Ordering my Wedding Dress

My honest view is...you're over thinking this.

If that's what you always want to do, go for it and try it. See if your BMs and mom would take on it with you. It is your time and if you dreamt of it, don't risk getting frustrated you didn't get it.

Just be prepared if the BMs and mom don't agree with you and tell you to book over the phone. Be psychologically ready so the frustration and disappointment are not too big and you take as the norm is actually not have the big bash after ordering it

Good luck!

Personally, yes I think you are making slightly a big deal out of it. It's not as though you're ordering a dress that no one has seen you in - they were all there when you tried it on, so I don't really know why you need them all there again. I do understand that it is important to you but I'm sure you'll get to have the "dress moment" again - surely you will need extra fittings, etc later on?

Your wedding is still over a year away so don't do everything at once and then not have anything else to get excited about as you get closer to the time. I speak as someone who had nearly two years to wait until the wedding and now it's nearly 9 months. I chose my dress with my mum and paid for it online a few weeks later. I told my BMs and showed them pics. They were still really excited and will come with me to a fitting in the new year probably.

Go and order your dress yourself, get a few pics. I don't think it has to be a big deal.

I think you have already said it yourself - "...expecting them all to come with me to basically hand over money and maybe see me in a dress that they have already seen me in twice...".

Finding the dress is the important moment, not paying for it!

Its maybe not a big deal having them all there again as you already had the big dress reveal moment. However it would be nice for you to be able to try it on again just so you're sure and because you might not get chance again till closer to the wedding. I bought my dress on my first shopping trip. I had two of my bridesmaids, my mum and my stepmum (as she works in the shop) with me and to be honest looking back I found it a bit overwhelming. I knew it was tge dress for me and ordered it then but over the next few weeks began to worry it was because everyone was there whooping and saying it was the one. I decided to book an appt to try it on again (its the sample so being stored in the shop) with just my mum for company. It was the best decision I got to really relax in it and make my mind up. I still love it. The point of all this is maybe try it on again with just one person you'll still get their reaction which is a nice thing to have and you get to celebrate the fact that its going to be your deess with someone special

2 of my BMs still haven't seen me in my dress yet! Well they've seen a photo but not actually been there to see. I was with my mum only when we found it, and when I ordered it a couple of months later, my mum and MOH came as the others couldn't make it.

Having my first fitting in January and it looks like the other 2 probably won't be able to come then either! so they probably won't see me in it til the big day.

As yours have already seen it, I'd say it's not a big deal to be with you when you order it. But if you want them there and they're happy to be there then go ahead.

All you can do is ask them! You've already said that they may have other things to do....everyone's got busy lives.....but just go for it and ask!

I can definitely see where you're coming from, as right now the dress isn't yours as no money has been exchanged. And any excuse for a meet up with champers is great! xx

As you would like them there ask but don't get too upset if they can't make it. I was BM a couple of years ago and didn't even see a picture of the dress the bride wore I just saw her in it on the day. We live quite far apart and she bought a size 18 dress and used the material to make the dress of her choice. One of my BMs has seen my dress but she is my sister and just happened to be with me when I found it. I bought it in the first shop I went to so there only was one shopping trip. The other two will see it on the day. Again none of us live close together. I won't take anyone to the fitting either Iwould rather be on my own. I don't want to watch someone get pinned into a dress so I assume they don't either!

However I do love an excuse to meet up and we all happened to be in London for a weekend when I bought my shoes (far more important than my dress!) so they have all seen them.

I ordered mine last weekend tried it on little a lightning bolt coz my boy starred playing up paid then went lol nothing special in my world hopefully the day will be though

I have two bridesmaids one hasn't been to any appointments and she's my best mate :-(