one. I didn't realise until after the ceremony but it meant that one campervan was late.

* My curls took literally hours to do.

* My SIL didn't like her hair so took it all down and just had it loose.

* I forgot to paint my toenails until about 2hrs before the ceremony

* Our friend didn't get his buttonhole.

* We left Mum's house at 13:10hrs. The service was meant to start at 1!

* My Mum trod on my train and detached the net underneath, so I had to greet the Vicar while Mum and my SIL rustled under my skirt!

* The venue set out a traditional top table not a round one

* One of the children's gift bags was in the wrong place. I just moved it when I spotted it.

* My bustle didn't work

None of this mattered at all and despite being a worrier for the previous 18 months, I was totally calm on the day. Nothing could phase me or spoil my day!

Not a disaster as such, but it was the only "moment" we had.

I was meant to wear MILs drop pearls but as I was putting them in, the drop pearl literally came away from the setting, I remember up until that point being calm all day but I just freaked out at my SIL who was helping me get ready as I was sooo worried about what MIL would say, obviously she was fine, and like I say wasn't a huge disaster but I was disappointed not to be able to wear them.

Not a disaster as such, but it was the only "moment" we had.

I was meant to wear MILs drop pearls but as I was putting them in, the drop pearl literally came away from the setting, I remember up until that point being calm all day but I just freaked out at my SIL who was helping me get ready as I was sooo worried about what MIL would say, obviously she was fine, and like I say wasn't a huge disaster but I was disappointed not to be able to wear them.

Ooh I forgot another one...

The eyelash glue was spilt on my Mum's beautiful coffee table (which Dad brought back from Pakistan when he worked there before I was born). Luckily it just ruined a tea towel and didn't youch the wood!

My Sisters top tier slipped on as the icing went soft (hot day) and fell on the floor. She laughed!

? no, just normal. But the ring just about fits on one of them!

My dad showed up before we had our meal and was a bit nasty.

My mum did my dress up too tightly before the reception and my skin was all grazed and bruised and agony

My gran didn't come then lied about why (it might have been upstairs so my granddad would struggle. despite specifically telling her it wasn't)

H's great gran going into hospital two days before our wedding, we had a detour after the ceremony to go and visit her. Walking through an admissions ward outside of visiting hours in a dress was certainly a new experience.

Photographer was rubbish, one grainy photo of being walked in by my brother, none of H, me and his parents, barely any that i had asked for.

Function on the day of the wedding so we could set up the night before (we did in the end but we had to practically beg them to move it to another room)

Burnt my hand on my straighteners the day before. And again while getting ready for the ceremony,

It poured with rain all day.

A couple of people didn't turn up even though a few days before were coming. Stressed me out as H and I both had other people we would have invited if they had just said no to start with!!

Had a moment in the middle of the reception with my mum, when we went and got food and i was so close to tears as i was so tired, hot and hungry and people were hugging me, wanting to dance and take pictures. She ran interference so i could get a sit down. I was just sitting there about 9pm going "I want my bed, i really want to go home"

A massive vase of water was emptied over our guest book.

And i didnt care at all. I got married and thats all that matters, There is far too much pressure to have a 'perfect' day.

I've remembered a few more!

The best man lost his speech in the hotel the boys stayed in the night before, he rang my bridesmaid to tell her (his wife) but she assured me he knew it pretty well - not that I was worried, I was unbelievably calm on the day! It turned out to be a golden moment in the speeches, as when he stood up and said he'd lost it one of the ushers happened to have picked it up and kept it in his pocket without saying anything. A few guests later asked if it was genuine or staged!

MIL went missing for a few hours after having an argument with one of H's cousins. My stance on that was that day, of all days, it wasn't my problem or H's problem and we weren't interested! We had 70 other people to host. She did eventually reappear though.

H's Grandad decided two days before the wedding that it was just too far to drive and he wasn't coming. Despite having known for 11 months where the wedding was and saying he was fine with driving down but wouldn't stay for the evening do. I was furious at the time as we'd paid for him, but on the day itself it really didn't matter.

Thought of another.

My dad has never really worn a suit so didnt know how to wear everything. The boys had all their photos done then he came up to get me, he had no button hole, shirt not tucked in properly and his cravat was hanging out (not tucked under the waistcoat). Was slightly annoyed that all his pics are like this and no one thought to tidy him up. But our amazing TOG has managed to photoshop a button hole and tidy his suit up - i was really impressed!

When my sister did my bow up at the back of my dress she left one bit at the back longer (not a bit, a lot longer) than the other so all my photos i have a lop sided bow.

But none of the 'disasters' effected my day at all!