O/T Do you ever get fed up working?

Nope but I am lucky I do my job Full time, 7 days a week & love it! Plus I am the Boss. I really don't think I could work for anyone after being my own boss for 22yrs.

There will come a day Lyns when you can just do what you love full time but it takes years to build a business and you always have the security of having a regular income at the moment. I sometimes miss going out to work but then I think of all the commuting every day & love the fact I am only 28 steps from my office!

Absolutely.

People think that my job is glamourous because I travel so much and it sounds "high powered". But it's tiring, frustrating and infuriating at times. It pays the bills so I can't complain! Plus I suppose I'm lucky that my work treat me very nicely and they are a lovely bunch of people.

My dream job would be to be a housewife/stay at home mum. I'm not really very entrepeneurial so I don't think I could ever make millions but I really love being at home and doing all my chores and cooking and things like that. It sounds a bit old fashioned but I don't care. That's my goal.

Hey

Def know how you feel, well did, we all know what I done with my job! I would say see if you can get a job in my old work but thats far to stressful now, when I win the lottery I'll give your wee business a wee boost so you can pack that job of yours in ?.

xx

Hey Lyns

I know exactly how you feel. That's how I felt in my last job. Before that my husband and I had a pub/restaurant for three years where we were obviously our own bosses. Made our own decisions, then when my little boy came along we decided that we didn't want to bring him up above a pub and sold up. Paul got a great job and I decided to go back to work part time. I managed to get an Events Managers job for a country hotel. However, I really struggled working with the owner, partly because he was the biggest idiot of all time and partly because i didn't like being told what I could and couldn't do. I left the job after eight very long months and that's when I decided to go self employed and set up Finesse Planning. I haven't looked back. It's hard going and I'm just coming to the end of my first year and I have to say I didn't think I was going to be anywhere near as busy as I have been, but I LOVE what I do and work on the business as much as I can (other than when I am on here!).

I don't want to get morbid, but one of my brides from this year, has terminal cancer and she is the most amazing lady. Her outlook is amazing and she really made me understand about the saying, life is to short..... it is, and certainly to be doing something you hate. If you are that unhappy babe, make the decisions, take the risks, you never know, you might end up being happy with what you do for the rest of your life! Can you risk not finding out?

I know it's not easy and it's scary and there are bills to pay, but you know there's always other jobs that will pay, I even waitered for a bit and was bringing in £200 a week working two days which was the same as what I was earning working 3 days a week for a w&*ker! But it meant that I could spend more time on building the business up.

I really wish you luck babe!

Ruth

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Nat working there is definitely worse and something I have never wanted to do. I know my job is pretty easy and I work flexi time so can suit myself in that respect so I should stop complaining. I will be very grateful for that boost!

Ruth I am exactly the same. I'm not really interested in a career as such apart from the business and for the first time ever I have a focus of what I want to do so just want to concentrate on that.

Sherrie I know you are right but want to be at that stage 28 years later instead of now! I'm very impatient ?

Yup I know what you mean on that front too!! it's so frustrating building up a business, you expect it all to happen overnight!!! Patience is a virtue (apparently!)

EVERY SINGLE DAY.........I'm 3yrs into a 10yr plan........I then want to go part time and slowly build up a business.........not sure what but will be something creative.......chin up PG I'm sure you will get there in the end as Sherry said it takes a while to buid up.......and don't worry about the sick proc....you would be surprised how many of yr colleagues are going through or have been through the same thing and came out unscathed a few months down the line....I had a girl on them 3 yrs ago and she has just got promoted.......cheer up?

H x

I'm so glad I'm not the only one. Thanks girls I feel a bit better now. In between me not feeling great and my aunt dying recently working seems such a waste of time although I know it is a means to an end and very much needed. I couldn't be without the income each month so the option of taking a risk isn't an option right now if that makes sense. The business is going great and I couldn't ask for it to be better within the short space of time so should stop moaning and just get on with working. I was off for a month and loved being at home so I've just been spoilt and enjoyed my long lies far too much.

I don't get fed up of what I do but it is really, really hard sometimes. Being your own boss is fab in as much as you make the decisions but that isn't always as easy as it seems and with the best will in the world (and please take this the way it is meant which is nicely) if you have been off ill quite a bit this year doing what you love 24/7 will not be the magic pill. Yes you might be happier to start with but all the worries and stress that it brings can bring you down. That said if it wasn't for the business some of the crappy things that have happened to us in the last few years might have really brought me down but because I could bury myself in it I got through the other side.

