Opinions needed!

Yes I would have gone and looked at things x

No I wouldnt. I'm not engaged so why would I be thinking about a wedding?

Personally no, I didn't even think about weddings until I started planning. I know plenty that do though.

I think we all know how easy it is to daydream about the future, if you think you have found the one and you are certain there will be a proposal then I reckon some people would be interested in that thread. Some girls plan their wedding since they were young ( Monica FRIENDS LOL ) I understand where the ladies are coming from. You can always try, if it works then great if not then at least you gave it a shot

Good luck

Is that not a bit mental? ?

To be honest, i always thought it was a bit of a jinx to look at wedding stuff without being engaged. Also a bit depressing, maybe?

I have a friend who's really, really passionate about weddings (not engaged) and she went off and did a wedding planning course in her apare time. Now she's made a career of it! Seems like a healthier way of enjoying your interest in the whole thing.

I wouldn't go on a forum like that personally, I would have felt a bit silly. I started doing some wedding research (venues etc) before I was officially engaged because we knew we wanted to get married but weren't at the right stage of our lives (I was still a student), but even then I felt silly doing wedding research when I wasn't officially engaged. I feel like a forum like that would run out of steam because there's only so much planning you can do when you don't have any concrete wedding plans, and then would people have to go elsewhere once they were officially engaged? If you're going to have a mix of people who are officially engaged and those who aren't then I don't see how it would be much different from any other wedding forum?

I would never have gone on a forum like that. I didn't think about weddings until OH actually proposed. But then again, I have never been the type to sit around day dreaming about dresses and practising my signature with my boyfriend's name, and all the stereotypical stuff that woman supposedly do. But for those that do think about weddings and dresses and so on, maybe a forum would be good for pre-planning, or perhaps tips for sneaky ways of forcing your partner into proposing ? I assume the ladies would just here or confetti type forums anyway if they were that into it.

Woah, so just because women might look at wedding stuff before getting engaged they are in some way unhealthy and depressing?

I am still not engaged, and I used to look at things before I even know I was going to be engaged as I got involved in planning my mums second wedding and it just carried on from there. I never tried to force my bf to propose, I just enjoy looking at pictures of people's happy days (I mainly visited a couple of blogs). I probably visited the blogs for a good couple of years before our decision to get married came about but alongside that I had a perfectly happy content life and relationship. I don't think just because someone gains an interest in the wedding industry if they're not engaged makes them depressing people?

Personally I also don't think it jinxes it but thefts just my opinion. What about women that continue to look at wedding stuff after they are married? Is that not allowed either?

To the op - personally I probably wouldn't use a forum like that but you may find a niche who would.

Umm...sorry if I caused offense, I was just answering the question. If you read through other replies, I think you'll find that my humble opinion (and that's all it is - an opinion) is pretty common. Each to their own!

This exactly.

Although that does not preclude this from working - there are lots of mentals out there. Apparently.

ETA - the above comment is blunt. If I offend anyone, then I do apologise. But honestly, if I knew one of my friends was on a website talking about weddings before they were engaged, I would give them a recommended reading list, I think.

Believe me, you didn't cause offence, I was just questioning the opinion and mainly the use of the terms 'health' and 'depressive'.

Maybe I am just mental and I suppose serving OH's bunny up for dinner later is probably going a bit too far ? ?

I suppose the difference is that I just read blogs and lurked here very very occasionally. I didn't actually start planning and posting on hitched until I knew we were getting engaged.

Oh and I have a very extensive reading list but always accept further recommendations... ?

I like you CB - you don't take yourself too seriously, can't argue with that! It's such a refreshing attitude?