OT Driving test on friday and Im really struggling.

Oh Teehee, I've felt this way so many times, I know where you're coming from. I do think it's important not to get overwhelmed with practicising. Is there anyway you can practice on Friday morning instead and give yourself a rest tomorrow night?

I never wanted to learn either, it's only because H2B lives out in the sticks. I've had rows with OH when we've been out, I think sometimes if you've been driving for years you forget about when it wasn't automatic to you, I think they forget how hard it is.

Roundabouts are a nightmare for me too, I'm ridiculously hesistant. As for the lanes, I was told if there's only two use the right to go right and the left for everything else. If there's three the middle is for straight on, the others are going in that direction so left for left, right for right etc.

For what's its worth, the two occasions I drove before my test were a catastrophe, and that's the norm because it's all the pressure of the test. I know you have other pressures which make passing this test really important, I found I just had to pretend they didn't exist as much as I could...I know that's easier said than done.

Plus you've got everyone on WP rooting for you and we'll all be sending you good vibes...that's got to be worth something! Just tell your examiner that if you don't pass there will be hundreds of angry brides after them! ? ?

I'm teaching friday morning and I have an hour with my instructor before my test.... I am tempted to take a sickie but my line manager knows I have my test. I cant believe I've just drafted an email to the boss telling them the 'bad news' and where does that leave my position for next term???

Your lane description goes against what OH says and this is what pees me off - he has the 'sod that' attitude, he doesnt agree with things my instructor tells me... Left is left and straight on and right is right... or striaght on.... i usually find out too late.

Like you Tinkers, I would also get my directions muddle and always ask 'this one ??? you want me to go down this one?? where that car just went??' instructor doesnt mind but OH gets wound up so easy and tells me to do what hes told me to! He tells me to go into lanes that instructor tells me to stay out of for the purpose of the test so I think I'll drive how I know and not what OH tells me and it gets arrrghhhh.

My phobia is; I fear i'll go out one day and never come back.... one of the main roundabouts is an accident blackspot so I hate going round it.....7 car pile up the other day.... My father almost died when he was my age, in a car accident and I think its just embedded in my mind as a scar. OH being a petrol head has lost 3 members of his family in one car accident but cars are his life....

Teehee how about you don't go out with your h2b and just stick with having your lesson on Friday? I doubt you will learn much from your h2b tomorrow night and he might just make you more nervous. Nerves are the worst part of tests I think so the calmer you can be the better.

Try (I know it's very hard) not to think of the bad things that can happen.

Good luck

I also agree with this. I think sometimes when men drive, they make up their own rules! I passed before I met my H and now if we are in car and he comments on my driving I just ignore him. He does things I wouldn't so whilst driving and I'm sure vice-versa!

I felt the same I was only taking lessons because everyone else was nagging!! it'll be easier with the little one bla bla bla on the day of my test (last thur) my instructor pretty much told me she knew i was going to fail... but that gave me that little boost!! I wanted to prove the smug *** wrong!! (and never have to see her again lol)

i passed with 6 minors

Oh Teehee, have a hug ?

I remember this very well! The bit where i got something wrong, OH started shouting, i got upset and then couldn't be bothered anymore. In the end we decided that we would not take lessons together anymore because it always ended in an argument and wasn't doing us any good!

Maybe, as you said, you're over saturated with this whole driving thing. Maybe you should leave it now until your lesson before your test?

Please remember this driving thing won't last forever, you have a good chance of passing and then you can feel all smug, and your OH can take you somewhere nice for being mean to you! ?

Unless indicated otherwise by road signs/markings, the left lane is for turning left or straight on. The right lane is for turning right.

Good luck Nona. You know what they say about a bad dress rehearsal...

Cheers kel, I was right then.

oh what a rubbish night sleep, lots of tears, more argies... but I got a cup of tea this morning and a wee sorry.

18 th june today. ONE month left, we cant afford to fall out now!! See ya after school guys xx

Hi TeeHee

I hate driving to, whenI ws learnig I was always massively stressed and in the end would only go out and practice with one parent as they kept telling me different things however in the end I passed (3rd time lucky).

I think the trick is not to get to focused on the test, if it helps don't go driving tonight just go for you hour lesson with the instructor before the test.

