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O/T Arguing parents

sparkles1984, 10 October, 2009 at 10:13 Posted on Planning 0 5

Bit of a rant here..... since moving back in with my parents in March things had been going well. We all get along and now there are problems within the house between her and my father, just a quite outlay, he got a job with Network Rail and its based in mid wales. Well the idea was he would try and find a house up there and in a few months my mother would follow up and move there. Leaving myself and my H2B and my sister here as she is still in school. Well now time is getting on and my dad wants to buy somewhere and sell this out my mum is finding all reasons not to go. This is causing huge arguments in the house, my poor H2B doesnt know what to do and feels bad. Her reasons for not wanting to move is that my sister cant cope, she is 17 and would of course would be living with us. My mother is also epileptic and the doctor has just told her she is stressed which she is now playing on and says that we are excluding her out of the house. We are not, she is doing it to herself by slamming doors and sitting in her room. This morning was exactly the same so im planning on heading out, no idea where as I have no money to do anything and have loads of work to do in the house but cant deal with the atmosphere. Could cut it with a knife.

Sorry for the rant, no need to reply! xx

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Latest activity by sparkles1984, 10 October, 2009 at 10:39
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    Beginner December 2009
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    Sounds like you have the right idea Sarah, best to go out for the day and hope once your mum has time to calm down she will feel a bit better.

    As another option though do you think that maybe taking your mum out for the day would help the tension?

    Its never easy when there is an atmosphere in the house and this doesn't sound like an easy situation to resolve.

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    I can also see why your mum is behaving like she is, moving is hard enough but moving away from everything you know, home friends family is scary. You also say your sister is 17 but you are both your mum's babies. My friends daughter is 18 and has just gone to Uni and she is absolutely devastated and lost. It is also really hard to resolve issue in a house with other people around, maybe they need some time to themselves. You don't say if your mum has a job which she will also be leaving.

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    Oh sarah poor you ! must be a tough situation to be in the middle of. The thing is if this is what they agreed between them then they either stick to it or change their plans - but the bottom line is they will have to work it out between them, I haven't been in that situation myself so not sure what to suggest - apart from sitting tight and letting them work it out. (well you could suggest your mum moving in with you but I don't really know how much of an option that is?....)

    go out for a walk or something just to get some piece and quiet?

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    Well since then mum has come up to me asking if me and my H2B would be interested in a shared house with her and my sister. I had already discussed this with my dad yesterday and said we would be happy to although she would have to respect it would be pur house as much as hers and get the same input in things. She went off on one again and I told her that she kept doing this and was pushing us all away from talking to her as she blames everyone else but herself.

    Im just putting music on my ipod and then im going to take the dog for a very long walk. I dont think taking her out would resolve anything at the moment Amee, she gets set in her ways and she will carry this out all day.

    Have spoken with ym H2B and we are all going to sit down tonight and discuss whats going on as its not fair us not knowing whats going on. My dad said yesterday, the way she is going about it they wont see their 25th wedding anniversary as she has changed since being daignosed with epliepsy.

    I do agree with you 3d but she has always smothered my sister and my sister feels this and wants to be able to do her own thing. Obviously she would have rules when living with me but she cant do anything as my mum questions everyting she does.

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    Thanks Tango, thats what I plan to do. Going for a walk with the dog.

    We are going to discuss options tonight hopefully without it blowing into a huge argument. I cant see why my dad wants her there with him. He misses her when he is away and she does him but then when he comes home all they do is argue. It will come to the point where he wont want to come home on his days off. This isnt fair on anyone! x

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