O/T but would you be offended at this?

Perhaps she thought she was paying you a compliment of some sort?

PS I first read this as you were feeling a bit RANDY today......

*Apologises in advance to Mini for my comment*

If someone said that to me, I would fall to my knees, thank her and then run home to write about it on FB.

I can understand why it would piss you off though.

LOL if I had a pound for every time people took a look at me tucking into a Snickers bar and a bottle of Lucozade and their looks said clearly, no wonder you're overweight if you eat that, some have even commented to me along the lines you mentioned above - it annoyed me at first, and i got upset as they wouldn't know it, but I am diabetic and if my sugars happened to go low I had to have a choclate bar and / or lucozade!!! Either that or pass out! I have been slim before and just because I now weight more than I'd like it doesn't give people the right to make judgements. I agree, it can be annoying.

But I now don't pay them any attention.

I totally "get" where you are coming from, both of my sons are over 6ft tall and very slim... I took John (the middle son) into Greenwoods to get him measured up for his prom a few years back and the guy in the shop actually said to us, "gosh arent you thin" to which I saw red and asked him if it would be ok to come into his store and say "hey baldy or hey fatty" to which he just stood and looked at me...

Is it ok to slate someone being skinny but not someone who carries a little extra weight?

I think both are very hurtful but I really dont think that people think when saying something about being slim/thin as they may think it a compliment...

MrMini wishes!!

I expect she thought she was paying you a compliment and would most likely be mortified if she thought she'd upset you. But I understand why it bothers you. In my younger days I was really really underweight and used to eat junk desperately trying to put on weight. People would make comments like that to me all the time and I hated it. Don't have that problem now though ?

I would take it as a compliment,i do though say the same thing to a guy at work,we work 13 hour shifts and honesty i have never seen anyone put away bacon rolls/gregs/kfc's/three chocolate bars etc etc and stay so slim,he is 38 as well so can't even excuse him for having a young metabolism. Basically he is eating all my favorite food,i am on an endless diet and i am jealous.

I totally agree VM! I think its rude. When I ws slimmer people used to always say things like that to me. Like you've said they wouldnt think its ok to comment on a bigger person.

Once when I was shopping for a bikini a woman looked me up and down said "urgh, people this small are disgusting" (while pretending to look at a swim suit) I just went up to her and said "well fat people offend me"

(disclaimer, they don't. I think if you are happy in your body its all good. I just wanted her to know how it felt to have someone say something horrible atbout your weight)

I think I would kiss her!!!

I think it would make my day

It would also make MY day, but then I've spent years yearning to be thinner than I am.

I have a friend who's naturally very, very slim and she's really self conscious about it and HATES being called skinny. I'm twice as careful about making insensitive comments about anyone's weight these days after realising how my friend feels. You just never know - there could be a medical reason for someone's slight frame! What if they responded with "ah well I have a terminal illness" or "Yes I'm anorexic, thanks". HORRIFYING. And you're right, it would be obscene to say to a larger person buying the same lunch items "well that explains why you're such a fatty fat boom-boom, eh whaley!".

This has happened to me several times too and it really really annoys me. The other day I bought a massive bar of Galaxy at the petrol station (bad work week) and the (very overweight) shop assistant said 'I bet you don't eat many of these!'. Errm, yes i do and you should know since I'm here every Friday stocking up on junk food ?. Can you imagine a cashier ever telling a fat woman at Tescos 'I bet you don't eat many of those' if she tried to buy a lettuce?

Some people might think its flattering but its really annoying (and sometimes hurtful) when it happens all the time.

Ps. Also irritates me when people say slim/skinny people aren't as sexy or attractive. There have even been threads on here post a picture of a wedding dress they like then people slate the model for being a 'stick insect' or tell the OP she will look better in the dress because she isn't skinny like the model, etc.

I wouldn't be offended as such but it definitely annoys me. I know exactly what you mean.

Just recently I've put on some weight and am not happy. It's "only" half a stone, but that's a lot when you don't want to put on weight! The other day when I was having dinner with friends, I made a comment to OH about how it really wasn't a good week and I should behave next week (as I was tucking into my Eton Mess!). OH explained to my friends that I was on a diet and you should have seen their faces! But they don't notice an extra squishy bit like I do!!

Im feeling really sensitive atm as I have put on quite a bit of weight on my tummy due to me going back on the pill again to sort my skin etc. I prob look still qite slim to alot of people but I can see that my belly sticks out and I dont like it.

I think she may have thought she was complimenting you. I have been guilty of saying something like this except I said "lucky thing you are so slim" instead of skinny. I think the work "skinny" is taken as an insult whilst "slim" is more of a compliment.

I would try not to be offended.

People think that any comment about somone being 'slim' is a compliment.