I passed my teast under the worst possible circumstances (but that is a whole other story) and I belive the reason i passed was because I wasn't stressing out about passing while the previous 2 time sI had been.

So take a deep breath tell your self you can do this and then just think about the driving not that it's a test not what is riding on the test but that it is like a drive with a new instructor who is getting to know you.

? im sorry youre feeling like this. I aslo know that feeling very well. Part of my problem was putting toooo much pressure on myself to pass. and on the test i passed on i thought if i dont pass this one, im actually giving up. But i was so motivated to prove my smug instructor, who didnt think i could do it wrong that I passed! and i had an examiner who was examining the examiner sat in the back!

Try not to put so much pressure on yourself, just rememebr you CAN do it and try to stay relaxed as you can

Good luck and try not to worry xxxx

My h2b only just recently passed his test, whilst i've been driving for over 10 years now. it was sooooo frustrating when taking him out while he was learning, as i'd be telling him to do something different to his instructor, and couldn't understand why he was getting confused at roundabouts and picking lanes etc ?

so i feel your h2b's pain. but i really feel yours too - just try to stay calm, don't go out with your h2b as doing that will only stress you out more. stick to what your instructor is telling you as he's the one that's telling you what you need to know to pass your test. and i agree with kelly29, left for left and straight on, right for right ONLY. and if there's 3 lanes, left for left, middle for straight on, right for right.

and i'm not sure the instructor will mind if you accidentally go the wrong way on your test, as long as you are signalling correctly for the way you actually go IYSWIM and undertake the manoeuvres safely.

does that make sense? good luck x

PS - delete that email now!. it will only make you feel negative.

I agree with PG. When I was learning to drive my mum and dad refused to take me out driving in case I picked up their bad habits, it was important that I learnt how to do it all the proper way! So I only ever had lessons with my driving instructor and I hated them with a passion but I knew if I didn't drive then my job opportunities and other things would suffer (we lived in a small town and the public transport was pants).

Six years later I still hate driving and to be honest if I had a choice I wouldn't bother! I don't think I'm a bad driver, and OH would even go as far as saying I'm good, but I'm quite a nervous driver. I won't drive anywhere I haven't been before because I struggle reading things like directions whilst trying to focus on everything else and I'm not the best at reversing and will avoid all but the most simple of reversing situations. I think over the years my confidence has grown but I still panic when I get on motorways and I really wish I could get over it as I think I miss out on doing things because of it.

My advice would be to just have your lesson with your instructor tomorrow, have a good night's sleep and the all important Bach's Rescue Remedy - it worked wonders for me!

Good luck x

He had a tooth removed today and is in pain and asleep... I dont think we would be doing much tonight if we did go out. I drove home from school today... might spend tonight cleaning in anticipation of my hen on saturday..... i'll let you know tomorrow, its at 2.30pm xx

Don't go out for a lesson with your OH. I was told when I learnt how to drive that you should only listen to your instructor because basically they will teach you what you need to know for the test, other people will give you conflicting advice and bad habits they have (although most drivers will claim they don't have bad habits- they do!) picked up over the years. Instructors are calm and trained, OH's are not!

Don't go for a lesson tomorrow with him. Leave it to yor instructor to take you out.

Good luck

mel x

? I just re-read this post and realised I'd agredd to the wrong thing earlier. Hope I didn't add to your confusion! Good Luck for tomorrow x

all the best for tomorrow teehee!

will have everything crosses for ya! you will be fine x

Oh this brings back memories of when my dad used to take me out. Not a good idea, screaming, crying, shouting - and that was just him

You are doing so well by attempting this even though you don't really want to drive so think positive and it does get easier with time and practice.

I used to tie myself up in knots anytime I had to drive after I passed my test but after a while it becomes second nature and you can enjoy it and the freedom it gives you.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow - eat bananas (that was the advice I was given when I did my test) xx

Bananas?????? lolol I have one ready to munch!

we did go out. To Mcdonalds. I drove, he sat there moaning about his gummy mouth.....he still managed to eat a double whopper and a mcChicken sarnie though!!!!! Then I did 1 paralelle park, one reverse round a corner and a very difficult turn in the road... It was fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine.

i'm also hoping I dont break my nails!

Good Luck for tomorrow. Be thinking of you.