Nothing will happen overnight - god knows I sometimes wish it did but get yourself a realistic plan of where you want you and your business to be in 1 year, 5 years and 10 years, write it out and shove it on your wall. And each time you do something towards your goals scribble it on the plan. That way you can see what you have achieved and what you still need to achieve (oh and don't be afraid to amend it either). Then look at your day job as a means of providing the financial support you need to get to where you want to be.

Be patient!

I spent years in a Business that I hated, 80 blokes to look after every day. I was the Boss, the Nurse, the Marriage Guidance Counsellor, the tea lady, the accounts dept everything and I was always dreaming of having my own wedding business. It was hard at first & for the first 3yrs I struggled but then you build up a reputation and you learn all the way along, I am still learning now. I researched everything I could possible research whille I was being a full time Single Mum to 3 kids and trying to run the shop, look after both my parents, Mum had Breast Cancer & Dad was paralysed within 6 months of her being diagnosed. It was tough and there were times I would just sit & sob my heart out but I refused to give up and carried on.

It pays in the end but it would have been so much easier sometimes to throw in the towel & go and work for someone else and relieve the pressure.

Ms T and Sherrie you both speak so much sense, thank you. I totally understand what you mean about the business being not being the magic solution and I have a few times been in tears because of it but at the end of the day I also have that sense of achievement knowing it was me and only me that got through it and that is what gives me the drive to continue but I do understand it could be much worse if that was my only source of income. I don't really plan to totally give up a day job as getting paid for annual leave, maternity pay, sickness pay etc are all very valuable and being self employeed doesn't give those luxuries.

I'm going to stop moaning now and thanks for the replies. Sometimes I just need a kick up the backside.

Hey PG ... things still pants then? I'm with ya hun, I'm just desPISING my job but I can't afford to give it up, even tho' CLD is doing OK and forecasting ahead I'm doing OK .... but it wouldn't pay the mortgage (let alone contribute to everything else).

I've had a lot of time off sick too and I'm sure its work related to a point - the last 2mths has been utterly hideous and I've not really felt well at all, plus the (non)pregnancy thing, its just been too much.

I know what you're saing about the benefits a 'normal' job gives you but lets hope we are both happier with our lot come 2010 .... I'm being realistic that it'll take at least that long for CLD to become vaguely established - you're ahead of the game on that but I do know exactly how you feel. I'm loving the CLD work, I just lose myself in it for hours on end tho!

Take it easy,

Mrs SP x

Absolutely agree with everything that's been said! I ran my own florist's shop and decided to sell up when the lease expired. I then went to work as a Manager for another florist which was a disaster. It's really hard going back to working for someone else when you have been your own boss before. The problem is your new boss expects high standards from you because they know you have run a successful business but they are reluctant to take any of your ideas on board because they don't like you contributing to 'their baby' and I think jealousy has a lot to do with it too - not personal jealousy but jealous because you've come up with ideas they never thought of. I ended up taking a complete career change and went into fashion retail management instead which although I really enjoyed, I missed the floristry so much. I eventually got fed up of commuting to Leeds everyday and the hassle of working in the city that I decided to pack it all in. My hubby persuaded me to go back to my first love and I started back in business again but this time working from home. I'm now in my 8th year of full time working for myself and have never looked back. The only thing I miss is the company of other people - being self employed working from home can get a bit lonely at times! But the benefits far outweigh the disadvantages! Maybe if you find a new job in the New Year which you like better than your present one, this will help you until you get to the point where you can tell them all to sod off!!!