Now I am definitly no skinny person (size 14) and my accounts lady calls me things like 'titch' and 'skinny', and whenever I talk about trying to lose weight for the wedding, she often tells me off and says I shouldnt lose any weight.

She is just trying to be nice and complimentary though I am sure.

As I fatty, I would personally me made up if the woman in Tesco said this to me. I'd be a size 8 in no time.

I would never be offended at something like this. However much it annoys, it is a genuine attempt at a compliment! Also, do you really eat Jaffa cakes, sweets and crisps for lunch?

This is exactlyhow I feel, VM!! I ask my poor OH if he thinks I've got podgy, and am convinced that my belly is now bigger than my boobs. I have small boobs, and looking down, I'm sure my tummy is bigger...

WSS

I think she meant it as a compliment but agree it is very annoying and v rude of her to comment.

An old man once said to me as I was buying a little bag of Maltesers 'you'll get fat'. I just looked down at myself and replied 'I don't think so!'

People have said that kind of thing to me before... usually am a bit embarrassed but I take it as a compliment.

I don't even think I am that thin really!

Now THAT is rude!

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ME TOO! Yes, I am slim, but I am aware that I have put on 6lbs that I can't seem to shake off (due to me snacking more than usual I suspect ?)... starting a jogging regime in the hope that I get back to my normal weight. But, yes, even if you are slim, you know what is "fat" for you and feel uncomfortable... I also have a little tum...

But I would still take it as a compliment, now even more so... if I am feeling a bit bad about myself and I get a comment like this it does cheer me up and make me think, "well, I obviously don't look as bad as I thought." IFYSWIM

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I think the main difference between this and comments on being overweight or bald or whatever is that for a woman, being thin is rarely seen as a bad thing and unless you actually dream about being a big fatty, then personally I don't think it's something to get too upset about.

Having said that, I do agree it is rude to comment on another persons appearance no matter what the comment. I had a man slow his car down, pull up next to me and shouted from his car "LOSE SOME WEIGHT!!!" as he drove off laughing. I was actually out jogging at the time and I thought "WTF do you think I am doing?". so yeah I understand it is really hurtful if being thin is an issue for you.

I used to work with a girl who ate and ate and ate and never gained any weight. She was seeing the doctor about it and stuff and she used to get so upset if anyone ever commented on her being skinny. I guess if you are overweight, it's difficult to imagine being underweight is a problem for anyone.

? What a twunt!

I would be upset if someone said this to my fiancee, as she has had problems with accepting her body and feeling good about how she looks and someone telling her that she was a skinny thing wouldn't help that. But for me I don't really care, although I do agree that it is not right that making comments about thin people is acceptable when a similarly worded comment about someone who is overweight would cause a lot of controversy.

No I totally agree with you! I have always been a curvy size 10, big boobs, curvy hips and a tiny waist. But now that I've been off with an injury I am a 12/14 but still with a small waist, just need to trim down, but I am on a diet now so am losing atm!

Anyway, my point was, when I was smaller, this one girl I saw at my gym would come up to me and grab my waist with her hands and go "You're so tiny round here!!"

Now, yeah it's nice, and I never minded, but thinking about it, if I was bigger and she grabbed it and said "You're so big round here!" I wouldn't be happy, and no-one would do that, so why is it different to say it about thinner people?

I mean, I don't mind, but I can see why you would be annoyed!

(although now I have gained a bit of weight, I'd probably PAY that girl to do that again haha)

This is something I deal with all the time, and psychologically it can bring you down being commented on about how "skinny" you are. Not so bad being called slim, but someone telling you your skinny to me is saying, you're too thin, you don't eat enough and you don't look well.

I struggle with my weight in that I can't put any on, I eat loads, but have been a size 8 since i was 20. In general I hate being as slim as I am and wish I was more curvy. I was diagnosed with an overactive thyroid 4 years ago and was really ill and went down to 7 1/2 stone, eventually had my thyroid removed a year and a half ago and whilst I am treated now like I have an underactive thyroid I sooooooo wish one of the symptoms of weight gain would come my way.

I realise that the majority of time people are only trying to pay you compliments when they comment on people who are thin, but not everyone wants to or trys to be, just like people don't want to be overweight.

I hate it when I hear groups of people speaking about their recent weight loss challenges or going to weight loss groups.......cause I feel like I wish there were weight gain groups, maybe something like Weight Gainers!!!!!LOL?

I think it's inappropriate for people to comment on your size regardless of whether your big or small. Although I'm 5ft 1.5", weigh less than 7.5 stone and a size 6/8, i am actually perfectly proportioned. I'm not skinny. and i hate people telling me how skinny i am. especially my OH's mum. she used to call me a 'skinny mini' all the time. I know she was just being nice and complimentary, but it still gets to me.

WSS!

Also I don't like the skinny=good implication.

If you want to compliment someone 'you look nice today' is fine.