'Once a cheater always a cheater'?

Rather than saying once a cheater always a cheater, I believe everyone could be a cheater depending on the circumstances.

I certainly don't think "once a cheater always a cheater"

I think what would concern me would be that if someone had cheated in the past it shows to me that they are unable to communicate in a relationship - therefore have sort something elsewhere.

I think, as with anything to do with relationships, it depends on circumstance

No, I don't think so.

I've never cheated on anyone but my ex fiance cheated on me with his current wife. He's since told me that I wasn't the first person he'd cheated on so it's something he's familiar with doing. Because of that, it wouldn't surprise me if he did it again, though he's got a lot more to lose now.

Other people do it once and find it's a mistake to so don't do it again, ever.

quote:Originally posted by Sare
Rather than saying once a cheater always a cheater, I believe everyone could be a cheater depending on the circumstances.

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Couldn't agree more. Anyone and everyone is capable of cheating, if in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Its a case of making sure you avoid being in the wrong place at the wrong time as much as possible imo.

I dont think you can ever categorically say 'I will never cheat/again' because unless you can see into the future, you never know. You can be 100% committed to your relationship, but you can't tell what is around the corner.

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quote:Originally posted by Sare
Rather than saying once a cheater always a cheater, I believe everyone could be a cheater depending on the circumstances.

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Couldn't agree more. Anyone and everyone is capable of cheating, if in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Its a case of making sure you avoid being in the wrong place at the wrong time as much as possible imo.

I dont think you can ever categorically say 'I will never cheat/again' because unless you can see into the future, you never know. id="red"> You can be 100% committed to your relationship, but you can't tell what is around the corner.

id="quote">Maybe it's just from my personal experience that I honestly do think that I can say I will never cheat again. I have done it before and know the effects on everyone concerned. I wouldn't put myself or anyone else through that. I am confident enough to say that if I found myself in that situation I would end the relationship before embarking on another or simply have an affair.

Hmmn, I think it depends on the person, TBH.

I know I have a wandering eye. I have been unfaithful in 3 previous relationships (not in my marriage to Mr K). It's not a character trait I am at all proud of, but it's one that I have, and it's taken me years to grow up and be honest about it.

Once I had cheated once, it made cheating on subsequent occasions with other partners easier somehow. (I am aware of how horrible that sounds, but it is the truth).

However, I think the same is not true for everyone.

quote:Originally posted by Katchoo
Hmmn, I think it depends on the person, TBH.

I know I have a wandering eye. I have been unfaithful in 3 previous relationships (not in my marriage to Mr K). It's not a character trait I am at all proud of, but it's one that I have, and it's taken me years to grow up and be honest about it.

Once I had cheated once, it made cheating on subsequent occasions with other partners easier somehow. (I am aware of how horrible that sounds, but it is the truth).

However, I think the same is not true for everyone.

I don't agree that everyone has it in them to cheat. I believe there are many, many people who have the moral strength to say no or end one relationship before beginning another.
I do agree with the above that once someone has cheated it can become easier. Sort of like getting the first one over with; it can't be so hard to do it again.
However I see that it's not a black and white situation,as in most things there are always exceptions to the rule.

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Sorry, not got this quote thing right yet, my comment is at the end above.

quote:Originally posted by Hecate
I certainly don't think "once a cheater always a cheater"

I think what would concern me would be that if someone had cheated in the past it shows to me that they are unable to communicate in a relationshipid="red"> - therefore have sort something elsewhere.

I think, as with anything to do with relationships, it depends on circumstance

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You see in the relationship I cheated in I'd communicated at great lengths that there was a problem and which areas needed to be changed. He refused to listen and the cheating just happened. Like Sherry said its not right but there were reasons and Ex not listening or accepting any problems or being prepared to try to fix the relationship was a catalyst (and me not being a strong enough person to end it at that time)

Before I got married I was a serial cheater... which is why when my ex cheated on me, I consider Karma bit my ass big style! In my defense they weren't serious relationships... well one could have been as I was with him for 3 years but we didn't live together so it wasn't that serious. However serious or not, it wasn't a nice thing I did to him and I am very sorry as he didn't deserve it.

I'm in the camp where I'd like to think that I'd never cheat on my husband. I'd be mortified if someone said "once a cheater always a cheater" about me. I'd love for it to be true of my ex husband though.... now his wife certainly does deserve for him to cheat on her and for her to go through as much pain as she caused me ?

I cheated on my boyfriend when I was 16 and haven't done it again...yet ?