Keep your chin up and good luck for the future - Brenda

Hi Lynsey,

I was in a smilliar position as you at the beginning of this year. We bought our house last August and we worked hard doing it up to xmas. When we where quite I asked for permission to take my holidays these where all authorised no problem. In this period I was very sickly, felt fine within no time. But unfortunately the later part of the year my sick record increased. I fell ill the day after we moved into our house, to find out from the doctor it was either an ulcer or gallstones. To come back within 2 weeks, unfortunately I was very ill throughout xmas. I returned to work for 1 week, visting my head office in Italy the following week. On the Monday morning I fell extremely ill, with pains like period pains times a million. No chance of the italian trip happening for me! I was rushed to hospital that night with suspected inflammed gallbladder. I was off the full week, with my boss phoning me continusely. To a final statement we need to talk on your return I knew I was heading for a warning. Mostly because as I did not go to Italy! I manged to gain private health care through work, and saw the doctor on the Monday. He confirmed my gallbladder had to be removed, then gave me a 6 weeks sick note. I know it is bad kept quite to h2b as I knew the situation would be bad a work also ssp would be received could not afford not work. Told my boss I had it, and it was like you will be on SSP! I worked it all the way through struggling at times. I received my verbal warning whilst sick and unconfortable within 2 days of giving him my sick note. Lot's of things where said, and I contested. What annoyed me the most 1 year of sick was pulled up on, compared to a brillant record other the previous 5 years! I finally had my op and received a further 7 weeks sick note I had the full lot! Paid in full which was better with SSp for 4 days. Loved being at home, don't get me wrong. Boss wanted to bring work to me etc.. Then said if I can work at home I could come into work!

I now work to work, do what I have to do and basically stick around now one for the money for the wedding, I love my job just not my boss. He retires in 2 - 3 years. I also know here I will get my maternity leave and I could return part time when the time comes.

If you do receive a warning, it is only on your record for 6 months hun. That's how I look at it. But they are ******* for doing this to employees who at times are generally ill.

Sorry for the long post, just want to say its *** when it happens but I smile now and think well its there problem and I know I will use them for my requirements till required.

So keep at it, keep smiling use them till the day you can afford to be at home with an income from your business to match

x

Lynsey, is there any way you could consider going part-time and then you could still have the advantages of the benefits you get with your job but also have added time at home to concentrate on your business? This is what I do and it works really well. Having said that I also dislike my "proper" job - I deal with people's divorces which is really ironic considering in my other line of work I help people with their weddings! I'd much rather be at home every single day fiddling about with bits of wire and beads! But i'm not in a position to be able to do that just yet but one day hopefully!!

Keep you chin up.

I used to hate my job, then I loved it a bit, now I'm back to being really frustrated with it!

Both me and H2B want to quit and do something new, H2B wants his own business full time, and I'd love to be able to quit and help him as he's dyslexic, so hasn't made the jump because he's worried about the admin side.

I just keep telling him that his Monday - Friday job is what pays the bills (just like working on a production line or something similar) so that he doesn't have to stress about his Business Making any money. And one day, the business will be set up enough that it will pay the bills and the other job will be the icing on the cake!

Hi ?, I fell into this by accident really. Ive always been quite arty crafty and handy with a sewing machine and a few years ago was asked to run up a garter and bridal bag for a friend. This then grew into underskirts and eventually flowergirl dresses, the end result being that i was inundated and stressed out so reluctantly went back to being just mum at home and hated it. In May this year I got hitched myself and after making my invites i made a passing remark to HTB that i missed all the pretty weddingy things and maybe should take up stationery. I was joking at the time but after getting some lovely comments from people i decided what the heck and started to buy a few bits to see what happened. My house turned into a mass of ribbons and tape and descended into chaos but with the support of my now hubby I carried on and soon had a few designs I liked. So with no computer knowledge i sat night after night putting together a website and very slowly started to get some interest.

I am now very very busy within just a few months and its growing again but I wouldnt give it up for anything! I work when i can and when i want and love very minute of it ?

I have 5 children not to mention 4 pets but most importantly a very very supportive husband who doesnt mind coming home to chaos or getting stuck in with me, or delivering packages to the post office everyday for me despite working full time himself!

It can be hard at times, sometimes missing time with hubby whilst up to my eyes in diamante buckles and doublesided tape til goodness knows what time but we wouldnt want it any other way. Its all worth it when happy brides are emailing us with thanks and its something i enjoy so much that i now couldnt imagine finding afterschool clubs/child minders and going out to work for someone else with no thanks, then coming home to housework/homework and all the rest. My work fits around being mum!

So in answer to your question no i never get fed up with working but yes i would if i were in your position, and if you can maybe go partime with both and build it up i would def say go for it!

Not sure if that was any help at all lol, but good luck xx

Andrea

I certainly hate coming to the office everyday!

So much so that i have started workign towards my own business. Got my website beign devoloped and meeting with a business mentor in a couple of weeks.

I am determined not to get stuck on this corporate treadmill making money for someone else!

There is nothing worse than being miserable at work, especially if, like me, you have to leave the house by 8am and not get home again until 7pm - you spend a lot of time at work, you should be able to enjoy it