Right! I will try and keep it short.
I have quite a large group of friends who get together for birthdays, kids b/day, bbqs ect! But really they are not close friends just friendship group. Within the group there are smaller group who are close.
One couple have been away travelling for over a year and got back in January. This couple is part of large freindship group but probably the people we are less close to out of all the group. Even before going away they hardley attended things the group did, maybe like 1 in 5 things and if they did it was normally just him. No proble. Since they have been back in 6 months i have seen them twice. Once at a friends for a world cup bbq and this sat just gone. He has decided he doesnt want to go on other halfs stag -do which is fine but he didnt reply to any correspondance another friend called and he just said no, no explanantion, nothing which is fine because like i said we are not close. This was befaore the invotes went out.
Anyway numbers are tight at the wedding and i sent them an evening invite. This was also due to the fact that they have also been avioding social things and the 'rumour' was they didnt like ahanging around in a group, but this is just gossip.
On Sat at a birthday nigth out. He practually ignores me. So i go over and congratulate him because his g/f is pregnanat.
He just looks at me and says
'so whats with just the evening invite' I explain that numbers were tight, i did my list a long time ago and that i was sorry. He said in a rather rude way.
' i have been back 6 months you know' i say i know but my list was done early and you are top of my reserve list.
He says ' well you have put my nose well out of joint' I apologise and say i never meant to upset of offend you and i am sorry.
He then says 'Well i cant come anyway' and kinda sniggers at me. I say oh right why. he says ' because i am at an access course'. I say what bout g/f . he says 'she how she feels'
So i say okay and walk off.
Now part of me feels guilty for the blatant rudeness and the way he said it to me was rude. I have no problem with him asking me why but not demanding and being rude.
Another part of me feel really guilty!!
Is he being really rude? Should i be feeling guilty??
Now if i do get a space do i invite them.
To top it all off a friends of out got married in may and did they same thing i did and he hasent said boo to him and went on his stag, and he has sent a text out yesterday inviting everyone to his bday mieal but us!!! I personally dont care but think its childish!!
Pat on the back if you go this far!!! Phew!!!
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